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#1 bree18

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:02 PM

Hi
I think I just need to tell someone what's happening for me. We went for our 7 week scan today and I could tell almost straight away that something was not right. The embryo is measuring a week behind and the heart rate was very low at 86. This pregnancy was IVF and my IVF doctor called me this afternoon to tell me it is very unlikely that this pregnancy will continue and gave me my options for another scan, D&C, natural miscarriage etc. She suggested waiting 10 days until another ultrasound but we are going away next week for a week so I have two choices;
Have an ultrasound early next week and D&C the day before we leave if there is no heart beat
Wait until either I miscarry naturally or have an ultrasound when I get back from my holiday. I really don't want to miscarry while I am away so I'm thinking if Ultrasound early next week.
I don't know if I even have a question to ask. I suppose what have others done in similar circumstances. It's horrible waiting for a pregnancy to end. Last embryo transfer I had an early miscarriage at almost 5 weeks after knowing that my hcg was low and dropping. WTF did it have to happen again? But this time it's worse.

Edited by bree18, 30 November 2012 - 06:29 AM.


#2 RexIsBest

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:13 PM

I'm sorry you are going through this.
I went through a similar thing a few weeks ago and ended up miscarrying naturally. I had a few extra blood tests after the first ultrasound which showed hcg rising but nowhere near doubling, so I was really just waiting for it to end. I never made it to the next ultrasound as I miscarried a few days before I was supposed to go - also suggested to be 10 days after the first one.
I'm sorry that doesn't really answer your question, but in the end I'm glad it all happened without much intervention. But I never had to factor in going away ...




#3 kell-pea

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:15 PM

So sorry to hear your news.

I waited a week for miscarriage to happen and I hated it, the waiting really got to me. I called my ob and requested a D&C. I had a scan the day prior to the D&C just to double check. I was 11weeks and had 2sacs.

I felt once I had the D&C , that I could move forward. The waiting just made me feel like I was going around in circles/marking time. I hated not knowing what to expect, not knowing when etc.

For me the D&C was not to bad (and I hate hospitals/needles), in & out within the afternoon, no pain afterwards & very light bleeding that had stopped by lunch time the following day.

Goodluck & big hugs

#4 jaylo

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:18 PM

I'm sorry to hear that may be happening to you, I know how devastating it feels.

I would want to know before I went on holiday.

Wishing you all the best

#5 jaylo

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:21 PM

I'm sorry to hear that may be happening to you, I know how devastating it feels.

I would want to know before I went on holiday.

Wishing you all the best

#6 minidiamond

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:23 PM

Hi bree, I am so sorry this is happening it's truly horrible.  I don't want to get your hopes up at all as I don't have any knowledge of positive stories from people in your situation, but you just never know what mother nature has in store for you in the next week, don't totally give up hope until you know for sure.

I had a similar situation where I went away not knowing & it's awful, however I was due back the day before the follow up u/s.

I would suggest you do the u/s next week - the follow ups I had for both my m/cs were always 7 days (rather than 10) and I think that would be enough to know for sure at 8 weeks.  It wouldn't be much fun having a D&C the day before you go away but probably the lesser of two heartaches if you were to miscarry while away.  As emotionally painful as it is, I found the D&C was the start of recovery for me.

Big hugs to you, it's so hard to go through the emotional roller coaster of IVF and then for this to be happening.

Edited by Liltuss, 13 November 2012 - 07:24 PM.


#7 mandala

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:25 PM

I'm very sorry sad.gif It's not fair at all.

In my case, I had a D&C, but that was because it was a missed miscarriage that showed no sign of going naturally. Honestly, I couldn't have waited. I wanted it gone as soon as possible. And in your situation, I probably would be tempted to go for a D&C again, because I wouldn't want to have it hanging over me.

The D&C was physically fine. There was pain immediately after, but they gave me some really good pain relief and it disappeared. I was fine at home with panadol and a wheat bag, and the bleeding stopped straight away.  The emotional part of it was harder, and I was an absolute mess for a month, before becoming just a bit of a mess for about six months.

#8 Chelli

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:31 PM

I am very sorry for your loss and I hope you are surrounded with lots of love and support sad.gif

#9 bree18

Posted 14 November 2012 - 11:50 AM

Thank you everyone. I really appreciate your responses and thoughts. I spoke with my DH and we will be getting an ultrasound on Monday and then if the pregnancy has ended we will have a D&C in Tuesday. I think my anxiety would get out if control if I went away not knowing. As much as I know it won't be easy to go away, I guess at least I have a little bit of time out from 'normal' life afterwards- well as much time out as you can have with two other children to look after. According to my doctor very occasionally the baby could miraculously be ok, but the chance is so tiny I'm not holding onto any hope.

#10 bree18

Posted 30 November 2012 - 06:28 AM

So I'm still waiting to miscarry. I'm 9 and half weeks and embryo is still measuring 6 weeks 3 days so has grown maybe 3mm in 16 days but still has a a very low heartbeat. There really is no hope of it being an ongoing pregnancy but for some reason it is still there. It's very hard waiting and I was booked in for a D&C today thinking that there would be no heartbeat yesterday but just couldn't go through with it after I saw the ultrasound. How long can this go on for? Does anyone have a similar experience?

#11 Lady Lovely Locks

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:24 AM

Thinking of you OP xo

#12 TheGreenSheep

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:46 AM

I'm so sorry OP. when I was miscarrying like you, the time from the first scan at 7 weeks to finally seeing no HB was 4 weeks. I was 11 weeks when I had a D&C. Emotionally it was devestating.
When I had a similar scan result during another pregnancy I waited a week. For me emotionally it was the right thing to do.

#13 TheGreenSheep

Posted 30 November 2012 - 07:46 AM

I'm so sorry OP. when I was miscarrying like you, the time from the first scan at 7 weeks to finally seeing no HB was 4 weeks. I was 11 weeks when I had a D&C. Emotionally it was devestating.
When I had a similar scan result during another pregnancy I waited a week. For me emotionally it was the right thing to do.


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