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#1 Adamira

Posted 12 November 2012 - 08:36 AM

Hi everyone!
I'm almost 10 weeks, I still haven't told my family about the baby. What about other people? Have you spilled the beans yet, waited til 12 weeks?
Time seems to be going so slowly with this pregnancy, I feel like an elephant! The exhaustion is crazy but I don't feel pregnant at all.
Previous miscarriage at 11 weeks makes me a bit nervous that it may happen again, but maybe I should share so I have support in case it does happen again.
Hope everyone else is going well, and all upcoming scans etc are positive.

#2 Nervy

Posted 12 November 2012 - 09:56 AM

Im waiting until my scan at 12 weeks + 5 days to tell family, and maybe a bit later for friends, and later still for work if i can but my belly is going to be a giveaway soon there sonly so long i can wear a jacket for, thank goodness its not a hot November so far!

I have had two scans already one at 7+5 & one at 9+5, but still like to see that 12 week one when bubs is fully formed and then just has to grow to be sure to be sure!

I have a doppler so i know bubs heart is still beating away but would like to know he has grown properly etc etc, ah the paranoia!!

I also want a picture to show my family when i tell them

#3 kahm

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:09 AM

We told the people we'd want to lean on if something went wrong, so immediate family and best friends.
I told my boss straight away because we were really busy and I needed to keep popping out for appointments - telling her why got me a lot more good will than just demanding time off and handing over a generic medical certificate.

#4 Mama8

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:16 AM

11 weeks now and only told my BFF and her hubby
after a previous 11week 5 day MC im not telling anyone else until the 12 week scan.

#5 aleksandrap

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:20 AM

We told our immediate family and managers straight away. This is a surprise bub and we were planning a trip overseas and had booked the tickets back in August for a June 28th departure so needed to do a very quick change of flights so we're now leaving on March 12th. We needed our workplaces to know the reason for bringing our 5 week Europe trip forward by 3.5months! We are waiting to tell everyone else after the 12 week scan, around Christmas time, although my sister's wedding is in 2 weeks and I'm pretty sure I'll start some rumours as I'm very petite and have popped a bit already!

#6 MrsR87

Posted 12 November 2012 - 06:16 PM

We've already told our immediate families and quite a few friends. We couldn't keep it a secret till 12 weeks!

We will tell the rest of the world after our 12 week scan which is on the 22nd.

Edited by leJadie, 12 November 2012 - 06:16 PM.


#7 Tammoi01

Posted 16 November 2012 - 08:45 AM

We're 8 wks today. And although bubs was planned, it happened while my DP's brother was incredibly sick with cancer and then passed away. So while I would like to tell our families at Christmas. DP doesn't want to tell them as Christmas Eve is his brothers 3 month anniversary, and he doesn't want to make the time all about us. It's definitely a hard one, but because we don't live in the same city I'd like to tell everyone in person, especailly my sister as it's been so hard not to tell her already!

#8 kahm

Posted 18 November 2012 - 04:32 PM

Tammoi01 - it's probably best to be guided by your DP on this one given that it's his family but there's always the possibility that they would welcome a little 'life goes on' miracle.  You know, sometimes you need a little good news and a reminder that there is actually a future in the wings with wonderful things to come.

#9 RellBell

Posted 19 November 2012 - 07:16 AM

I'm going to wait until 12 weeks. In 2 weeks i'm going on a 2 week cruise, and I can tell everyone as soon as I get back (and have my 12 week scan).

I have told only my partner and one of my good friends. He has told a good friend and a lady at work (who guessed, but he's sworn her to secrecy - she said she can always tell, pregnant people just walk differently). I also had to tell my personal trainer (who works with my DP) - but all I said was "There's a reason why i've been feeling a little sick the last couple of weeks..." and before I could finish she said "I KNEW IT!". I think my sudden massive boobs and the bloating are giving me away.

One of the ladies at work is very suspicious too... She keeps making offhand comments. Like "You look tired today, you've been tired a lot lately", "yeah, I just need a holiday", and then she'll say something like "I have never been so tired as I was when I was pregnant with my children..."

Or the other day I asked for some bigger work pants and she's like "you're always really careful with your weight... You're hiding something". And I tried telling her that I was just comfortable in my relationship. I really do want to tell her, but I can't tell anyone before the boss knows, so she'll just have to keep suspecting me for now.

So excited for 12 weeks... when I can tell work and have an excuse to wear super comfy stretchy pants and not the horribly stiff, belted pants we have. Even in a bigger size they're not bloat friendly sad.gif



#10 FeralMuddyPuddles

Posted 19 November 2012 - 10:39 AM

Lots people know as I have been so sick and hospitalised, so my work and Dh's work had to know, as he also had to have time off to care for DS. Then  family got told as not cool if they dont know but work does, and also they knew about our mc in July so wanted them to be there to support us either way.  A few friends have found out as I went to a kids birthday party and was still sick, so pretty obvious. Both pregnancies people have found out prior to 12 weeks because of me being so sick!
My scan is on Wednesday and after that I will make a wider announcement to friends I havent seen etc.
Oh and my tummy has also started to pop, and given I am normally quite small and have lost so much weight being sick, its pretty obvious now!




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