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#1 Jan01

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:35 PM

What is your opinion on loud electronic games and iphone apps at cafes and restaurants?

Recently DH and I were having lunch at a busy cafe (all the tables were full so you don't get to choose where to sit), next to us was a table where 4 adults and 3 children (about 4,6 and 8 years old) were sat who all had either a gameboy style toy or was playing on an iphone with the adults talking amongst themselves. I'd like to preface by saying we don't have any issue with noisy talkative or cranky children (kids will be kids, especially small babies/children) and I'm the first to smile or chat to inquisitive kids sitting next to me. What was distracting was the very loud electronic noise coming from their 'toys' with one toy repeatedly saying in an loud (louder than conversational tone) American voice "choice b, WELL DONE YOUR RIGHT and play a tune" while another played a constant song as a background to some sort of game. It was so loud it was attracting looks from staff and patrons, who were to polite/awkward to say anything. If it was just a rhyme being played to a baby a few time etc to distract them I don't think I would have noticed but this went on until we left.

My question is do you agree with the sound being on toys like this in restaurants (especially for extended time periods) and do you think children of the above ages are old enough to have it explained to them to play the games with sound off so that it isn't to noisy for everyone?

* Please no nasty comments this is just fluff, we weren't outraged and didn't say anything, just deterred from staying for another coffee and a chat because of the noise and asked the question to ourselves when we left*

#2 EsmeLennox

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:37 PM

If I am out I much prefer my kids to be occupied by a game than annoying the sh*t out of me or other diners. That said, I make them take earphones or turn volume down so that is not also annoying.

It's the modern coloring in and it keeps them occupied a whole hell of a lot longer.

Mind you, I wouldn't have been so polite as to not say anything, I would have just asked them very nicely to turn their games down.

Edited by Jemstar, 16 November 2012 - 07:38 PM.

#3 nellieb

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:37 PM

In a cafe? No problem.

#4 laridae

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:40 PM

Headphones or sound off.  Sounds from those games can be very annoying!

#5 Jan01

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:42 PM

Yeah Jemstar I actually have no issue with electronic toys in general, I think they are great and are the modern equivalent of blocks or a colouring in book. At a low volume it wouldn't be any different than a convo, its when its really loud/ or there is a few playing at once.

#6 2bundles

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:42 PM

I would never let my kids have the volume up in a cafe. They either take headphones or turn the volume off.

#7 msro82

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:43 PM

I think it is rude if headphones are not used. DD is allowed to use my old iPhone, but as soon as she unplugs the earphones I take it off her.

Same on planes.

#8 tothebeach

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:45 PM

I think it is rude if headphones are not used

I agree.  And the same goes for the bus, aeroplanes and anywhere else where patrons may be trying to get along with their own thing in a public space.

And don't get me started on people who believe that headphones are bad for kids hearing but are happy for the rest of us to listen to the wiggles at top volume so that both their children can share one screen in a plane at 11pm at night.  And yes, that really happened.

#9 Isolabella

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:46 PM

Headphones are used by my kids.

#10 LynnyP

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:48 PM

We turn the sound off.  If the game needs sound, it can't be played.  We want to interact as well.

#11 CherrySunday

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:50 PM

I think they are fine, but would have just asked they they turn down the volume.
DD has my old iPhone when we stop to eat or I feed DS, and if the sounds is too loud, I ask her to turn it down, usually she does.

Honestly though, I'm more bothered by the sound of whingy kids who just want to get up & play than I am by music or games.

#12 iwanttosleepin

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:52 PM

either sound down very low or headphones.  I love my kids ipods but I don't want to hear them!!

#13 Lazycow

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:52 PM

My kids using electronic toys, as long as they use headphones or have the sound off.
I would much rather they played on them, than run round the place because they're bored.

Having said that, it p*sses me off when kids have the sound up loud and all you can hear is feckin angry birds! biggrin.gif

#14 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:53 PM

We take an iPad for him, we make him turn the sound down or wear ear phones....

#15 JustMum08

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:55 PM

If i'm out and DS has the Ipod or similar I make sure he is wearing headphones or the volume is turned down so we don't annoy those around us.

#16 Therese

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:56 PM

Headphones or sound off here too. The other people around us don't need to hear the annoying noises from some of the apps and games.

#17 mychubbybubbies

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:56 PM

I've never had it happen to me before and we eat out a fair bit original.gif

#18 i-candi

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:57 PM

QUOTE (LynnyP @ 16/11/2012, 08:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
We turn the sound off.  If the game needs sound, it can't be played.  We want to interact as well.

Same. I don't let the kids have earphones. DS does have good quality sound reducing gaming headphones for his computer though - it's in a public area and I got sick of listening to his games.

Although I was on a flight recently trying to sleep with earplugs and all I could hear was the kid behind teaching his dad how to play a Spiderman game !!!!! arrrggg that voice travelled. I was on a shopping/short holiday with a friend and needed sleep between countries!!!!!!!!

Edited by i-candi, 16 November 2012 - 07:58 PM.

#19 BadCat

Posted 16 November 2012 - 07:59 PM

They drive me bananas, sound or no sound.

Edited by BadCat, 16 November 2012 - 07:59 PM.

#20 jayskette

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:01 PM

I had this scenario in the public library. That was so much worse than a cafe. I didn't have the nerve to say anything so I moved to the other side of the library...

#21 Queen Bey

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:03 PM

I would have said something, how annoying. Can't believe the parents were so oblivious to the noise the games were making and not considerate of others at all.

#22 canuckmel

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:08 PM

Better the toy than the kid running around sh*tting everyone else off.

That said, headphones or sound off. Please.

#23 CG123

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:13 PM

I was at the doctors a while back and had to put up with two kids playing LOUD games on iphones. So annoying!!!

Glad I was only there for my glucose challenge test and not actually sick original.gif
Probably would have said something if I was feeling crappy!

#24 Justaduck

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:20 PM

I personally wonder how we got by before electronic games. Gameboys were around when I was young but I never had one. I can't ever duck into the shops without seeing kids being pushed around in their strollers playing on the tablet or ipad.

Like PPs have said, if being used headphones or on mute please!

#25 skylark

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:23 PM

I am a total crackpot old bat about this issue - I don't allow our son to play games on phone or ipad or whatever when we are at a cafe or restaurant. I basically think if your child is incapable of sitting quietly or participating at a shared meal without a device then they shouldn't be there. Very harsh, but I managed to go out to restaurants as a kid with my 3 siblings, and behave, without any electronic devices around, so I don't see a need for them now. So yes, I think the noise from games and whatnot in a cafe or restaurant is pretty rude and annoying.  Don't even get me started on going out for a family meal with teenage nieces and nephews just sitting there texting throughout and never so much as looking up from their devices.

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