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#1 Domestic Goddess

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:05 PM

WHY is it that every year I walk past the Kmart "Wishing" Tree and the Target "Tag a Toy" Tree, I see big loads of presents for the girls, but hardly any for the boys (and elderly)????

It's bad enough that the boys have less choice of clothes, shoes, toys, etc, but now the less privileged of all, have to end up playing with girls toys. No harm in that ofcourse, but why the discrimination? What makes people buy for girls and not for boys???

I can't afford a "bought" present for my own son due to some financial difficulties that I ran into recently. However, he will be getting some hand made gifts from me and I have been sewing a few sock monkeys and making cute money boxes to donate to these charity runs, and have added tags to them that say: for BOYS ONLY.

Please think about the boys AND the elderly when buying gifts for these kind of Christmas charity drives. Or if you don't have a preference and can afford it, consider buying 1 small gift for each category.

*Steps off soap box and waits for people to wholeheartedly disagree*

#2 jayskette

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:11 PM

add my vent! Spent 10 years buying books and craft sets etc for the Kmart tree and one year I heard from a worker associated with the scheme that they THROW AWAY the books because too many books are donated and not enough toys and sports equipment, and NOBODY in the recipients list are interested in books whatsoever! *sigh* it just confirms education is not highly valued in those communities.

#3 Bob-the-skull

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:14 PM

QUOTE (jayskette @ 14/11/2012, 05:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
add my vent! Spent 10 years buying books and craft sets etc for the Kmart tree and one year I heard from a worker associated with the scheme that they THROW AWAY the books because too many books are donated and not enough toys and sports equipment, and NOBODY in the recipients list are interested in books whatsoever! *sigh* it just confirms education is not highly valued in those communities.


what a load of crock... i know so many kids who would prefer a book under the tree than nothing!

#4 Domestic Goddess

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:15 PM

jayskette they should just add what toys are appropriate and what are not, on the tags.
Unfortunately, books should never be seen as inappropriate.

BUT it isn't charity that chooses what toy goes to what kid. I remember going along with a friend of mine to drive her to the Salvos and pick up her presents.
There were 2 rooms packed full of toys, sorted according to age. The parents were the ones who were allowed to choose 1 item per table. There was a table with books, but at the end of the day, most toys were gone but the books were all still there.

So it is the parents greediness and ignorance that makes books "unwanted" by charities sad.gif


#5 Feral Becky

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:19 PM

This is why I am doing the City Farmers Wishing Tree for dogs in the shelters.

#6 Bedge

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:26 PM

Our local Rotary tree is awesome. They gather gifts for the old and young, with little discriptions of the person who will be receiving the gift, and sometimes a gift suggestion.

#7 jayskette

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:27 PM

QUOTE (-*meh*- @ 14/11/2012, 05:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what a load of crock... i know so many kids who would prefer a book under the tree than nothing!


Perhaps I am not donating to the right places?  sad.gif

QUOTE (-*meh*- @ 14/11/2012, 05:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
what a load of crock... i know so many kids who would prefer a book under the tree than nothing!


Perhaps I am not donating to the right places?  sad.gif

#8 Monket

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:32 PM

QUOTE (jayskette @ 14/11/2012, 05:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
add my vent! Spent 10 years buying books and craft sets etc for the Kmart tree and one year I heard from a worker associated with the scheme that they THROW AWAY the books because too many books are donated and not enough toys and sports equipment, and NOBODY in the recipients list are interested in books whatsoever! *sigh* it just confirms education is not highly valued in those communities.


That may have been true in her circumstances but it is certainly not the norm and I would suggest that her organisation could have found a better home for the books.  I used to work for an organisation that was the recipient of a target tree and the gifts were all distributed to worthy recipients.

OP, most trees have tags with gender and age as they generally have recipients for all the pressies.  I will make an effort to specifically choose a boy tag this year and buy something fabulously boyish!  I will PM you.

#9 Carabosse

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:36 PM

QUOTE (jayskette @ 14/11/2012, 06:11 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
add my vent! Spent 10 years buying books and craft sets etc for the Kmart tree and one year I heard from a worker associated with the scheme that they THROW AWAY the books because too many books are donated and not enough toys and sports equipment, and NOBODY in the recipients list are interested in books whatsoever! *sigh* it just confirms education is not highly valued in those communities.


What they might mean is they 'throw' them away or give to the salvos AFTER Christmas. i saw a report on one of these tree schemes last year and they didn't hand on your wrapped gift, your gift is unwrapped and sorted into a warehouse and the recipient goes and selects what gifts they want to receive themselves or give to their children. This could explain why they have so many books left. Seeing how the gifts were selected put me off a bit.

(I do understand they also have to unwrap the gifts to check the suitability)

I usually give whatever gifts I have in the present box that I have not given out throughout the year.

Edited by Carabosse, 14 November 2012 - 05:41 PM.


#10 Lauren Bell

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:38 PM

That is really terrible ;-( As I was reading this I was thinking what can I donate.. I was thinking a book would be good. These people definitely shouldn't be picky about what they get.

#11 Bob-the-skull

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:39 PM

try donating to the smith family... they have a learning for life program where their scholarship kids get xmas gifts and they always have a focus on learning biggrin.gif

#12 HIH.GD.Isolabella

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:42 PM

Our school is doing a giving tree.

DS1 didn't quite understand as " everybody gets gifts from Santa".

We then had to make it out that they would not be getting extra presents from extended family (as only Santa brings presents in our house).



#13 #YKG

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:45 PM

Op I think it depends on the Kmart tree in my area last year all the boy tags were gone and only girls were left and there was a lot of transformer, cars, bob the builder, footys etc and very few girl toys.

TBH on the occassion I do the tree when I have the money I just grab whatever tag is closets and don't look at whether it's a boy or girl till I get to the toy section.

#14 Missy Shelby

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:47 PM

All I know is that if I was in a position where I could not buy Christmas presents for my kids, I know that I would be grateful and very much appreciative of any gift (toys or books) that were given to my kids.

#15 Lady Grey-Mare

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:50 PM

QUOTE (QueenB.PrincessC @ 14/11/2012, 06:38 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
That is really terrible ;-( As I was reading this I was thinking what can I donate.. I was thinking a book would be good. These people definitely shouldn't be picky about what they get.


Don't forget it is not the "picky" parent who is getting the gift but a child. Be honest, would you have preferred a book or something like a soccer ball or something you could actually play with your siblings and friends when you were a child.


Some suggestions: a ball or sporting equipment, cheap board games, water pistols.

#16 Lauren Bell

Posted 14 November 2012 - 05:54 PM

If I got nothing else, and only received a book, I'd be happy with something, but yes I'm sure these kids want "toys" to play with.
<3

#17 iheartu

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:09 PM

DH & I dont have a lot of money but we always try and spend even just $20 on a gift for the wishing tree.

I usually try to pick something for a teen or an elderly person because there are always LOTS of toys for the under 12s but not much for the older ones.

#18 Domestic Goddess

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:18 PM

Our Kmart tree doesn't have tags for boys or girls. They just have tags where you can tick a box for the group you have bought for ie: Mother, father, grandmother, grandfather, boy, girl.

I think they also accept hand made toys and so that is why I am doing my best in making hand made gifts. Anything is better than nothing. A motto that I have had to live by for the last year and it is true

Edited by Domestic Goddess, 14 November 2012 - 06:20 PM.


#19 RCTP

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:23 PM

I always get for a boy (but have only been here for two Christmases so far).
I choose an age appropriate toy that I imagine I would have picked for my own son if he had lived. It breaks my heart but I am glad to be able to do it for a little boy somewhere.

#20 MuminMtEliza

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:43 PM

I pick a tag which reflects my kids ages - DS 6 and DD 1, so when I am buying their gifts, I just double-up on one of their gifts - I gather if I have thought about the gift enough for my own child, then hopefully it is equally suitable for the recipients. I do however try not to get toys which require batteries as these get quite expensive to replace the batteries all the time.


#21 Cat Burglar

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:46 PM

I dont think that there really are or should be 'boys' and 'girls' toys anyway. But the OP makes a good point that you can buy something like a jigsaw, lego etc that boys wouldnt feel silly about

#22 cira

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:50 PM

Why can't they give out the books as an extra pressie if they are otherwise leftover? I'm sure parents would be happy to give a toy AND a book.

#23 CFMummy

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:51 PM

I got something from the salvation army last year and would have prefered books than what we got given (not ungratfull but the girls just wernt interested in it).

#24 chicken_bits

Posted 14 November 2012 - 06:52 PM

QUOTE (Old Grey Mare @ 14/11/2012, 06:50 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Don't forget it is not the "picky" parent who is getting the gift but a child. Be honest, would you have preferred a book or something like a soccer ball or something you could actually play with your siblings and friends when you were a child.


Some suggestions: a ball or sporting equipment, cheap board games, water pistols.


Ooooh, I don't know about that. Although my kid is still young, she would go for a book over a toy. Given the choice at home now, she tends to go for books first. Maybe she's a weird kid?

#25 Chill-Pill

Posted 14 November 2012 - 07:00 PM

Not all charities do things in the same way. Through our work the presents are selected by staff and not families and we usually provide one toy or other age appropriate gift and one book. We always have way too many toys for babies toddlers and girls and very few things for boys or teens. We would be lucky to get a handful of presents for any adults in the home so most miss out sadly. I always try to donate for teen boys because I know there is never enough gifts and simple things like cinema vouchers, a wallet with $10 or a nice looking hat are always a big hit. Actually cameras and fishing rods have also been a big hit and soccer balls. Usually if any presents come in for teen boys it is deodorant packs and although they are great it is a little practical and probably better for a dad gift than for a young person.




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