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#1 misse10

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:13 PM

What was the biggest shock/surprise you got in that first week you were a mum?  

For me, I was stunned that babies can take an hour to breastfeed and you have to start again practically as soon as you've finished!

What about you? ohmy.gif)

Please add your post and vent!!

Edited by misse10, 16 November 2012 - 07:33 PM.


#2 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:16 PM

Lack of sleep. His and mine. That expression "sleep like a baby"? What the hell is it supposed to mean? Take an hour to settle, sleep for 15 minutes then wake screaming only to do it all again in an hours time...?

#3 Flaxen

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:19 PM

Sleep here too.
I was up every hour in the first month, (she did only feed for 7 mins at a time though! reflux   cry1.gif )

#4 mumma_ox

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:20 PM

original.gif loved the PPs comment!

Biggest shock for me was the overwhelmingness of all the emotions.  I wasn't geared up to deal with the scope of changes in how I felt in the first week.

#5 busymum01

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:20 PM

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Lack of sleep
Absolutely - I didn't get why I did all the right things and put this baby in his bassinette and he why wouldn't he go to sleep!?

Oh and the nasty surprise of post-natal bleeding - this totally slipped my mind/brain and with the first baby I seriously thought I was dying.  ph34r.gif

#6 B.feral3

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:20 PM

How long it was going to take to recover after the vaginal birth of my first baby. 12 months physically, longer emotionally.

#7 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:23 PM

I had a pretty cruisy baby but while I was fully prepared for several awakenings a night, I did not realise that babies don't go straight back to sleep after a feed. The re-settling was a surprise, especially by the time they went back to sleep it would be time for the next feed.

#8 Crap Napper

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:23 PM

How CONSTANT and permanent being a new mum is. I remember feeding DS at 2am when he was about 8 weeks old, thinking OMG, this is it. Forever.

#9 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:26 PM

Was the uncertainty and the constant second guessing myself. Everything physically I could handle. Next time I'm going to trust myself more, not compare to others and not listen to other peoples "advice" when I feel it would be a detriment to my child.

#10 busymum01

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:28 PM

QUOTE
How CONSTANT and permanent being a new mum is. I remember feeding DS at 2am when he was about 8 weeks old, thinking OMG, this is it. Forever.


So true Schnitzelvonkrum, I recall my MIL saying to me 'enjoy it, it goes so fast, before you know it they're at school' and me thinking this.is.never.going.to.end.  You parent 24/7 rain,hail,shine,happy,sad and sick. Now mine are all at school and I say to my sister 'enjoy it, it goes so fast, before you know it they'll be at school....'.

#11 Percoriel

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:29 PM

My boobs. They suddenly became like Dolly Parton's literally in a matter of hours when my milk came in. So bizarre!!



#12 AnnBB

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:29 PM

I was shocked by the fact I had hideous night sweats in the weeks after having DD. I had no idea that that could happen with your hormones going crazy. Apparently quite normal, but I had no idea!

#13 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:30 PM

QUOTE (Percoriel @ 16/11/2012, 02:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My boobs. They suddenly became like Dolly Parton's literally in a matter of hours when my milk came in. So bizarre!!

Isn't that a good thing?! I missed out on that...breast fed both boys but barely went up a cup size!

#14 LookMumNoHands

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:30 PM

How scary it was to do a wee or poo while stitches healed!

#15 beaglebaby

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:31 PM

That they let me walk out of the hospital with a small helpless baby and no instruction manual!!

#16 Oriental lily

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:36 PM

How hard it was to get a newborn to attach to a breast ( especially with a severe tongue tie that took over a week to diagnose).

Also the massive deflated ballon that also resembles  a skin apron that was once my abdomen.

And the stretch marks.oh wow the stretch marks.

#17 BabeBlossom

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:37 PM

How often babies need to breastfeed, it honestly think it took me a few days to feed her often enough as it never occurred to me if she was crying 2 hours after a feed it was probably because she was hungry again. The midwives at the hospital never said anything either and they were constantly looking at her feeding chart. Still feel guilty about that...

#18 LookMumNoHands

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:38 PM

QUOTE (beaglebaby @ 16/11/2012, 02:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That they let me walk out of the hospital with a small helpless baby and no instruction manual!!

LMAO!!!

#19 Natttmumm

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:38 PM

That a newborn can vomit so much and still put on weight.

#20 FeralProudSwahili

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:38 PM

The level of tiredness. Nothing could have prepared me for that.

#21 Marty McFly

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:40 PM

I felt mentally prepared for the baby, what I was shocked about was the amount of physical pain that I was in. My crotch, my boobs, my head. It was constant for a good 4 weeks.

#22 Sambambino

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:42 PM

Soo this is waaaay TMI but you did ask.

I was horrified or actually terrified after the birth of DS1. I was in hospital on Day 2  when a huge red lump (bigger than a tennis ball) of what I thought was flesh came 'out' when I went to the ladies.

I thought my uterus was disintegrating and coming out in chunks  sad.gif

I buzzed the nurse and sat there in horror imagining all kinds of awful. It turns out it was a blood clot and completely normal.

I really wish someone had have told me to expect this as I honestly was terrified and really worried.


#23 Fluster

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:44 PM

QUOTE (BabeBlossom @ 16/11/2012, 01:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How often babies need to breastfeed, it honestly think it took me a few days to feed her often enough as it never occurred to me if she was crying 2 hours after a feed it was probably because she was hungry again. The midwives at the hospital never said anything either and they were constantly looking at her feeding chart. Still feel guilty about that...


It didn't dawn on me that the reason my son was crying whenever I put him down was because he was cold.  It wasn't until the midwife visited me at home and told me he needed another layer that he stopped needing to be clutched against my chest.  Oops.

#24 Guest_zeus359_*

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:46 PM

OP, the opposite to you. That it only took a few minutes to breastfeed. I was told that it takes ages to breastfeed a baby, that definitely wasn't true for me.

#25 WinterIsComing

Posted 16 November 2012 - 01:46 PM

The fact that after exhausting 2 day labour and a ceasarean, with like a couple of hours sleep in between, I didn't get to properly rest for several months after. I really didn't get to sleep for more than 3 hours at a stretch until recently. He is 9 months now.

I think if I ever have another, and have a sheduled ceasar, the entire thing will be much much easier  biggrin.gif  At least I will start without that horrific sleep debt!

I will also try and enjoy every second of it, I already gaze wistfully at DS' newborn pictures. I should have savoured all those tiny limbs and milk smelling skin instead of wishing time away!




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