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#1 InsertAwesomeHere

Posted 16 November 2012 - 10:51 AM

Just curious if you had a TAB at your wedding how much was the TAB and how many people was it for?

#2 MGB

Posted 16 November 2012 - 10:53 AM

Ours was about $1600 for 90 people. Beer, wine and soft drink and juice only.

#3 Moo point

Posted 16 November 2012 - 10:58 AM

Ours was $1000 for 68 people, with beer, wine (incl sparkling) and softdrink only. We paid by the bottle for wine ($15 each) and the tab ran out after about 4.5 hours. This was with some people not drinking at all, and some drinking lots original.gif People then just bought their own, they were happy with this.

#4 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 16 November 2012 - 10:59 AM

Had a vision of weding guests watching a horse race. Actually when DH and his best man were driving to the churchfor our wedding they had to stop at the pub so BM could put a bet on. With regards to bar tab, I honestly can't remember (25 years ago) in fact the whole day is pretty much a blur.

#5 MrsDamonSalvatore

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:02 AM

we didnt have a tab at all, but my mum purchased a bottle of red and white wine for every table. people were happ with this original.gif

#6 WibbleWobble

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:07 AM

I think ours was $800 for about 60ish people (we ended up with money back!), it included beer, wine, spirits and soft drink. We had our reception at a venue that allowed us to pre purchase our spirits and wine from a bottle shop which they then served, so the bar covered everything else that we had not already purchased.
It worked out much cheaper than what we expected as most people drank spirits so a lot of the tab was for the mixers.

#7 InsertAwesomeHere

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:10 AM

We are having a wedding with 44 people (8 are children who obviously wouldn't drink). Many people will have to drive. The guy from our most likely place of choice said he would advise a tab of around $800 for that many people but the 4 hr package ends up only $200 more than that so I wasn't sure whether it's worth paying the extra or just going with a tab. I think only half the people will drink too as they have to drive.

I wonder if they would allow us to provide our own bottles like PP's said. Bottle of red, white and bubbly for toasting on each table.

#8 anna banana2

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:15 AM

We just had our wedding reception a few weeks ago at a cocktail lounge in Melbourne and the bar tab was $2800 for 49 people.  I would say that maybe 1/2 to 2/3 of the guests are heavy drinkers.  The drinks menu was pretty extensive - we had the tab open to beers under $10 per glass/bottle, wines (including sparkling) under $15 per glass, liquers under $12 per glass, and open to soft drinks, juice, sparkling water and tea/coffee.  Originally we thought we would be spending $5k on the drinks so the tab at the end of the night was a great surprise bonus.  The tab was open from 6pm to 1am, but I would say that most people had gone by around 11pm or midnight.

The venue gave us an option for a drinks package which was $120 per person for the time we wanted - so happy that we didn't opt for that!   I have heard repeatedly that having a tab is almost certainly less expensive than a drinks package.

#9 gemgirl

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:20 AM

About 80 guests an we put $2000 on the bar, with the intention to probably up it, depending on the time. We only spent $1000! So... we didn't need to up it and got money back original.gif

#10 emlis22

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:22 AM

I just went to a wedding where the bar was $15 per person, per hour. I think it was something like $15k on grog. Let's just say the bar was well used...

#11 Feralmummacat

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:39 AM

We had budgeted about $1500 for 65 people. In the end we spent $1400. This included spirits, but no shoots or doubles were allowed. DH was the first of his mates to get married and they were big spirit drinkers (to drunken excess) so I wanted to make sure they were not too messy too early.

My advice even after you have paid the tab don't talk about it to family. MIL made a huge scene at the BBQ the day after our wedding about the tab. We had just returned from paying it and MIL asked what it was and DH told her. She started yelling in front of everyone that it was all my family drinking red wine. The tab was full of spirits from the mates and DH didn't even set her straight (divorce nearly the day after the wedding). She didn't even pay a cent for the wedding or offer to pay for anything so I don't even know why she cared, it was DH and I that paid for it all.

#12 PurpleNess

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:41 AM

Ours was around $1800 for 120 people & that was just beer, soft & juice, we supplied the wine we sourced wholesale. This charge included corkage on all wine too.
We actually had an open tab & just paid the venue at the end of the night.
It was a fab night :-)

#13 Leah Maree

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:46 AM

60 people, we budgeted for around $1000 beer wine soft drinks and juice. only spent $500

#14 countrychic29

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:55 AM

We had beer, wine, soft drinks included in per head price.
But then had a small tab for grandfathers and DH to have scotch this started with a few hundred...my dad was enjoying himself and kept upping the tab and buying people drinks it ended up at about $3K!!! we had 70 people most were feeling under the weather the next day.

#15 tothebeach

Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:58 AM

20 people lunchtime wedding.  We spent about $2000 on drinks in the end.  We were very surprised - but it was a hatted Sydney restaurant and it was as a result of the price of the wine, rather than the amount that people drank.  We had selected a red, white and bubbly to be served but the venue ended up allowing people to order what they want so more than we expected.  Still, it was a lovely day so we didn't mind.

Edited by tothebeach, 16 November 2012 - 12:01 PM.

#16 Chelsea86

Posted 30 November 2012 - 06:47 PM

Ours was $1200 for 52 people... I think it was pretty much all used up - might have had $50 at the end of the night - but a lot of people were buying their own spirits - so wonder if we would have run out if those people got the beer or wine off the tab instead

#17 2xmum

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:27 PM

I sincerely wish we had done a tab or chosen the drinks package. We got the shock of our life when at 11.55pm we were handed a bar bill for over $7000 on our wedding day..... We had budgetted about $2000.

That was for approx 100 people, not all of whom drank alcohol and no spirits.  What we hadn't accounted for was the way it was served - you took a sip and they topped up your glass, put your glass down, turn around for 30 seconds and it's gone again so you go and get yourself another glass... and so on.  I'm sure half of it was thrown down the sink in half drunk glasses that wait staff had picked up continuously.

#18 Ally'smum

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:35 PM

We had an open bar for 100 people, but I asked the venue to let us know when it hit $2000 so we had an idea of how much it would be. I think we reached that amount at 9pm, then it stopped at 11pm and I think that was another $1000.

So glad we went for an open bar rather than a drinks package as this way people were able to have spirits which wouldn't have been in the package and it was still cheaper.

#19 GreenEgg

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:44 PM

60 ppl lunch time wedding 2 whites, 2 reds sparkling tea coffee soft drink and juice $1500. Expected to pay more so was happy with that.

#20 au*lit

Posted 30 November 2012 - 08:05 PM

We didn't have a tab (as in a limited amount, after which people have to pay for their own) but paid by consumption. Like the PPs we'd been repeatedly advised that this was the cheaper way to do it. I think packages are only cheaper if you know you have a really boozy crowd.

We had beer, wine and soft drinks, with several choices of beer (light, mid-strength, local & imported) two reds, two whites and a sparkling. Anyone who wanted spirits could pay for them at the bar but I don't know that many people did, except for BIL buying me a shooter late in the evening when I said I wasn't even tipsy.

I can't remember how much it came to in the end, but it was definitely less than what we would have paid for a package.

#21 au*lit

Posted 30 November 2012 - 08:07 PM

QUOTE (tothebeach @ 16/11/2012, 09:58 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
20 people lunchtime wedding.  We spent about $2000 on drinks in the end.  We were very surprised - but it was a hatted Sydney restaurant and it was as a result of the price of the wine, rather than the amount that people drank.  We had selected a red, white and bubbly to be served but the venue ended up allowing people to order what they want so more than we expected.  Still, it was a lovely day so we didn't mind.

That would seriously annoy me. I'd be negotiating a reduced bill if they served wines more expensive than what you'd agree to pay for.

#22 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 01 December 2012 - 05:24 PM

QUOTE (InsertAwesomeHere @ 16/11/2012, 12:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I wonder if they would allow us to provide our own bottles like PP's said. Bottle of red, white and bubbly for toasting on each table.

Our venue is unlicensed, but we pay for bar staff and supply the alcohol and we're all good original.gif

We are having around 60 adult guests...

So far I have 2 dozen bottles of red, 2 dozen bottles of white, 1 dozen moscato, 2 dozen sparkling

Then we'll get 10 cases of beer and then soft drink, water and juice.

All up under $1000 and I suspect we'll end up with a fair bit left over!

#23 Shellby

Posted 01 December 2012 - 06:02 PM

Mine was 12 years ago and I think it came to about $1500 for 65 people. We had beer, wine (by the bottle not glass, they walked around offering it to people), toasting wine and softdrink.

It also included whatever the bridal table wanted (so top line spirits), however I know DH told our hairdresser friend who did all the BMs hair for free that she could order spirits and I think by the end of the night all the young ones (under 25) found if they asked the bar just served it as they didn't know who could and couldn't have shots and spirits - so I think that drove the price up.

Most people were gone by 11pm I think anyway (we left by 10:30pm ourselves) and the young ones were being dragged home by then also which is why I think they got spirits and shots on the tab, and by being dragged home they stopped adding to the bar.

#24 Jekaho

Posted 01 December 2012 - 06:12 PM

We had a tab at our wedding six years ago. It was an afternoon cocktail reception, 3-6pm. There were 200 guests give or take, but something like 35-40% of them were underage.

I can't remember exactly but initially we had $1000 on the tab, with instruction for the manager to let my parents know when it was getting close to that, so they could decided if they wanted to put more on. I think they did, like another $200 as it was not too far from 6pm.

Soft drinks were included in the package, so the tab was purely alcohol, but not spirits.

#25 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 01 December 2012 - 08:50 PM

One of our close friends has a business doing wedding videos and he warned us and said don't provide spirits, only beer and wine. He said he's seen way too many wedding get out of hand because of it!

For a couple of the bridal party we'll give them hip flasks with their drink of choice as DF himself doesn't drink beer, only bourbon.

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