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#1 (feral)epg

Posted 15 November 2012 - 01:38 PM

Did anyone have a name picked out, then have the baby and take one look at him/ her and go "oh no, she's definitely not a Lucy" (or whatever) and change plans?

Is it worth having a plan B (and C and D) in case the name just doesn't suit?

#2 Neko NoNo

Posted 15 November 2012 - 02:06 PM

not quite your scenario, but DP chickened out on our chosen name for DS, so we had to go back to the drawing board. We still had our lists so that helped but it took 6 days for him to be named. I still wish we had gone with our original name but DP is content

#3 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 15 November 2012 - 02:12 PM

We had two nanes for DD and she definitely was one name and not the other.

I personally think it's worth having a backup.

#4 la di dah

Posted 15 November 2012 - 03:20 PM

I don't think any baby looks like any name more than any other name.  ph34r.gif [/Childless Hag™]

#5 bandbub

Posted 15 November 2012 - 03:26 PM

YEP throughout my pregnancy i had a name picked out but when dd was born i couldnt name her it took a few days to find the right name i think its good to have back ups

#6 lynneyours

Posted 15 November 2012 - 03:31 PM

Yes, DD2 was going to be one name and then she came out and it just felt wrong. We had a list of 5 with 3 serious contenders for each.

#7 Jenferal

Posted 15 November 2012 - 03:36 PM

We had 2 to choose from and once she was born and on my chest we both said she wasn't a Sarah.
I think it's good to have 2 or 3 to choose from just in case.

#8 BabeBlossom

Posted 15 November 2012 - 03:40 PM

Yep happened with DD we tossed around a girls name in the beginning then liked another better and settled on that. DD arrived and looked nothing like I had expected DH and I looked at each other and decided she perfectly suited the original name instead so went with that.

#9 Bel Rowley

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:27 PM

No, names were set in stone both times (1 for boy and 1 for girl that is).

#10 Ianthe

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:29 PM

Yep. Sorry to people that have read this story before. My third son we chose the name Elijah. He was born and it was just completely wrong.He then ended up nameless for 2 days and with a name that we hadn't even considered.

#11 Kwyjibo

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:30 PM

QUOTE (Bel Rowley @ 15/11/2012, 02:27 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No, names were set in stone both times (1 for boy and 1 for girl that is).

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#12 bakesgirls

Posted 15 November 2012 - 04:47 PM

DD3 was going to be named Isabel Louise, then we saw her and she didn't look like an Isabel. We ended up naming her Georgia Emily.

#13 B.feral3

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:03 PM

Yes, I think so.

DH and I have really dark hair and to our incredible surprise, I gave birth to 2 red heads and a blondy!!

The name we picked for DS1 (Roman) I don't think suited a boy with pale skin and red hair!!! I am glad we went with another name.  original.gif

Edited by Bek+3, 15 November 2012 - 05:04 PM.


#14 Starletta

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:08 PM

Yep, our daughter was supposed to be Madeleine, I took one look at her and said no. It took another two hours before we decided.

#15 deedee15

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:11 PM

QUOTE (bakesgirls @ 15/11/2012, 04:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DD3 was going to be named Isabel Louise, then we saw her and she didn't look like an Isabel. We ended up naming her Georgia Emily.

Something similar happened with our DS, when he was he didn't look like any of the names we had on our list, took about two days before we settled on one which we thought was right.

We had two possible names for DD, it was strange that when she came out we "knew" which was the right name for her.

#16 Fright bat

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:12 PM

QUOTE (la di dah @ 15/11/2012, 04:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think any baby looks like any name more than any other name.  ph34r.gif [/Childless Hag™]


That's what i thought. And then DS2 did not suit the name we had chosen at all. It's hard to describe what I mean by that, it's just we called him that, and shook our heads and went 'nah'. So we went with another name we had chosen and it just fit better.

#17 fringe82

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:21 PM


Number 4 was going to be Xander but when he was born it just didnt suit him- he was then had no name for 2 days while we tried to find something - we went back to my short list of names DH said no too- just took us him 2 days to decide on which one out of the 3 he liked

#18 abbyminnie

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:29 PM

Yes, we had narrowed it down to 3 names for DD2 and only decided on her name when we saw her.. original.gif  she didn't really 'look' like the other 2 names we had..

#19 MrsLexiK

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:42 PM

QUOTE (la di dah @ 15/11/2012, 04:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think any baby looks like any name more than any other name.  ph34r.gif [/Childless Hag™]

Yeah I don't get it either.

#20 jks91

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:44 PM

QUOTE (epg @ 15/11/2012, 11:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Did anyone have a name picked out, then have the baby and take one look at him/ her and go "oh no, she's definitely not a Lucy" (or whatever) and change plans?

Is it worth having a plan B (and C and D) in case the name just doesn't suit?


When I was born my mum wanted to change the name she had picked out all though her pregnancy to Lucy.  Only problem was dad had already run off and put it in the newspaper as the original name.  Mum was devastated, she was already a stressed out first time mum with raging hormonal changes, apparently she cried for 3 hours over this.  

She now says that I am in no way shape or form a 'Lucy'.

#21 sparkles30

Posted 15 November 2012 - 05:51 PM

I don't think you can know at birth whether a baby is a "Sarah" or a "Beatrix", but maybe a few months/years down the track it becomes clearer. By then the bubs has grown into its name anyway and made it their own. A back up is good in case you change your mind about the name once bubs is born but I don't think you really need to change because they don't suit the name.

#22 Broxie

Posted 15 November 2012 - 06:01 PM

DS was named after my 20 week ultrasound when I found out he was a boy. He was then referred to by that name for the rest of my pregnancy.

#23 little lion

Posted 15 November 2012 - 06:03 PM

QUOTE (la di dah @ 15/11/2012, 03:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think any baby looks like any name more than any other name.  ph34r.gif [/Childless Hag™]


I thought that too until it came time to name our son. I also used to think all newborns looked the same!  ph34r.gif

#24 casime

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:18 AM

I'd had a few choices throughout the pregnancy, but in the last couple of weeks I'd pretty much decided upon his name.  When he was born and saw what he looked like, I changed my mind to one that I had liked earlier in the pregnancy, but thought I'd discarded as he just seemed to suit that one name more than the one I'd thought I'd settled on.  Now I'm really glad that I did.

#25 fun_fairz

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:34 AM

First time we had a name picked out and that was it but it never felt right to me. I figured it was because babies just look like babies and no one name suits more than another. Or they will grow into it and he did.

Second time around we had two we could not choose between. One hubby liked better and one i did. When bub was born hubby said, oh it's xyz, which is the one I had been leaning towards, but I couldn't use it as I had been expecting a small, petite, dark haired dark eyed child and the name xyz conjured images of that child, i had imagined my 2nd would look like the first. But they could not have been more different, my 2nd was massive with bright blue eyes and mops of blonde hair, so he got the other name on the list.

So yes I do think it happens and for me it was because my 2nd child looked nothing like what I was expecting so the name association was way off.




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