Jump to content

first gyno vist basically ever
TMI questions, being a wuss

  • Please log in to reply
70 replies to this topic

#1 la di dah

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:47 PM

So anyway, being the redneck that I am, I have had 1 gyno visit in my life to date. It was pretty unpleasant, I needed painkillers after the exam. And it was only a basic exam/smear.

This was in 2008 and I haven't done it again, partially because of coverage/billing issues - no health insurance etc. etc. - and partially because I am a huge, avoidant, sobbing idiot.

But you know what? I hear that a) they're helpful for TTC and b) if I DO manage to get pregnant, probably someone will eventually want to look at, or even touch, my bits. For non-recreational purposes.

Anyway, I am scared. But what do I need to do to be ready for my visit tomorrow? I have trimmed the hedges and stuff but don't really feel like going total hairless for the first time the day before the visit because what if she's distracted with my ingrowns or whatever?

What are the done things? I don't stink or have anything graphically wrong, as far as I know, so is it fair to assume it's hard to frighten a person who does pap smears for a living?  

Can I take ibuprofen beforehand?

You can make as much fun of me as you want if you post anything helpful.

#2 Guest_zeus359_*

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:51 PM

I hate going for pap smears or anything like that too, but the reality is they really don't care as long as you are clean.

#3 Apageintime

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:55 PM

I always tell them as soon as I'm through the door that I'm a bit nervous and I haven't been in a while. I find doctors understand this and go out of their way to help me.

I had a really bad pap smear 6 years ago (Canberra is a hard place to find a decent lady doctor) and when I got up the courage to go back I told the new doc about my experience and my fears, she was so great about it.

So I think, be honest with the doc, wear your good undies (but not the super lacy ones) wet wipe 'down there' before if you feel you need a freshen up, and accept it will be awkward as hell.

I always like to remind myself that I'm sure the doc has seen way worse than my bits for a routine pap smear so she won't even remember them when she goes home that day.

#4 Therese

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:56 PM

I am sure it is incredibly hard to scare a gyno. And as long as you are clean I am sure they don't even notice anything else.

I hope your appointment goes well.

#5 Allymeg69

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:56 PM

Relax! .... I know, easier to say than to do, but consider this - a lot of gynos also do obstetrics work as well, so they will have seen a woman's nether regions in a lot worse condition than when just doing a smear.

Like the PP said, just clean is fine. I try to schedule my smear appts first thing in the morning so I can have a shower and get there while I am still fresh.

If you feel the need for a painkiller beforehand I don't see why that would be a problem, but really, a properly done smear test, even with the current method using a little brush thingy, shouldn't give significant pain, I've only ever noticed a tickling sensation, but if you tense up too much it might make things worse.

And thanks, you've just reminded me I need to book my next smear!

Good luck

#6 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:56 PM

Yep..what Zeus said....honestly, they have seen it all before.....depending on what kind of exam you think you might have take a nurofen or a naprogesic .....oh and re pregnancy: I had some (relatively) invasive stuff TTC  (a HyCoSy.. Not nice think Pap smear ON STEROIDS) but throughout my entire pregnancy I din not have one internal exam. Zip. Nada. Good luck!

Edited because my iPad keyboard hates me.....

Edited by Lucretia Borgia, 13 November 2012 - 12:58 PM.

#7 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:57 PM

You made me LOL  

Good on you for going back.  

The doctor will have seen hundreds and hundreds of them, and won't care in the slightest.  Besides they dont really look that much, they have a sheet over you and they know where they are going.  

I'd be open with the doctor that you are nervous about the exam and had some pain last time.  

FWIW I had a hycosy (a type of scan of the uterus) and they advised taking nurofen an hour before so I don't think there would be a problem.

Oh snap LB.

Edited by meggs1, 13 November 2012 - 12:59 PM.

#8 noi'mnot

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:58 PM

By all means take a painkiller beforehand, if you think it will help. There aren't any "expectations", though, apart from basic hygiene. People who look at vulvas and vaginas for a living are used to working with all lengths of hair, all shapes and sizes.

I'm sorry that your last visit was so bad. It really shouldn't be - a pap smear should not involve anything beyond minor discomfort, unless there is a medical reason for anything else*. Sometimes anxiety and stress can make it more uncomfortable because when you're tense your whole body tenses up in anticipation, making it more painful. If you are in to using relaxation techniques, these might help you to make your experience tomorrow easier. I would also recommend that you let your care provider know, as soon as you walk in the door, that your last experience was so painful and you're nervous. It's their job to make you feel relaxed and at ease and comfortable.

Good luck! original.gif

*Also, sometimes women with a history of sexual assault, or difficult pap smears in the past, or a wide variety of other reasons, find pap smears to be really uncomfortable/painful. This is really normal, and can be managed with an understanding and experienced care provider.

#9 causeway

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:58 PM

I have an IVF baby. After everything I've been through, a papsmear is a walk in the park! Maybe keep this in mind! Yes, it's uncomfortable, but only for a few minutes and the benefits certainly outweigh not having it done. Think of all the people who will want to have a look, touch, feel etc. if you needed treatment because you didn't have regular check ups. Also, (this thought helps me...) Who am I to think that my bits are so exceptional that they are going to be ingrained in the OBs mind forever?. I hope this helps. It only takes a few minutes!

#10 Sancti-mummy

Posted 13 November 2012 - 12:59 PM

I would probably mention your fears and issues up front - if you are too afraid to voice them, write down that you have had a previous bad experience and would like your fears to be put to rest before going into harness (that was a joke) - hopefully s/he has had enough training to be considerate and understanding.

#11 bakesgirls

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:00 PM

As long as you are clean, and have had a shower recently, then that's about all you need to do. No one cares about hairy legs or how your hedge is trimmed.

People do care about manky, unwashed, smelly vaginas though. You'd be suprised how many people rock up without attending to their personal hygene, you can tell they probably haven't showered for days. That person may not care, and the person doing the exam is a professional, so although they might not say anything, they will certainly be thinking it.

Besides that there's nothing to worry about, they have seen and heard everything.

ETA- tell your doctor how uncomfotable your last smear test was. It really shouldn't have been that bad. The only thing I can think of is that your doctor last time used a speculum that was too big for you. They come in different sizes, so they should be able to use one that will make it much less unpleasent for you this time.

Edited by bakesgirls, 13 November 2012 - 01:08 PM.

#12 halcyondays

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:01 PM

I read in a post by a doctor saying they appreciate you wearing your "non stinky shoes", as your feet are right near their face!
Your gynae has seen it all- explain you are a bit nervous and go from there.

#13 Floral Arrangement

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:03 PM

I always take dh. I am absolutely beside myself pre smear. I bleed easily and always end up bloated and a bit sore after I have gynaecological issues. I am not going to go to my gp this time as I feel that it is a no appointment clinic you get any doctor and then you go in and say "I need a smear" feel on the back foot from the beginning. I am going to a women's clinic that deals in sexual health and has female staff only. I am hoping this alleviates my stress level to a degree.

I just wanted to let you know that I empathise completely.

#14 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:05 PM

Ask for the smallest thingamagig that they have (very technical term I know, their proper name isn't coming to mind) for the pap smear, my gyno has them in different sizes and I as I get a little tense leading up to it he knows the best one for me would be the smallest. Make sure they know your fears so they can talk you through it and help calm you down, you can even have someone come with you or ask for the nurse to come in and hold your hand if you think it would help keep you that bit more relaxed.

#15 la di dah

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:07 PM

Thanks guys. I just wanted to make sure with the ibuprofen it wouldn't mess anything up because I really don't want to have to do it over again all that soon.

My previous time he wasn't cruel or mean about it - I don't hold a grudge -  it was just physically quite painful. I have other issues with excessive tightness down there though.

Part of this is actually asking if there's any physical reason for all that drama down there because it's unpleasant and I can't even use a tampon or the much-beloved EB Luna cup. original.gif

I know I have to go back, avoiding it will make it worse eventually. And I want to get serious about getting pregnant!

#16 premmie_29weeks

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:12 PM

It's honestly no big deal to the doctors, they have seen woman in labour in much worse shape than anything that will be seen in a regular ps. Before my kids were born I went out and got a good full leg, bikini wax and got my toes painted, vain I know given I couldn't actually see them original.gif but made me feel better that at least I was we'll groomed when everyone an his dog was going to see me in all my glory!

Seriously have a good shower beforehand...that's all they would expect.

#17 Mamabug

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:14 PM

All I'm gonna say is, if you get an unexpected fit of the nervous giggles, do not be surprised if the speculum decides to shoot out and across the room startling the doctor and rendering the whole situation rather silly and somewhat embarasing..... but I'm sure that doesn't happen to everyone..... blink.gif unsure.gif  

Oh, but I also asked a dr once what was the worst thing about doing a pap smear and she said foot odour!!!! Never really thought that they would be close to your feet as well... so don't wear smelly shoes.

#18 la di dah

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:21 PM

QUOTE (Mamabug @ 13/11/2012, 02:14 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
All I'm gonna say is, if you get an unexpected fit of the nervous giggles, do not be surprised if the speculum decides to shoot out and across the room startling the doctor and rendering the whole situation rather silly and somewhat embarasing..... but I'm sure that doesn't happen to everyone..... blink.gif unsure.gif

I cried the last time so unexpected giggles would be an upgrade.  ph34r.gif

He gave me 800 mg of ibuprofen afterwards and it still hurt so I'm not sure about this "it shouldn't hurt" business of PP's, but I like the idea.

#19 Bwok~Bwok

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:25 PM

Thanks guys. I just wanted to make sure with the ibuprofen it wouldn't mess anything up because I really don't want to have to do it over again all that soon.

My previous time he wasn't cruel or mean about it - I don't hold a grudge - it was just physically quite painful. I have other issues with excessive tightness down there though.

Part of this is actually asking if there's any physical reason for all that drama down there because it's unpleasant and I can't even use a tampon or the much-beloved EB Luna cup.

I know I have to go back, avoiding it will make it worse eventually. And I want to get serious about getting pregnant!

First off, if you are TTC stop taking Ibuprofen, it can interfere with TTC.

As for 'excessive tightness' and not being able to use Tampons etc - if it was 'excessive' - you would have problems with DH's penis. You will most probably find that you a 'clenching' without realising it. Breath and relax through it.

#20 noi'mnot

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:26 PM

It looks to me, from what you said, that you do have some kind of "thing" going on where it is going to cause pain (where you  talked about excessive tightness). I, clearly, have no idea what it's all about but it makes sense that if you have trouble with tampons then you'll have trouble with a speculum (the instrument they use to open up the vagina to see the cervix).

Relaxation techniques may work to a point, but I think that taking some ibuprofen beforehand (just tell the gyno that you took it) and having a good chat before the procedure is the best bet.

Good luck, and well done on having the guts to go ahead with it again after your last experience.

#21 bonnybabe

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:28 PM

Hi Op,

I think you should mention your fears and the pain/dryness in your vagina, that way the dr should use a little bit of lubricant or warm water on the speculum which will make it much easier.

Also, you don't need people looking at your vagina when you are pregnant unless you need an internal ultrasound (very early on to establish dates).  You can also refuse an internal exam when you are 40 weeks.  When you are in labour you won't care about them as you will be so eager to know how dilated you are.  

good luck

#22 Lokum

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:29 PM

There's an urban myth about a woman who gave herself a quick freshen up with a face washer before her appointment. Her kids had been doing craft and wiped their glittery hands on it a few minutes earlier... so she sparkled!! The dr said, 'You needn't have gone to so much trouble!'

I think it's fine to take panadol/ibuprofen before - or even have a G&T or glass of wine if that will relax you. (A GP told me this!)

Tell the doctor about your nerves and anxiety. I used to find exams horrific, and would generally cry and be over-wrought by the end. That kind of anxiety is almost guaranteed to make the procedure more painful/uncomfortable than necessary, but it's not a rational thing. Ask them to take it slowly, and certainly if you're very tight (or hyper-tense more likely) it's worth discussing in light of TTC.

It's unpleasant, but so important for your healthy future, as a child bearing woman or otherwise. Plus, the more you do it, the easier it gets.  

Nothing like a bit of IVF to reduce internal ultrasounds to merely another opportunity to discuss the football...

#23 noi'mnot

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:30 PM

QUOTE (Bwok~Bwok @ 13/11/2012, 02:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
As for 'excessive tightness' and not being able to use Tampons etc - if it was 'excessive' - you would have problems with DH's penis. You will most probably find that you a 'clenching' without realising it. Breath and relax through it.

There's a big difference between the environment when one uses a tampon or has a speculum inserted, and that whilst having sex. There may or may not be psychological or physical reasons for any one individual's "excessive tightness", and whilst breathing and relaxing through it might help for some the anxiety (and other physical issues) around a procedure such as a pap smear can make it extremely painful for some despite their best efforts. An understanding and experienced care provider is the key here, alongside not rushing with the procedure.

#24 Velvetta

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:34 PM

Why ibuprofen? It's not a relaxant, just an anti inflammatory.

I imagine a good dollop of lube would be more efficacious: the speculum will just slide in. The doctors usually use this anyway.

Maybe you could practise on yourself a few times first using something hard and plastic and try relaxing your muscles when it's going in.

Can I just add that most gynos appreciate a shampoo and blow dry and a bit of glitter gel.Brightens their day.

Edited by Velvetta, 13 November 2012 - 01:35 PM.

#25 la di dah

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:34 PM

QUOTE (Bwok~Bwok @ 13/11/2012, 02:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
First off, if you are TTC stop taking Ibuprofen, it can interfere with TTC.

As for 'excessive tightness' and not being able to use Tampons etc - if it was 'excessive' - you would have problems with DH's penis. You will most probably find that you a 'clenching' without realising it. Breath and relax through it.

I do actually.  blush.gif I like *everything else* an awful lot, but penetration itself has always been painful to sometimes impossible even with me really trying.

Good to know about the Ibuprofen but I don't actually take it all that often at this point, like once a month or so. I might make a special occasion of it tomorrow and then cold-turkey it for awhile. I think if I was less bad at intercourse things might procede naturally a bit better or at least have more chances to as it would be easier if it were funner.

1 user(s) are reading this topic

0 members, 1 guests, 0 anonymous users


Special Ticket Offer, Save $8!

The Essential Baby & Toddler Show is back this April! Save $8 off the door price for a limited time only!

Finding baby name inspiration in unusual places

Sometimes the greatest baby name ideas come from the most unexpected places, as these EB members show.

The case for inducing at 37 weeks

While we often think of pregnancy as a 40 week affair, experts agree that 37 weeks is actually “full term". So is there an argument for inducing all births at 37 weeks?

Does controlled crying really work?

Controlled-crying techniques may help some babies sleep through the night, but for many exhausted new parents, it's just a recipe for more tears all round.

How I taught my infant to use a toilet

As people become more aware of these benefits, I hope more parents will practice this method, so we can cut down on nappies and improve baby bonding.

'I thought it was impossible': Emily Symons pregnant at 45

Aussie actress Emily Symons has announced she is pregnant with her first baby.

Shallow water blackout kills fit, healthy dad

A little girl will grow up without her father after the fit and healthy 34-year-old passed away while doing something he had practised his whole life.

Afternoon naps may be bad for toddlers' sleep

You could be doing yourself a disservice by encouraging your toddler to have an afternoon nap, according to new research.

Best gifts for newborns, new mums and christenings

We've compiled a guide to some of the most popular presents for newborns and new mums, and for christenings and naming days.

Jaime King to be a mum again

Actress Jaime King is pregnant with her second child, giving 16-month-old James a sibling.

Nannies should receive government funding

The Abbott government should extend funding to nannies, and direct childcare payments to low and middle income families, a landmark study on childcare has found. 

Common skin irritations in newborns (and how to treat them)

As many as one in two newborn babies suffer from skin irritations in their first few weeks. So what are the most common rashes and irritations to look out for?

10 wall decals for the nursery or playroom

Wall decals are the answer to creating a beautiful nursery or children's space without lifting a paint brush, a spirit level or even a hammer.

Preschooler walks 2.4km home alone

Three-year-old Cain Trainor headed off home after his first day at a new preschool without telling anyone.

Video: Why mums get nothing done

In spite of being in an almost constant state of motion while looking after the kids and trying to keep things together at home, it can seem as though parents have managed to get nothing on the to-do list done by the end of the day.

The middle name game

The middle name is no longer an afterthought, and parents' inspiration comes from many places.

Have a baby or your money back - but there's a catch

A new IVF scheme offers couples the chance to fall pregnant and give birth - or get their money back. But there's more to it than you might think.

A rare glimpse inside the womb

A baby born still inside the amniotic sac gave US doctors a rare glimpse at life inside the womb.

Battered mum forced to write to her attacker ex in jail

Three years ago Jason Hughes viciously attacked his ex-partner. Now she has to write to him three times a year.

Woman pleads not guilty to ultrasound scam

A West Australian woman will fight allegations that she scammed expectant mums by selling them fake ultrasound pictures of babies.

Download now: Essential Kids Activity Finder app

Got bored kids? Quickly find the best activities for kids wherever you are in Australia with the Essential Kids app.


What's hot on EB

Brain damaged mum receives compensation

A Sydney mother who suffered brain damage when she was hit by a car while pushing her newborn baby in a pram has reached a confidential out-of-court settlement with the driver's insurance company.

Indigenous midwives break down the barriers

A culturally sensitive midwifery service has gained the trust and respect of Aboriginal women.

The Katering Show's next big delivery

Most mums-to-be plan to take things easy and perhaps have a little break from work as the birth of their baby draws near. Not Kate McCartney.

53 creative pregnancy announcements

Announcing that you're expecting can be a time to express your creativity, sense of humour and imagination. Check out how other parents and parents-to-be have broken the news to friends and family.

Why I have mixed feelings about Cindy Crawford's leaked photo

Last week an un-retouched photo of model Cindy Crawford surfaced, showing the 48-year-old mother-of -two posing in underwear.

How to create a Peppa Pig pancake

Thought your toddler could not love pancakes any more than they already do? How about if the breakfast treat came in the shape of every two-year-old's favourite cartoon character?

'It's a little life, not a little loss': pregnancy after miscarriage

I thought I was never going to be able to have a successful pregnancy. I decided that I wasn't going to form an emotional attachment with this baby.

Bonds Baby Search 2015: what you need to know

February 18 marks the start of one of the most prolific annual baby competitions in Australia: the Bonds Baby Search. And this year is going to be more special than ever.

Who will manage your Facebook account when you're gone?

This is not something that people like to talk about, but Facebook has announced that it will grant users more control over what happens to their pages after they die.

Struggling mum of four wins $188 million

Mother of four Marie Holmes was financially struggling after quitting her jobs at Walmart and McDonald's in order to care for her children.

Pregnant obese women a 'relatively new problem', coroner hears

A first-time mother whose daughter died hours after her frightening birth insists she was never told of the risks of being obese and pregnant.

'I'm angry as hell': the story behind mum's passionate vaccination plea

She has labelled parents who do not vaccinate their children "misinformed imbeciles" - and for that, she makes no apologies.

IKEA hacks for the nursery and kids' rooms

Are you one of those that know the whole IKEA catalogue by heart? Love their stuff but want to personalise it? Here's some inspiration to help you realise the potential of IKEA furniture and fittings.

8 different kinds of tantrums

I never thought I’d say this, but for a brief moment last week, Kim Kardashian and I had something in common: both our kids had public tantrums.

Polycystic ovary syndrome: symptoms, treatment and your fertility

Polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) is the most common female hormonal condition, affecting roughly one in 12 Australian women.

What's the best position for giving birth?

If doing it on your back is out, what's the best position for labour and birth?

Wife forgives snake catcher husband for car surprise

With Valentine's Day coming up, Nat Gilbert could be forgiven for thinking her husband might be planning a surprise for her.

Kids who meet milestones at their own pace

We usually only hear the success stories: tales of the two-year-old who’s talking, running and completely toilet trained. But other stories need to be told too.

Ruby shines as Bonds Baby

Sarah Kiss has a word of advice for proud mums and dads who are keen to enter their babies in this year's Bonds Baby Search Competition - just have fun.

Why dads should go to sleep school

If your family needs to go to sleep school, go with them. You are part of that family and you are part of the solution.

36 baby names inspired by food and drinks

A French court may have ruled out Nutella as a baby name, but that doesn't have to stop you from taking inspiration from the supermarket (or bottle shop). See what parents in the US have chosen for their delicious little ones.

Clever breastfeeding products

Check out this range of products designed to help make your breastfeeding journey more enjoyable, manageable and convenient.


Win a KitchenAid Mixer

Let's celebrate 300,000 fans on Facebook

To celebrate, and to thank our amazing fans, we?re giving away a KitchenAid Artisan Tilt-Head Stand Mixer.

Essential Baby and Essential Kids is the place to find parenting information and parenting support relating to conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids, maternity, family budgeting, family travel, nutrition and wellbeing, family entertainment, kids entertainment, tips for the family home, child-friendly recipes and parenting. Try our pregnancy due date calculator to determine your due date, or our ovulation calculator to predict ovulation and your fertile period. Our pregnancy week by week guide shows your baby's stages of development. Access our very active mum's discussion groups in the Essential Baby forums or the Essential Kids forums to talk to mums about conception, pregnancy, birth, babies, toddlers, kids and parenting lifestyle. Essential Baby also offers a baby names database of more than 22,000 baby names, popular baby names, boys' names, girls' names and baby names advice in our baby names forum. Essential Kids features a range of free printable worksheets for kids from preschool years through to primary school years. For the latest baby clothes, maternity clothes, maternity accessories, toddler products, kids toys and kids clothing, breastfeeding and other parenting resources, check out Essential Baby and Essential Kids.