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#1 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:28 PM

Hubby and I have been using a sperm donor for a year now - we've had success twice but I lost the bubs due to ectopic pregnancies.

Is anyone else using a sperm donor?  I'd love a buddy to talk too.



#2 FaithHopeLove

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:59 PM

I am using an id release donor as i am (hoping to be) a single mum by choice... quite different but if you want to chat let me know.

#3 emsh

Posted 16 November 2012 - 09:56 AM

QUOTE (brookstar @ 15/11/2012, 04:28 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hubby and I have been using a sperm donor for a year now - we've had success twice but I lost the bubs due to ectopic pregnancies.

Is anyone else using a sperm donor? I'd love a buddy to talk too.



Hey did you find a doner? where do you go to get a doner? all new to me ... unsure.gif

#4 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 16 November 2012 - 02:13 PM

FaithHopeLove - I'm in awe of you. Do you follow the bumpyroadtobubba blog? Great read.

Emsh - Hubby's brother is our donor. The clinic I'm with strongly recommend family as donors - lots of counselling involved but we got approved. Otherwise there are other clinics that have donors listed or will import from int'l sperm banks around the world. Where are you based in Australia?



#5 Cuddlesnkisses

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:26 PM

Hi, I'm using a donor. I was originally using a donor I found myself but after a few miscarriages decided to go to a clinic.  I'm now in the middle of an IVF cycle and will be using donor sperm from an international clinic.

Single mum to a DD, at 38 I don't have time to twiddle my thumbs and wait for Mr Right.

#6 mr89906

Posted 18 November 2012 - 06:41 PM

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Edited by mr89906, 07 June 2013 - 08:08 PM.


#7 Cuddlesnkisses

Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:11 PM

If your going to go through a fertility clinic, find one that has donor sperm or there is a site called DIY baby where you can find donors.  there are other sites but DIY has a strict AI only policy.


#8 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 23 November 2012 - 01:43 PM

I hate this waiting game.

AM I PG?

AM I NOT PG?

AM I PG?

1 X Crystal Ball is needed ASAP.



#9 cme

Posted 26 November 2012 - 05:39 PM

Bookstar we meet again.

I think I'll post here, now that we're back to waiting rather than being in an active cycle.

For the others, we just found out that we need a sperm donor and are currently weighing up the pros and cons. There are no obvious family members for us to go to so it will be a friend of anon.

emsh I'm with IVF Australia and they have their own donor list as well as using OS donors.

#10 FaithHopeLove

Posted 29 November 2012 - 06:50 AM

QUOTE (brookstar @ 16/11/2012, 03:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
FaithHopeLove - I'm in awe of you. Do you follow the bumpyroadtobubba blog? Great read.

Emsh - Hubby's brother is our donor. The clinic I'm with strongly recommend family as donors - lots of counselling involved but we got approved. Otherwise there are other clinics that have donors listed or will import from int'l sperm banks around the world. Where are you based in Australia?


I see you got your bfp! fx its a sticky. thanks for the tip on the blog!

QUOTE (mr89906 @ 18/11/2012, 07:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've been meaning to look into donor sperm in the next few years if mr right doesn't show up. Where do I start?? How do you go about it? Etc... Any info most appreciated....


I was lucky enough to get into a public program however they have almost run out of sperm. 2 more tries for me after this cycle and i will need to go private. you might want to check out the solo mums by choice forum - there is a section for 'thinkers' like yourself and lots of helpful information.

#11 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 29 November 2012 - 08:22 AM

I used a known sperm donor and after a mc I now have a nearly 1 month old DS.

I just want to wish all of you good luck and I really hope all your dreams come true in 2013.

Brookstar - a huge congrats to you. I'm so excited you got your BFP and can't wait to hear all about your pregnancy original.gif

#12 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 29 November 2012 - 10:24 AM

Thanks Puff. You know my pregnancies are never a walk in the park .... more like a rollercoaster ride that ends badly.

I'm currently waiting for the hospital to call me with today's hCG results.



#13 FaithHopeLove

Posted 30 November 2012 - 08:42 AM

Praying you get a good result brookstar.

#14 embracingIVF

Posted 06 December 2012 - 11:39 AM

we used a sperm donor for pergnancy number2
managed to get bio child through ivf for child number 1
anyone else been in this boat with one child bio and one donor sibling?
love to hear stories and 22 weeks preg with number 2
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congratulations brookstar! i remember reading your story and am so happy to see your news x

#15 Mumma2furrykids

Posted 06 December 2012 - 11:47 AM

embracing IVF - congrats on bubba #2. When are you due?
Did you use a known or anon donor?



#16 embracingIVF

Posted 07 December 2012 - 08:32 AM

hubby was more comfy with anon so this is the way we went
found someone from the US who had a big file of info/a picture and a letter to the child (that made me cry) he was doing it for the right reasons
was such a leap to go this way after having number 1 through IVF
but the IVf just would not work second time (and was killing me in the process- body collapsing) and the longing for the second child was very strong for us all
sa la vie
hooray to non traditional contemporary families!!

i hope your levels are beautiful and the journey is sweet and carefree
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#17 braisie

Posted 21 December 2012 - 09:45 AM

Hi I am new to the site so forgive me if I am not up with the Lingo  unsure.gif

I am currently doing IUI with an unknown sperm donor.  I have just finished my first cycle???? and now have to wait two weeks to find out if we are lucky enough to get pregnant.

I look forward to hearing and sharing our stories and I would love any tips and tricks anyone has from their experiences.

#18 AngelWingz

Posted 28 December 2012 - 09:39 PM

Hi Ladies

I have just joined this site and came across this thread.  My story... I'm 41, single and after concentrating too long on career, travelling and finding Mr Right, I've decided I can't put motherhood off any longer original.gif  I'll be going through a donor programme in the new year and would love to meet some awesome people on here to share our journey original.gif

Edited by AngelWingz, 28 December 2012 - 10:18 PM.


#19 braisie

Posted 29 December 2012 - 05:06 PM

Hi angel wings I am also new here.  I am currently waiting to find out if my 1st IUI with a donor was successful. Will be testing around the 2nd of Jan. the waiting is the hardest part. Have you had appointments with a clinic yet?

#20 mollo

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:32 PM

Hi all, i've just recently started the process of Sperm Donation to get pregnant.  I'm 33 this year and doing it all alone.  I have my first appointment with the FS @ Melb IVF on Monday.  I am a tad overweight and have PCOS - however i don't have any of the "normal" side effects of PCOS so i'm hoping that it wont interfere with getting pregnant.

The closer i get to my appointment the more clucky i'm starting to become.  I hope it all goes smoothly.

Will let you know how i go further down the track.

Good luck to all.

#21 FaithHopeLove

Posted 31 January 2013 - 12:43 PM

Sorry to see your news brookstar.

How did you go braisie?

I hve pcos too mollo but fairly regular cycles (26-29 days).

Angelwingz i am also a (hopeful) SMC - How are you going?

I am in tge 2ww of cycle 4. had iui last wednesday and my last two cyckez have been on fsh to try and get twi eggs to increase my chances. this cycle only one was looking big enough but fx it was a good one!

Edited by FaithHopeLove, 31 January 2013 - 12:55 PM.


#22 AngelWingz

Posted 11 February 2013 - 10:41 PM

Hi original.gif

I also would love to chat to others in a similar boat.  I have wonderful, supportive friends, however it would be great get to know others on the same path as me.

Sorry Braisie, haven't been on this site for a bit.  Haven't had my appointment as yet - I'm heading to my first fertility seminar this week and I am really excited original.gif  How did you go with yours?

FaithHopeLove - how are you going?


Edited by AngelWingz, 11 February 2013 - 10:53 PM.


#23 AngelWingz

Posted 13 February 2013 - 10:09 PM

Hope everyone is well original.gif

Thought I would give an update on the donor seminar I attended this week.  Spoke with a lovely doctor who said he would recommend I go with IVF rather than IUI due to my age.  I was a little bummed about that at first, but now I kind of understand.  My heart sank a little when he said I only had 3% chance of conceiving through IUI and 7% chance with IVF.

So... now to really think things through.  Oh, it's so much to think about. Argh!!!

Edited by AngelWingz, 13 February 2013 - 10:44 PM.


#24 FaithHopeLove

Posted 18 February 2013 - 07:01 PM

Dont be too disheartened angelwingz - a young healthy couple only has a 20% chance each time they ttc and hopefully you will be one of the ones who gets it first go! I had another negative cycle. because i am on fertility drugs i have to have a break between cycles so due for my next iui in march. its all a waiting game really!

#25 AngelWingz

Posted 18 February 2013 - 09:45 PM

Thanks FaithHopeLove.

Sorry to hear about your negative.  Good luck for March - it's not too far away.  This journey will be well worth it in the end when you are holding your precious bundle of joy  biggrin.gif


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