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Posted 13 November 2012 - 05:40 PM
I gave birth to my much wanted Son 8 days ago. It was a very hard pregnancy and very hard labour (we nearly lost him during labour). I had the day 2 blues whilst in hospital but afterwards was fine. We have been home for 4 days and nearly every day has ended with me in tears. I haven't cried today but have felt like it a couple of times.
I'm having some troubles breast feeding and sometimes getting bubs to sleep but other than that everything else is fine.
I was wondering is this normal and if so how long does it last?
Posted 13 November 2012 - 05:51 PM
its normal to the point of it happens in various degrees to most people
it could be the start of pnd...
can u talk to your gp/mchn and poss get a referral to speak to someone??
Posted 13 November 2012 - 05:54 PM
Congratulations on the birth of your little boy!
The first few weeks were very tough on me, even without complications. It's a big adjustment and your hormones are all over the place.
I cried at least once every day for at least the first month, but my psychologist said there wasn't anything abnormal!
Hang in there, it'll get better
Posted 13 November 2012 - 05:58 PM
Congratulations on your little man!
I remember the blues. I posted here at the time as well.
I was very lucky in that it only lasted a day or so. But as pp have said, it's different for everyone and 'normal' is a wide area.
If you can, perhaps let your GP or MCHN know so they can keep track of you.
Just remember it does pass
Posted 13 November 2012 - 06:29 PM
The blues lasted two-three weeks from memory with my first. Very teary and anxious. Started on day 3, but lifted by the end of a few weeks thanks goodness! Hope you are feeling better soon.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:10 PM
Puff, big hugs to you. Hope you are feeling better. It's normal to be emotional cos our hormones are still all over the place and you have just did something great and yet it was hard work! - carrying your precious bub and giving birth to him.
I was very hormonal and teary after my first son was born...I cried in hosp and then back home when bfg failed cos I was guilt ridden.
With this one I prepared myself mentally cos I know I would be in hosp pretty much on my own as dh has to take care of ds1 since kids can't stay overnight. But the bfg still makes me feel lousy.
Just wana say you are normal, but if you need to speak to someone, the maternal nurse will be glad to listen during her first visit at your home.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:26 PM
The first few days & weeks are hard even with all the support in the world. I felt teary & very anxious for the first 12 weeks.
Get some time out in the day for a hot shower/bath, a walk in fresh air, a cuppa tea. Talk to friends, family, early childhood nurse, GP.
It will get better! big hugs.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 01:40 AM
Hi puffs, I'm about 9w post delivery and I reckon I was very teary for about 3-4w post my bubs coming home from hospital. Things definitely have improved.
You have so much going on hormone-wise now with your body post pregnancy,not to mention that you've been on high alert throughout your pregnancy in case of early delivery. Add on top of all that, adjusting to life caring for a newborn and getting on top of breastfeeding is not easy.
I'm sure your DH is keeping an eye on you, but definitely worth discussing with your MCHN or GP.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 07:54 AM
That was me with DD1. Thinks improved at about 6 weeks when I stopped breastfeeding.
It does get better, but if you find its hanging around and seems to be something you are unable to shake, its worth speaking to your dr or MCHN nurse about to see if its anything more serious.
Hope things improve. Adjustment to motherhood is tough!
Posted 14 November 2012 - 01:31 PM
Thank you for your replies. I saw the MCN today and scored on the high side for the post natal depression test thing which really was no surprise. I am booked in to see her again next week to re do the test to see what is happening in that department.
We also worked out a plan on how to feed my baby as that was the main thing that has me in tears everyday. As soon as we made a plan I felt a huge weight lifted from me. I also got out of the house for a couple of hours which really helped.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 01:40 PM
Good on you for speaking to the MCHN. Follow it up, you need to look after yourself too.
I remember being pretty crazy on and off for about 6 weeks... lots of tears, not feeling as tho I loved him, weight gain issues, you name it.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 02:05 PM
Great! Keep us posted. We will always be here if you need a listening ear.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 02:17 PM
OP the first couple of weeks are so full on aren't they!!
Please go easy on yourself, it is a huge adjustment from being pregnant to actually having to look after the baby once it is born. Imho being pregnant is the easy part
I found that getting out and about with bubs certainly made me feel a bit more normal again and each time I went out it gave me a bit more confidence of being a mum and being able to handle different situations that may arise.
Hope that things settle down for you really soon op xxoo
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