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#1 bakesgirls

Posted 17 November 2012 - 10:48 AM

We have so many vents about MIL's here, I thought it was about time there was a thread about wonderful MIL's.

So, if you have an awesome MIL, tell us about her.

My MIL is one of my best friends. I can tell her anything. She's kind, she loves all of us, she doesn't interfere or undermine me in any way at all. She gives great advice, she's just a wonderful person who treats me with respect and I feel is always on my side. Even if she has ever had thoughts about how I parent my kids, she has never made them known. She rings sometimes just to see how I am and have a chat with me. From the day I first met her she has always welcomed me into her home. She tells me how much she loves me like I was her own daughter.

Basically, I respect and love her and she is the same towards me.

I could talk about her more, but this post would be too long.

If you have a MIL that you think is great and would like to acknowlege, then feel free to post original.gif

#2 bikingbubs

Posted 17 November 2012 - 10:54 AM

I love mine. She  has made me welcome into her family since the day I met her.  She is a wonderful grandparent as well and respects our choices we make as parents but we also allow her the freedom to make her own decision on things when my DS is there as well...we trust her 100%!
We would really be lost without her!  wub.gif

#3 la di dah

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:03 AM

I love my mother-in-law. She's very honest-to-blunt, but incredibly generous and loving. I am so, so lucky to have her because, really 9000 miles away from my family I'd feel so much lonelier if DH's mum was terrible or hated me.

She freakin' signed my visa saying she'd be on the hook, for gosh's sake! She let me live in her house for several months! ohmy.gif

I'm so lucky because while she's nothing like my own mother - who I am very close to, as well - I love both.

Oh and she made my DH and he's lovely. original.gif

#4 bakesgirls

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:06 AM

QUOTE (la di dah @ 17/11/2012, 11:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh and she made my DH and he's lovely. original.gif


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I can't believe I forgot that important detail!

#5 ilovejellybean

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:11 AM

My mother in law looks after my daughter two days a week, so it makes it affordable for me to go back to work. She never complains, is always considerate of how I raise my daughter and will double check things with me if she thinks I might not like that for my daughter. I love her she is the best, I even call her mum.

#6 PurpleNess

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:11 AM

Yep I have a fab MIL, she's caring but very non invasive & totally respects us a couple etc. She did have a bit of a MIL melt down when DS was about 4 months old, felt she wasn't seeing him enough etc but we sorted that out very quickly, it was out of character & all if fine now.

When DS was born I had issues BFing & she did a massive shop for us & cooked etc but was never in our faces, it was so wonderful.

She was a single mum for many years & I think she's so happy & relieved her sons have found woman who love them & can take care of them like she used to lol.

We are having a family Christmas at her place this year - a first & my mum is coming too, can't wait...I must tell her how much she means to me.

Oh yes she also did a fab job raising Dh, he's such a keeper.

#7 niggles

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:19 AM

She's worth bottling. I've never known someone quite like her. She shows her love in the most practical terms. She thinks of what I need before I know I even need it. I love her very much.

#8 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 17 November 2012 - 11:21 AM

My MIL is generally pretty awesome, however since having DS she has become really overbearing and a nightmare, we've actually just had a massive fight, but have sorted it out. I credit the sorting it out with the extremely close and honest relationship we had before DS was born.

She really is a lovely person and I am hoping her and I can enjoy the close relationship we once shared.

#9 bakesgirls

Posted 17 November 2012 - 12:33 PM

Even though not many people have posted so far, it's really nice to hear some positive MIL stories. It's a lovely change original.gif

#10 Superman+4sisters

Posted 17 November 2012 - 12:42 PM

(cut & paste from the other thread, today's a busy day!)

My MIL is an angel. Her attitude is that if she's available to help out, she will. She has been taking one dd to dancing for the last few months as I can't get home in time from work to get her there, and she has stepped in when my Family Day Carer had to cancel some mornings that co-incided with ds's preschool.

I try very hard not to ask things of her as I know she's extremely busy. But whenever she does she does it with grace and generosity. I hope my children take after her. (She did a pretty good job with her ds too  )

#11 jtsmith83

Posted 17 November 2012 - 12:42 PM

My MIL is one of the most incredible women I have ever met.  She is kind and caring, but totally honest and calls a spade,  a spade. You always know where you stand and she loves my kids to bits.  She right up there with my own Mumsy original.gif

Edited by jtsmith83, 17 November 2012 - 12:43 PM.


#12 jo-v

Posted 17 November 2012 - 12:43 PM

I love mine too, it's a shame she lives in the UK and we don't get to see her very often. She's done loads for us over the years and with both my parents gone I love that the kids have a grandparent who loves them as much as we do. She's someone I can text cute pics and funny comments too without boring the whole world on fb, lol.

I'm sure I'd have some petty vents if she lived closer but it would still be nice to be able to see more of her.



#13 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 17 November 2012 - 03:41 PM

I have awesome inlaws (not just MIL, they are all great), they have always been there for us when we need help, she treats me as one of the family, I have never felt left out or ignored by her or anyone in DHs family, she loves her grandchildren, takes them out on little outings, DS1 has sleep overs with her occasionally (I would miss my little ones too much right now to let them have a sleep over, but eventually she will have them too). It is just what his family is like, they are there for eachother, they open their arms to everyone who joins the family, one of my BILs recently moved in with his partner, and he was also welcomed with open arms by all of us, I swear I have picked the best god damn guy in the world, his entire family is amazing, and I know just how damn lucky I am to be apart of it.

#14 Bart.

Posted 17 November 2012 - 03:48 PM

My MIL is lovely, too.  We can talk for ages on the phone and have a good giggle over things.  She's better than my mum at providing support and she never forces it on us, which I appreciate.

She wasn't a great mother and admits to it (and my DH has issues because of it) but she's an excellent MIL and Nan.

#15 Oriental lily

Posted 17 November 2012 - 03:58 PM

Yes I have a wonderful mil.

She is a great mother to her six children and a great grandmother to her seven grandchildren. Over the last four years she has been incredibly strong. First suppoting and then dealing the tragic loss of her son to a brain tumour at the age of 35. Then in the last two years fighting and hopefully beating an aggressive form of breast cancer.

She s also a teacher who works it a specialist school. She makes an amazing difference in the lives of those children.

Even when she is incredibly busy and stressed she still made time to tutor my eldest dd in her school work.

We regularly get together for coffee and a chat. My DH is very close to his parents. Their home is just an extension of our homes.

I can honestly say in the 14 years I have been with DH his mum and I have never had a bad word. Sure there ave been times that I have been slightly annoyed with her but nothing massive and nothing worth exchanging heated words with.

I guess I am very lucky with mt pil.

I get along just as well with my fil.


#16 Grobanite

Posted 17 November 2012 - 04:08 PM

QUOTE
My MIL is one of my best friends. I can tell her anything. She's kind, she loves all of us, she doesn't interfere or undermine me in any way at all. She gives great advice, she's just a wonderful person who treats me with respect and I feel is always on my side. Even if she has ever had thoughts about how I parent my kids, she has never made them known. She rings sometimes just to see how I am and have a chat with me. From the day I first met her she has always welcomed me into her home. She tells me how much she loves me like I was her own daughter
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Wow I hope this is the type of MIL I will be one day.



#17 JustBeige

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:37 PM

I am very very lucky with my MIL.    We had a very small issue with boundaries when we were first together and then when we had kids, but that was sorted very quickly.

DH and I have an ongoing joke that if we split up our respective parents would probably 'see' each other behind our backs as they all get along like that have known each other for 40years.  Actually my MIL goes and visits my mum and stays for a couple of days so they can have some girly time. lol, especially when FIL is driving her nuts (newly retired).

After seeing some of the PILs that some of my friends have had to deal with - from the outright nasty to just not involved nor do they want to be - I know I (we ) are lucky that our parents are fairly well adjusted with a minimum of insecurities and are happy we are adults and are happy for us to live our lives as we see fit.


ETA: I would love to see a study done on "Nasty/Meddling MILs" just to see if they fit into any patterns/demographics.   I have to wonder at the seeming increase in NPD that we seem to read about here and how much of that is because of their abusive / unhappy upbringing or relationships

Edited by JustBeige, 17 November 2012 - 06:39 PM.


#18 LookMumNoHands

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:49 PM

I have a wonderful, kind, gentle, generous, loving MIL  biggrin.gif .
DH is the eldest of 4 boys, and MIL has embraced me as the daughter she never had.
We have a lot in common (both crafty people) and she loves to shout me weekends away to craft retreats.
There is absolutely nothing I would change about her, she's perfect  wub.gif

#19 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:56 PM

Mine is great. We are two very different people but is has never been a problem. She adores DS and I make a big effort to fly down with DS to see her (and FIL) as often as possible because it is lovely to see how much pleasure he gives her.

#20 Belu

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:58 PM

I love my MIL. She's just awesome in every way!

#21 MadamDivine

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:08 PM

My MIL is a awesome lady!!

She welcomed me and my children with open arms and treats the girls like her other grandkids.

Much better then my exMIL

#22 IShallWearMidnight

Posted 17 November 2012 - 09:22 PM

my mil and i grew close before she passed away, but never 'clicked'
DH jokes that his MILs are great: respect our parenting (and parent in the same way) support us (have DD for a 'nana day' once a week, came and cleaned the house while we were away nursing MIL, often drop by with shopping "here love, bread was on special' etc)
I hope im that sort of MIL

#23 Ice Queen

Posted 17 November 2012 - 09:33 PM

My MIl is great.  A very kind, caring person who never judges, never says anything bad about anyone and has always welcomed me with open arms since I started seeing my DH.  She is a great Nanny and my DD just loves her to bits. DS is a bit clingy to me but she is about the only other person he can cope being left with.  She really helped me out of some tight spots recently when my kids were sick and I couldnt believe how lucky I was to have uch a good support system.

Although she has terrible taste is kids clothes and has bought my kids some really really bad outfits.....small price to pay  tongue.gif .  I can live with the odd Dora tshirt!

#24 MitchNme

Posted 17 November 2012 - 09:38 PM

My MIL is amazing! I live in Melbourne and all my family are in QLD so she has become my 'mum' down here. I am much closer to her then I am my own mother. She welcomed me from word go and has never judged me or my way of parenting.

My ex (her son) and I split 2.5yrs ago and nothing at all changed between me and MIL (and the rest of my IL's for that matter). I still take DS over there every thursday night for a sleep over then she looks after him on friday while Im at work. We go shopping together, meet for coffee etc. We talk about anything and everything, and having her support after the break up was invaluable since I had none of my own family here for support. Her and my FIL helped me out with a lawn mower and fridge when I moved into a new place after separating from their son and still help me out financially if I ever need it. My BIL's ring every now and then to see if anything needs doing around the house. They look after me as though Im still part of their family. My ex may have become an ex, but my IL's will never become ex-IL's!

#25 bakesgirls

Posted 17 November 2012 - 09:57 PM

These stories are all so lovely! Every one of them has been a pleasure to read original.gif Such a nice change from the usual MIL discussions.

Edited by bakesgirls, 17 November 2012 - 09:58 PM.





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