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#1 Broxie

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:34 AM

DP and I are ready to discuss a more permanent method of contraception. We have talked about a vasectomy but he is worried it will make sex less pleasurable. Anyone's partner had one? Any anecdata to share?
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#2 baddmammajamma

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:39 AM

I can speak for my husband: a vasectomy only makes the sex BETTER because you have two people who are not worried about an unwanted pregnancy.

It is one of the very best things that we have ever done as a couple (after having our kids, of course) and my husband would definitely say the same.

(note: very important for any man who has had a vasectomy to go through with the follow up appointments to ensure that the pipeline has truly been shut down).


#3 fillesetjumeaux

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:43 AM

Ditto to BMJ!  Except that my DH did not do the follow-ups rolleyes.gif



#4 lady lady

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:45 AM

Stalking .. ph34r.gif  DH and I are in the same situation .....

#5 tothebeach

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:51 AM

QUOTE
I can speak for my husband: a vasectomy only makes the sex BETTER because you have two people who are not worried about an unwanted pregnancy.

Amen to that!   It's a quick procedure which leaves him in a bit of pain for a few days - and then he was fine.  Sex was back to normal in a week.  For us, it was a no brainer.

Edited by tothebeach, 13 November 2012 - 08:52 AM.


#6 Batmansunderpants

Posted 13 November 2012 - 08:53 AM

I don't mean to hijack the thread but my DH is planning on having it done soon. He wants to know of any negative experiences so he can be mentally prepared for it.

#7 baddmammajamma

Posted 13 November 2012 - 09:38 AM

QUOTE (Miss Cookie @ 13/11/2012, 09:53 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't mean to hijack the thread but my DH is planning on having it done soon. He wants to know of any negative experiences so he can be mentally prepared for it.


Slight discomfort on the day, but nothing that a bag of frozen peas couldn't solve! wink.gif  Oh also, your husband might want to clean up some of his pubic hair (just as if one were getting a c-section).

My husband said that the worst part (only bad part) was the post-op check up, where he had to deliver a sample in a very cold room with very cheesy 80s style porn. Other than that, smooth sailing!

Good luck to all those who are about to be snipped!

#8 Oriental lily

Posted 13 November 2012 - 09:57 AM

I remember reading about a support group online where there is hundreds of men who experience the same problem after a vasectomy. Extreme pain at the moment of orgasim.

I would think its a very tny minority but something you should be aware of and discuss with a dr.

Quick google and I found the site.

http://www.painaftervasectomy.org/index.ph...After-Vasectomy

Edited by Oriental lily, 13 November 2012 - 10:00 AM.


#9 Batmansunderpants

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:03 AM

Thank you BMJ and Oriental Lily I will pass this info onto my husband.

#10 Luvmy4

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:08 AM

DH had it done & while he had a post op swelling/infection which turned his scrotum the size of a grapefruit ffear.gif  he still says he would do it again.
We are both happy not having contraceptive worries

#11 Percoriel

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:11 AM

Best thing we ever did. Sex is very spontaneous, no more worrying about an oops pregnancy.

DH was sore for a day then he said it was like nothing happened down there. Much easier than a third child! wink.gif



#12 Batmansunderpants

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:11 AM

Wow Luvmy4, how terrible. It's great he has got past the swelling.

#13 erypmaV

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:21 AM

QUOTE (baddmammajamma @ 13/11/2012, 09:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Slight discomfort on the day, but nothing that a bag of frozen peas couldn't solve! wink.gif  O


baddmammajamma has already covered everything pretty accurately.
They use a local plus a sedative so you are not fully conscious. I remember the doctor and nurse talking but couldn't tell you what they were saying.

Afterwards there was some swelling (not as impressive as it sounds original.gif) and it was a little unfortable but nothing too bad. Operation was at a local clinic on a Thursday morning and I was back at work on Monday. Our clinic was local, so work on the final sample was done at home and taken down. No need for a seedy 80s room as OP has mentioned!

No negative impact on sex, I haven't been able to tell the difference. Although not having to worry about contraception means you can take opportunities as they arise wink.gif

And some additional selling points:
You can spend 3-4 days doing nothing but lounging around, watching TV etc. Seriously, who is going to make you mow the lawns after that operation?
You need to 'clean the pipes' frequently before you go back for your final test. Makes for an interesting few weeks...

Good luck!



#14 erypmaV

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:25 AM

QUOTE (Luvmy4 @ 13/11/2012, 10:08 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
DH had it done & while he had a post op swelling/infection which turned his scrotum the size of a grapefruit  he still says he would do it again.

He does know that the procedure is permanent right? I think he just wants to do it again for the extra swelling  biggrin.gif

I had similar swelling (not quite grapefruit size!, and not an infection) it's uncomfortable but not really painful, and it only lasted about 1-2 days.

#15 solongsuckers

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:43 AM

My husband loves sex even more since he had it done

#16 Amanda_JB

Posted 13 November 2012 - 10:52 AM

DH had it done end of September and up until 1-2 weeks ago was still in a great deal of pain. He said he wouldnt do it again if he had the chance to change his mind.

#17 The 7 Dwarfs

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:01 AM

My DH has had no issues from his at all. Walked in, walked out and managed to create our youngest DS with in the first week wink.gif .

Even if he had some major problems for a few weeks or months, well it'd still be nothing in comparison to giving birth to 7 children, 1 which fractured my tail bone and another which was a C-section, which both still causes me pain every now and then.

If it was ok for me to go through all the health issues I did to create our family, then surely it's not too much for him to risk doing the same to complete it.

#18 unicorn

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:16 AM

QUOTE (baddmammajamma @ 13/11/2012, 10:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Slight discomfort on the day, but nothing that a bag of frozen peas couldn't solve! wink.gif  Oh also, your husband might want to clean up some of his pubic hair (just as if one were getting a c-section).

My husband said that the worst part (only bad part) was the post-op check up, where he had to deliver a sample in a very cold room with very cheesy 80s style porn. Other than that, smooth sailing!

Good luck to all those who are about to be snipped!


You do have a period of time for leeway between sample taken and sample refrigerated  just sayin... ph34r.gif

OP DH didn't have any dramas, my fears were unfounded, a bit of discomfort for the first day, we had to wait a few days before we could play again but that was it.

#19 CalEliKat

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:18 AM

Breast pads are good for dressing the knackers.  I did that for DH after his VS, adhere to the undies and cup the friends nicely.

#20 Feral Grey Mare

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:25 AM

DH was all ready to be snipped. He had spoken to about 500 000 guys who had not had any problems with their op then came across one guy at the pub who said it hurt so the whole thing was cancelled. (Grrrrrrr....)

#21 JaneDoe2010

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:30 AM

QUOTE (baddmammajamma @ 13/11/2012, 09:39 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I can speak for my husband: a vasectomy only makes the sex BETTER because you have two people who are not worried about an unwanted pregnancy.

It is one of the very best things that we have ever done as a couple (after having our kids, of course) and my husband would definitely say the same.

(note: very important for any man who has had a vasectomy to go through with the follow up appointments to ensure that the pipeline has truly been shut down).


Ditto to all that.

We were allowed to "extract the sample" (LOL) at home, but had to ensure it stayed warm on way to pathology. I, like a lot of women I know, drove it there in my cleavage, grateful I wasn't pulled over by the police. Tounge1.gif

#22 ladybird01

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:32 AM

No side effects for my DH either.

He had it done around 10am (just with local anaesthetic in the area, no sedation) and then drove himself home in time for lunch.

A couple of days of tenderness and slight bruising, but then back to normal.

Very happy we chose this option of contraception!

#23 cward

Posted 13 November 2012 - 11:32 AM

My DP had it done too with no problems

QUOTE
My husband said that the worst part (only bad part) was the post-op check up, where he had to deliver a sample in a very cold room with very cheesy 80s style porn. Other than that, smooth sailing!
funnily enough his follow up appointment was great apparently, fridge with beer and porn he was only sorry he made the appointment for early in the morning!

#24 BadCat

Posted 13 November 2012 - 01:18 PM

No problems for my DH either.  He was so relieved to be able to ditch the condoms he would have done it twice.

In fact he did do it twice.  Seems his little guys were quite determined.  Kind of like they built a bridge and got over it.  Poor DH was almost given the all clear but not quite.  Then the next sample was worse instead of better.  The next one was fully loaded and he had to go and have it done again.  No big deal, but it does show that it's important to do that follow up testing.  biggrin.gif

Although he too found the testing a bit offputting.  He said it felt kind of weird for someone to show him to a room to rub one out.  But then to walk back out and hand it over - well he felt awkward handing over a jar as if to say "here you go, I've just masturbated for you".   laughing2.gif

Edited by BadCat, 13 November 2012 - 01:22 PM.


#25 *bibs*

Posted 13 November 2012 - 04:32 PM

I am glad you started this thread, was going to do the same today...Husband is booked in on the 27th of this month..




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