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#1 Feral Borgia

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:45 AM

So this is a MIL anti-vent, but feel I need to redress the balance! My MIL came to stay last weekend (she's regional NSW we are in Sydney) .....

On Saturday DH took DS to swimming and I was schlepping around in my pjs still deciding what to do (and once resolved on something didn't do it)..I told her to relax and read some magazines ....so she, in WANTON DISREGARD of my previous order to sit around and relax: ironed all of DH's shirts for the week (I don't iron.ever), swept the leaves off our patio and pruned the lemon tree. She also, at some point (I don't know when) cleaned out my entire linen closet! I hadn't looked in it since last week (did I mention I'm not much of a house keeper?) and seriously it looks like Martha Stewart has exploded in there ...every towel, every sheet folded to within an inch of their life, even the fitted sheets!!!

And..she even shared what I am sure is an old wives tale..but the baby is constipated poor thing, she said to sprinkle a little bit of sugar on his puréed pear....and it worked! He's much happier now.

So MIL...thank you  bbighug.gif

A grateful DIL

#2 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:49 AM

Very nice original.gif

Although I do enjoy a morning read about crazy sh*t MILs get up to (or FILs for that matter).



#3 chat

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:50 AM

She sounds like my  mum :-)

Edited by chat, 17 November 2012 - 06:51 AM.


#4 Apageintime

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:51 AM

That's lovely. My MIL is great as well, I'm blessed to have in my life. she treats me like one of her own and I had no idea a woman could be as fabulous as she is.

Yay for having family that love us.

#5 MrsLexiK

Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:56 AM

Nawww your MIL sounds like mine. She is wonderful. I have had the odd clash with my FIL but I just bite my tongue and tell my DH. My mum liked her MIL as well. I know there are some crazy people out there but I don't think all the MIL vents on here are the MIL's fault 100% I am sure the DIL's play a part. I also think in some cases these MIL's brought up your DH, most people get a few things from their parents original.gif of course this is not in all cases as I know people with crazy MIL's and FIL's whose children are nothing like them.

#6 Superman+4sisters

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:05 AM

My MIL is an angel. Her attitude is that if she's available to help out, she will. She has been taking one dd to dancing for the last few months as I can't get home in time from work  to get her there, and she has stepped in when my Family Day Carer had to cancel some mornings that co-incided with ds's preschool.

I try very hard not to ask things of her as I know she's extremely busy. But whenever she does she does it with grace and generosity. I hope my children take after her. (She did a pretty good job with her ds too hheart.gif )

#7 DreamFeralisations

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:17 AM

I have a neighbour like that.

Currently I am in two minds about telling her we are going away for the evening - on one hand, she may come in here and tidy up and clean - but on the other hand, she may come in here and tidy up and clean...

#8 TopsyTurvy

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:21 AM

I also love my MIL.

Caring and thinks I am a great mother and wife.

I definately won in the MIL lotto.

Mind you I wouldn't mind if she came over and did chores too!

#9 Cath42

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:27 AM

I love this thread! It's so nice to hear some positive comments about mothers-in-law.  original.gif

#10 happygurl06

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:28 AM

I have a great MIL.  She put up with an interfering MIL so will always wait to be asked for help.  When we do ask she helps with no complaint.

Yes, she is flabbergasted that I don't iron and thinks babies should be popped in the cot to fall asleep on their own crying or no crying but she always respects how we operate and never tries to do things her way.

I respect her opinion and we can have great talks about our different parenting styles.  Offers advice but never gets cranky if I decide to carry on with what I think is right.  

I respect her and vice versa.

I'm lucky.



#11 twilightangel

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:29 AM

My MIL has very kindly stayed here for an extra 2 weeks longer than her scheduled holiday to watch my 4 older children so I could stay with my baby in hospital. Its appreciated so much. I will be forever thankful for her help.

#12 Juju38

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:31 AM

My MIL (well at least she would be if the blasted laws would change and allow me to marry my DP!) is amazing too. After reading all the recent vents, I feel truly blessed.

I have had the worst flu this week with raging high BP as a result and my MIL has stayed with us all week.  Not only has she attended to my DS' every need, she has cooked, cleaned, swept the backyard...the list goes on and on.  I don't know what I would have done without her.

So to all the lovely, boundary respecting MILs out there....THANK YOU!!

#13 Lil Chickens

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:41 AM

Yay for good MILs.  Mine is great too.  She also helps with the kids as much as possible and will always fold a bit of washing or wash some dishes if she is here and they aren't done.  (As a result I try to hids it so she doesn't think I expect her to do it).

I used to feel uncomfortable about it and think she was judging me and 'doing it better' then I realised that's my issue not heres - she is just really helpful and loving.

#14 elmo_mum

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:42 AM

my mil is ALSO evil

here are some examples...

*comes over and does the dishes (while fil feeds the dogs)

*gets up extra early to make me a bday cake to take to work (she made dh brownies for his work and forgot about my cake)

* takes me and ds shopping

* asks for nothing in return

she has done loads more evil things to me as well

hahahahaha

#15 Bunsen the feral

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:51 AM

Mine stole my children on Thursday and won't give them back until tomorrow; she's about my favourite person on the whole planet about now  tongue.gif

#16 Feral Borgia

Posted 17 November 2012 - 07:53 AM

QUOTE (elmo_mum @ 17/11/2012, 08:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
my mil is ALSO evil

here are some examples...

*comes over and does the dishes (while fil feeds the dogs)

*gets up extra early to make me a bday cake to take to work (she made dh brownies for his work and forgot about my cake)

* takes me and ds shopping

* asks for nothing in return

she has done loads more evil things to me as well

hahahahaha

Ha! EVIL!!!!! Mine didn't really ask for anything in return, just some cuddles from her two grand sons....fair enough I guess!

#17 knittingkitten

Posted 17 November 2012 - 08:05 AM

Both my inlaws are EVIL.

They force us to eat their cooking when they come to MY house and then sleep over to control my children EVERY Wednesday. And they force my children to go to their swimming EVERY week.
Not only that they silently do my washing and sweep my backyard. Honestly!
And I won't even tell you what they do to my dishwasher!

tongue.gif
The other parents at DD's school tell me how lucky I am and I just smile smugly sweetly....
(And she takes my remote and forces me to watch Martin Clunes type guff....but I can cope with that!)

#18 Kat255

Posted 17 November 2012 - 08:05 AM

The thing I love about my MIL is that she has so much grace.

I remember her coming to stay shortly after I had returned to work. I really enjoyed the few hours I had each morning with DS. It was our special time, when DH was asleep and the house was quiet. I selfishly didn't want her spoil it, but eventually decided that her time to spend with her (only) grandson that she only gets to see for a few days 3-4 times a year trumped my time with him.
I needn't have worried. Although she was up early, she seemed to sense that DS and I were busy, and sat reading her book like a wall flower. When I went to get changed she engaged DS in playing with her and by the time I left for work the two were having a great time.

We differ on several ideas of raising kids, but while she'll let me know, I never feel she is imposing her way as the 'only' way of doing things. And I never feel she gets in the way when she comes to stay. I really wish she could stay more often (she has her own Mum who needs full time care to look after, so can't get down as often as either of us would like).

DH's MIL on the other hand! Most recently told my brother than since we have two cars, and he won't have access to his from mid-December, he should borrow one over Christmas to drive the three hours north, so he has a car for his holiday. Said brother rang DH to 'inform of his plans'. Not to ask to borrow the car, just to inform us he will be using it over that time.

#19 MinkyMonkey

Posted 17 November 2012 - 08:13 AM

I love my MIL too, she is such a generous, caring person.




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