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Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:36 AM
DD is 17 months and becoming a real little toddler, so I was wondering - what is your best toddler tip, or what do you wish you had of known coming into this phase?
Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:29 AM
My DS has just turned 18 months, so I'm also interested.
OP have you tried water play with your DD? I set my DS up outside with a big ikea plastic tub filled with water and plastic jugs, it honestly keeps him involved in independent play for about an hr, giving me an opportunity to read the paper
Also Pinkys toddler tactics is a good resource.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:34 AM
pick your battles.
get out of the house as much as possible
keep them well fed and well slept
Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:40 AM
Think about how high you think they can reach, now add another 50cms.
They have arms like an octopus when they are interested in something you don't want them to have.
Also, don't start an activity unless yopu are sure you can keep going with it for an extended period of time. Eg, a 5 minute swing ends up being 30 minutes, and having to pry them away with promises of sweets.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:54 AM
DH reminded me just on the wknd, how I would call him up complaining 'terrible 2s my a*s, it's started already" heehee.
distracting them from doing whatever is annoying/dangerous etc is a handy technique.
get down to their level to give instructions.
try not to be offended by the word No, you're going to hear it alot and in many different tones, and it's really going to p*ss you off, but it's not personal, well not when they're this age anyway lol.
a swimming lesson in the morning can be a godsend for tiring out a child on a nap strike.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:12 PM
Agree with winkywonkydonkey's comments.
We go out every morning - playgroup, park, toy library, play centre, etc, and am home every day for lunch and sleep. Morning activities wear them out.
Make sure your toddler eats well and has enough sleep.
Toddlers thrive on structure and routine.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:17 PM
Avoid the use of the word no as much as possible. Redirect or rephrase, ie don't touch the remote please versus repeating no to a million things they try do/touch in a day. I've found my 21 month old responds much better this way.
Also works for things like 'can I have iceypole' at 9am in the morning. Instead of no try maybe after lunch or explaining its too cold for icepole today.
Taking the extra time to explain let's DD know she's been heard and sets her expectations.
I think the toddler stage, especially early on is a really good time to setup habits for both yourselves and for the kid for how you want to parent as they get older and get to the more defiant ages.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:22 PM
Explain everything to them - especially anything out of the ordinary. Eg
We are going out soon. We need shoes on to stop our feet getting sore and a bag of snacks. When I count to 10 we will put your shoes on, then pack some snacks, then hop into the car.
This works so well for us - it really does help him know what's coming up and feel more in control.
And of course laughs, good food, good rest, solid routines.
I adore my toddler, such a wonderful stage.
Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:22 PM
This is great stuff ladies! Keep it coming!
*collapses after finally getting 18 month old down for nap*
Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:26 PM
Develop a whole lot of patience and remember they are still so little.
Its all just a phase!!!
Posted 14 November 2012 - 09:09 AM
My DS is 18 months and he LOVES feeling like he is helping mummy which allows me to get some things done, for example if I am wiping down the table, etc I give him a sponge as well. Hanging out the washing, I ask him to pass me the clothes, I find it is easier than trying to do it all while he is asleep.
I love love love this age, it is certainly challenging with the tantrums but also so much fun having my mini man understanding so much, and we can have such a good laugh together.
Posted 14 November 2012 - 08:28 PM
Give them choices(limited though) such as this red top, or the blue top?
Or the apple or the banana? This way they can you are mostly choosing for them, but they get to feel like they are making the choices in their life.
Posted 15 November 2012 - 12:53 PM
At this age they are going to start testing the boundaries - especially at home where they feel safest to test the waters. So lots of NO and STOP IT (we're getting at the moment) over very simple things like nappy changing, getting dressed, being asked to do anything at any moment, lol. If the thing you need them to do is important like changing a poohy nappy just simply say "No - We need to change your nappy now to get the pooh out". If it's something small that is not necessary - like you ask them if they want to read a book and you get a screamed NO just say "oh okay then" and leave them be - let them have a win every now and then so they feel they have some voice and can master their own destiny a little bit.
Don't tell them they are naughty/ rude/ nasty/ misbehaving etc for this behaviour - they're just learning self expression and determination.
From my therapist
Posted 15 November 2012 - 01:08 PM
My only thing I would change in order to hopefully get a better outcome this time round is with regards to food.
Toddlers are notoriously fussy and food can become such a big issue. No special kiddy meals. Lunch is lunch, dinner is dinner. Eat it or dont eat it. No fuss, no bribing, maybe explain how it will help them play at the playground better or grow as big as such and such. It can be frustrating and you just want to throw the plate at them sometimes but just breathe and take the food away.
Endless snacking is another thing I will never do again. Hungry....here are some sultanas in my handbag, whinging.....have a pack of tiny teddies, supermarket.....have a biscuit. Never again. 3 meals, 2 snacks, anything outside of that, no. Kids learn very quickly to fill themselves up when the food is there. They dont let themselves starve. Anyway some mums might not agree with this but as soon as I 'streamlined' food in our household, my life became a million times easier.
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