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#1 (feral)epg

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:46 PM

Most of the reviews here seem to lean far more towards the ergo/ manduca type baby carriers, but I'm having a hard time convincing DP to follow this advice?
Today we were out and noticed that there are loads of men using baby bjorns, and loads of women with other types of carriers.  One couple in particular swapped the carrier when they switched who was carrying the baby - the husband used the baby bjorn, then the wife switched to a sling.  Baby looked pretty happy all the time (only made  a fuss when put in the car seatcapsule while the switch over was being performed.)
Are there other couples out there who have splurged on getting one of each type of carrier?
Is there some anatomical difference that makes different carriers different for different sexes?
And do any of you Manduca / Ergo wearing mothers find that your male partners prefer the baby bjorn?


#2 mumtoactivetoddler

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:50 PM

I don't know if it helps but both DH and I loved the baby bjorn active.

#3 Le-a

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:54 PM

We were gifted a baby bjorn but I bough a Manduca when DS was about six months old original.gif

I liked the baby bjorn until DS started putting on more weight and then I found it killed my neck/shoulders to wear him in it even for only 15 mins (ie quick trip to shops).

The Manduca kinda distributes the weight more to your hips, IMO. I found it much more comfortable. And because I could put him on my back in the MD It was more practical as my arms were completely free to do stuff.

DH liked to use both, but he was more likely to wear DS outward facing in the bb than I was, but that is because I never liked to wear him outward facing at all. I don't think he really had a preference- he just did what I was doing!



#4 bakesgirls

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:56 PM

We have a Baby Bjorn. We both preferred it over the other types of slings, even though we tried others out.

#5 WYSIWYG

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:01 PM

I guess guys might be more able to live through the discomfort and pain that the bjorn puts the wearer through? Though DF and I both agree that the bjorn is rubbish and will be splurging on a ergo next time.

#6 Fright bat

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:06 PM

Baby Bjorns are the cheapest carrier, so many many people buy them. And then only the men can wear them because they are so uncomfortable. Note that they are also utterly rubbish for babies hips. I think that women wear 'other' carriers because the only women willing to carry an older baby in a carrier are those in possession of a comfortable carrier. Everyone else puts the baby in a pram. Whereas if they already possess a Baby Bjorn, then the bloke will use it.

A carrier is not a fashion statement. It doesn't matter how it looks, if its not comfortable. And if it puts you baby at much greater risk of long term hip problems. Buy something where the baby sits in it with the hips flexed to 90 degrees, not a baby bjorn where they dangle off their crotch. Its really bad for them, and that alone should convince your DH to stay away from baby bjorns.

#7 HurryUpAlready

Posted 12 November 2012 - 12:18 AM

I don't find my Baby Bjorn carrier to be uncomfortable at all. I think the model is "Synergy", which has the extra back support, taking a lot of the weight off of your shoulders.

My DD is 9 months and around 9 kg and I still use it - mainly when doing the grocery shopping. I love it!

I have only ever faced her outwards in the carrier (started using it at 16 weeks). She is too curious to face my chest, she wants to see the world! Also, being a breast fed baby, having her face stuck in my boobs means she just wanted a feed. So a carrier that doesn't allow for outward facing wouldn't have worked for us.

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Edited by HurryUpAlready, 12 November 2012 - 12:21 AM.


#8 axiomae

Posted 12 November 2012 - 09:47 AM

DH loves the hugabub in black - looks great. Baby Bjorns really are awful. I'm too short waisted for the hugabub so I wear the Ergo Sport - super comfortable and I could wear DD for hours! So much better for baby that being in one of those crotch-danglers.

#9 ubermum

Posted 12 November 2012 - 09:58 AM

I agree with MrsN on this. You see babybjorns because they are cheap and have great marketing strategies in place. Get an Ergo for a structured carrier or a wrap (eg. hug a bub, sleepy wrap) for a non structured carrier.

#10 Le-a

Posted 12 November 2012 - 09:58 AM

QUOTE (HurryUpAlready @ 12/11/2012, 01:18 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't find my Baby Bjorn carrier to be uncomfortable at all. I think the model is "Synergy", which has the extra back support, taking a lot of the weight off of your shoulders.

My DD is 9 months and around 9 kg and I still use it - mainly when doing the grocery shopping. I love it!

I have only ever faced her outwards in the carrier (started using it at 16 weeks). She is too curious to face my chest, she wants to see the world! Also, being a breast fed baby, having her face stuck in my boobs means she just wanted a feed. So a carrier that doesn't allow for outward facing wouldn't have worked for us.

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My bold.

Interesting. DS was also breastfed and this was not our experience. Each to their own, but I hated wearing DS outward facing, he got totally overstimulated and I felt like he needed the security of being able to see the person who was carrying him.

Also wanted to add that my mum also rated the Manduca over the BB. She would jump at the chance to wear dS if we went anywhere original.gif but would get sore shoulders with the BB.

#11 ekbaby

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:09 AM

Baby Bjorns are actually not cheap, the other versions like the Snuggli/Big W versions etc are (maybe $60?) but the Baby Bjorns I think are at least $129... up to $170 for the active and/or mesh versions, $209 for the miracle... (roughly)... Ergos start at $159 rrp...and you will get much more use out of them.

The Ergos/Manducas come in plain colours like black etc that are very "guy friendly" in terms of looks



#12 Katie_bella

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:19 AM

DH, well we both, use the hug a bub with little babies then the ergo.....he LOVES carrying DD in the ergo. The BB's don't sit well with us because of the hip thing (pardon the pun!). Plus I hate seeing little babies hanging off their parents outward facing, to me that negates the point of carrying them, you can't see their face, they can't see you. wink.gif

I would go with the fact that traditional BB's get very uncomfortable very quickly as your baby grows, most women can't use them for very long, but blokes have enough upper body/shoulder strength to be able to do it.

#13 heffalumpsnwoozles

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:35 AM

My DH is quite big and the Ergo simply didn't fit around him. The BB has very long straps though, so he could get it to juuuust fit. Otherwise he would have used the Ergo, I'm sure. It really is so much comfier.

I can see why you'd swap carriers though - DH and I are chalk and cheese in terms of size, it would be much easier to have one carrier which remains set up for each than to muck about with the straps every time.

BB has a very good marketing program, I think many people buy those when they're expecting baby, then are stuck with them when the baby is a few months old and too heavy to carry comfortably. That's probably why some couples have ended up with two carriers.

#14 laridae

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:37 AM

We have both an Ergo and a BB.

I got the BB first, before DD was born (2nd hand pretty cheap).

It wasn't very long before she was feeling far to heavy to carry that way.  So I got an Ergo, so much lighter! DH kept using the BB and he had it adjusted to his size, while I had the Ergo adjusted to my size.

Never had any trouble with DD facing towards me instead of outwards, and it was much easier to walk without her legs dangling down and hitting mine.

#15 ScarfaceClaw

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:44 AM

We started with a sling, and then moved to the ergo. DH has used both, altho he doesn't love wearing the ergo for long on his front... DS is ok on the back for short periods, but if he's going to sleep he likes to be on the front.

Hate BB's and their forward facing crotch dangling marketing ploy.....

We just adjust the strapping between us, but only have one carrier.... DH is keen to get a sport for next time tho...


#16 galba

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:51 AM


BB wearers here - no crotch dangling though as I wore it quite high and DH is very tall.  



#17 Katie_bella

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:55 AM

QUOTE (galba @ 12/11/2012, 11:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
BB wearers here - no crotch dangling though as I wore it quite high and DH is very tall.


Crotch dangling refers to the baby dangling BY the crotch, not down near YOUR crotch huh.gif

#18 HIH.GD.Isolabella

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:56 AM

Both DH and I were baby Bjorn people. I tried and hated the other slings etc.



#19 Propaganda

Posted 12 November 2012 - 10:59 AM

An Ergo is not terribly feminine in its design, unlike slings, the hug-a-bub and similar, so I don't know why a man wouldn't use one. They're much better for a baby's spine than a bjorn is.

#20 Comrade Borgia

Posted 12 November 2012 - 12:55 PM

QUOTE (Katie_bella @ 12/11/2012, 11:55 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Crotch dangling refers to the baby dangling BY the crotch, not down near YOUR crotch huh.gif

This quote reminds me....we had a BB for both boys, DS1 loved it and DH took him out in it a fair bit, except DS was of a certain height that whenever he was in it and would see something that excited him, like a dog or a truck, he d kick his legs wildly in excitement right in DH's er, sensitive mans area....DH took to wearing a cricket box underneath his pants whenever he took DS out in it (I'm not joking)

But more importantly, I had no idea BBs were so bad for the baby's hips....as I said we used it a lot for DS1, and he HAD clicky hips and was in a pavlik harness for 8 weeks from birth...I am almost certain that the paediatrician actually recommended a harness to carry him around, but I could be wrong, it was all a bit of a blur ...maybe he recommended another harness..not sure. Anyway, we don't carry DS2 around in it much, he likes the pram and the BB hurts my back and, well, DH has lost his cricket box so he'd prefer not to use the BB again!

#21 Feral-as-Meggs

Posted 12 November 2012 - 01:03 PM

I agree, I've seen lots of blokes with babies in BBs and never one with an Ergo-style or wrap style.

But I see plenty of men with the hiking type baby backpacks too (like Macpac) - maybe that's what they do when the babies get too heavy for the BB.

#22 2 Gorgeous Girls

Posted 12 November 2012 - 01:14 PM

I know a lot of people hate BB's but I used one for both my girls and didn't find it uncomfortable. I carried them both until they were around one.

When I was pregnant with my second my eldest was seeing a child physio as she was developmentally behind. I asked if it was because of the BB and was told no and it was fine/recommended to use one for my second.

Sounds like I may have got some dodgy advice!

In terms of a men and carriers, there were none on the market large enough for my then DH so it was a bit of a non issue. I imagine if he had used one we would probably have two. Ii would be really annoying to adjust the straps every time you switched.

#23 Kay1

Posted 12 November 2012 - 01:22 PM

I like a pouch sling (I use hotslings) because they look pretty, are fuss free and I can have one stuffed in the nappy bag at all times.

I like the Baby Bjorn for short trips, like school pick up etc because its less fussy than the ergo but gets uncomfortable after a while. DH never wears the baby but has used the BB with our older kids in the past.

I like the Ergo but with the newborn insert its kind of bulky and hot. I think I'll like it more when he's a bit bigger.

I was told by another mum the other day that she'd been told by a physio not to use a pouch sling as it was bad for baby's hips and to use a Baby Bjorn at all times. So much conflicting advice!

#24 Ellen D

Posted 12 November 2012 - 01:33 PM

QUOTE (heffalumpsnwoozles @ 12/11/2012, 11:35 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My DH is quite big and the Ergo simply didn't fit around him. The BB has very long straps though, so he could get it to juuuust fit. Otherwise he would have used the Ergo, I'm sure. It really is so much comfier.


heff, I think you can actually get extension straps for the ergo - very similar to an extension piece for an airplane seatbelt.


#25 Feral timtam

Posted 12 November 2012 - 01:47 PM

We've got a Baby Bjorn, two Sleepy Wraps and a Boba 2G. The Baby Bjorn is carrier of last resort for both of us, and it depends on the child as to whether we want to use the Boba or the Sleepy Wraps. DH would rather use the hot pink sleepy wrap than the Baby Bjorn!

DS2 likes to 'chew' on the carriers so at the moment with him we're always reaching for the Boba, baby slobber soaked Sleepy Wraps are not at all comfortable, they get used for the older two kids. Every other baby wearer we know does it the other way round, sleepy wrap or hug a bub for the baby, structured carrier for the toddler.




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