Jump to content

Beaten up by my baby girl
14 month old


  • Please log in to reply
8 replies to this topic

#1 dogsneaker

Posted 13 November 2012 - 03:37 PM

DD also smacks, scratches and pinches. Yesterday she bit her brother twice, once on the hand and later DS told me DD bit him on his lip sad.gif  

She just bit me on the thigh. She's not broken skin but have left bruises on me.

Whenever she acts out, I put her on the floor and tell her 'no' and walk away. It doesnt seem to be working. She's a very bright child and is (mostly) pre-verbal but says, Mama, Dada, Boo (Milk)... she also says 'Iwantthat' and 'youhavethat' and 'thankyou' etc. I assume she is frustrated by her inability to clearly communicate what she wants which is fine for her age but what should I do about DS and I being beaten up everyday?

She thinks it's funny when I pretend to be sad when ever she hurts me.

(DS was a biter too but he was about 18-20 months when he started and it was easier to reason with him).


#2 mum201

Posted 13 November 2012 - 03:46 PM

Mine is 3 months younger than yours and pinches and slaps. Do you think they are actually trying to hurt at that age? I just redirect him because he doesn't seem to be doing it to hurt, and doesn't understand what I am saying anyway.

#3 Guest_- Poppy -_*

Posted 13 November 2012 - 03:49 PM

My DS started doing this at around the same age - I just wanted to cry!
He drew blood one day.

He grew out of it thank god.

#4 dogsneaker

Posted 13 November 2012 - 04:26 PM

mum201 I'm quite certain she understands that it hurts. it certainly gets a reaction.

#5 Princess.cranky.pants

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:08 PM

DD3 started biting and hair pulling at 13 months. It's still going on (but not as bad) at 2.2 years.

They do it out of frustration. And I think sometimes because they get a reaction.

DD3 bites out of frustration. It's usually happens when DD2  has something DD wants or has taken something from her.

About the only thing you can do is distraction. We say 'we do not hurt people' and remove DD. This is usually enough because she doesn't want to be taken away.

At 14 months they are so young. You just have to keep enforcing no biting and wait till they grow out of it. Don't react by being sad because that's just making a game out of it. Just say 'we do not hurt each other' and walk away.

QUOTE
Do you think they are actually trying to hurt at that age?


No. It's out of frustration or they are doing it to get the reaction. I know DD dose not bite to deliberately hurt her sisters. It's her way of showing her frustration. I don't think they understand the concept of hurting someone at 14 months.

#6 Nastyflea

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:09 PM

I don't think they have the empathy to understand that they hurt you. Yes you reacted, but they don't understand pain in relation to another person at a young age.

#7 libbylu

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:17 PM

My DS went through several stages of hurting me in various ways, starting with hair pulling (and refusing to let go) at about 14 months, followed by slapping in the face soon after.  
I don't think giving a reaction like saying 'ow' or yelling or looking sad is a good idea as the reaction will just reinforce the behaviour.  Try to keep a flat face, say 'no' and walk away and give your attention to something else.  Also encourage gentle behaviour like stroking and kissing with lots of praise and fuss.  All of this may not make a huge difference but she will grow out of it after a few months.
You usually hear of boys behaving like this so it is kind of good to hear that it happens with girls too.  I was lamenting not ever having a nice gentle girl baby, but posts like this remind me that girl babies aren't always gentle little angels!

#8 What'sNext??

Posted 13 November 2012 - 07:19 PM

My DS is only 9 months but bites frequently on purpose. If I am holding him but engaged in conversation with someone he often bites me on the shoulder.  If I talk to someone whilst I am breastfeeding he will bite me.  has drawn blood once. If his sister is in his way he will bite her.  He laughs when he is told off- it's the attention he is after and he has no concept yet of negative attention.  The only time I had a different reaction was when he bit me so hard I shrieked and put him straight on the floor with a growly "no".  He cried then. But still bites.  I don't remember any of the others biting.  I'm hoping its a phase that won't last much longer!

#9 Nastyflea

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:22 PM

I know this is considered a big no no now days, but my brother was a biter (me usually, on the head) and one day mum GENTLY bit him(basically put her open mouth on his head I think) and he never did it again.




0 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 0 guests, 0 anonymous users

 

Mum shares hilarious story about attempting shower sex

As most parents know, finding time for sex post-kids is one of life's not-so-little challenges.

16 things you'll learn on the preschool party circuit

Kids birthday parties sound fun in the abstract but the reality is they often end up an introverts worst nightmare – forced social interaction in the name of good parenting.

The 92-year-old who's a great-great-great-grandmother

A 92-year-old Canadian woman has become a great-great-great grandmother this week after the family welcomed a baby boy.

The Pramrolla mimics a walk in the park to help your baby get to sleep

Simply put the pram brake on, set the wheels on top of the Pramrolla, plug it in and off they go ... or so they think.

Beyonce shares surreal pregnancy photo shoot

Pop superstar Beyonce on Thursday released a slew of photos of herself posing pregnant and nude.

Airport staff order mum to squeeze her breasts to prove she's lactating

A Singaporean mum of two has spoken about her humiliation at the hands of German airport security guards who ordered her to prove she could breastfeed.

How to keep your baby or toddler safe at home

Child-proofing tips that will ensure your home remains a safe haven for curious toddlers and babies on the move.

Told to get rid of their dogs, this expectant couple took the sweetest photos instead

When the couple conceived their first human child they came under enormous pressure to give up their dogs.

Bereaved parents take baby home for 'family time' after death, thanks to cuddle cot

A bereaved mother has spoken about her decision to take her daughter's body home to spend time as a family before her funeral.

'Get off your phone!': the daycare note that's got people talking

A note posted by a US daycare facility has urged parents to get off their phone when collecting their children:

Babysitter's creative 'hands-free' baby carrier hack

We've all been there – you need to hold the baby, but you also need to eat.

Will these be the most on-trend baby names of 2017?

Nameberry has crunched the numbers, predicting which monikers will see a rise in 2017.

Firefighter adopts the baby he helped deliver

Five years ago firefighter Marc Hadden took an emergency call that changed his life.

Mum shares graphic image to highlight importance of rear-facing car seats for kids

A British safety blogger has shared a graphic photo of the damage a seatbelt can do in a car accident in a bid to persuade more parents to use rear-facing car seats for as long as possible with their kids.

Pharrell Williams and his wife welcome triplets

Now that's a good way to start the new year.

Turn yourself into a child's climbing gym with this wearable vest

It's such a neat idea for those living in high density apartment blocks where children may struggle to get enough physical activity.

Bugaboo unveils its new Bugaboo Bee5

The lightweight and compact Bugaboo Bee has been on the scene for a decade now.

The first few weeks of pregnancy: surreal, scary, exciting

It is okay to be worried, nervous, anxious, in love and happy all at the same time.

 
Advertisement
 

Top 5 Articles

Advertisement
 
 
 

From our network

Essential Baby & Toddler Show, presented by Blackmores

3-5 March 2017, Brisbane Convention & Exhibition Centre. Get your FREE ticket now. Save $20.

Your child's fine motor skills: what you should know

There is less of a focus on fine motor skills, but they're just as important as others. (SPONSORED)

5 ways music helps your toddler's development

There are at least five other compelling reasons to get musical around your toddler. (SPONSORED)

 

Free ticket offer

Essential Baby & Toddler Show, presented by Blackmores

3-5 March 2017, Brisbane Convention & Exhibition Centre. Get your FREE ticket now. Save $20.

 
Advertisement
 
 
Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.