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#1 Fyn Angelot

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:17 PM

Your challenge, ladies, if you choose to accept it...

I have about four months of no classes, and thanks to circumstances I didn't foresee, I'm not working atm either.  I can't really take on ongoing work, because I'll need to go back to college come February.

I'm at home with an almost-1-year-old and no reliable care for her, so whatever I do needs to be flexible around that (oh, and DH and I share the one car, and he likes me to let him use it to get to work most days).

I am no domestic goddess.  I am going to go batsh*t crazy within the very near future if I'm basically being a SAHM (it's been a week and I'm already in a bad place).  I need a project for the summer, and I'm at a loss as to what the hell to do given the constraints I'm dealing with.

Any and all suggestions welcome!

#2 happydays2

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:20 PM

When I was going on a shopping trip to Melbourne I made money by going to garage sales selling goods on eBay. If you can get a car for Sat mornings it is heaps of fun.

#3 JustBeige

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:21 PM

Do you have any hobbies that you can indulge?

Do the gardens need replanting?

Do you have any reno's to be done or furniture that needs to be rubbed back and repainted?

#4 zippeemum

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:24 PM

Sewing? Heaps of easy, funky tutorials online - get DD's wardrobe sorted cheap and easy?

Gardening.

Walk/run every day?

Train the dog?

Paint/redecorate your bedrooom/house?

Short course at the local community learning centre which will help in your future career?


#5 whatnamenow

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:24 PM

What about an online short course?  Something thats a cert 2 or similar either in a field that is in line with your career or even just something for the heck of it that might challenge you?  What about a language course?  Art course etc?

#6 Fyn Angelot

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:35 PM

Thanks for the replies.  I wouldn't say I'm an outdoorsy person.  Bookworm would be more accurate!  (And I'm in Melbourne).

Online short course looks possible...Monash are offering some in writing skills which could be interesting.  I'll investigate further.

Hobbies have - for one reason and another - pretty much all fallen by the wayside and would be tricky to resurrect just now.  And I'd love to really get into the garden, but I'm afraid of trying to do that with DD in tow.  I can see already that she'll spend the whole time trying to eat dirt, bugs, toxic plants...I'd never get anything done!  

And there is work that needs doing on the house but I don't have the skill, tbh.

#7 Expelliarmus

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:41 PM

Pish posh and fiddlesticks.

Who cares if the kid eats dirt and bugs. That's what kids do. Let it go.

If you don't have the skill, find a You Tube tutorial. You can learn almost anything on that thing. My DD is constantly You Tubing 'how tos'. I taught myself to sand and paint furniture and a whole host of other things. I had a major fail this week, but a short art course can be fun. I did really like the painting one.

Go swimming. Seriously, take DD swimming to classes or just to play in the water. She's nearly 1!!!! That's the best age! Oh. To have one 1yo and me and all the time in the world again ... *sigh*

Edited by howdo, 11 November 2012 - 09:41 PM.


#8 Chaos in stereo

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:41 PM

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Edited by Chaos in stereo, 26 August 2013 - 05:28 PM.


#9 Feralina

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:41 PM

Free university courses? I can imagine you don't feel like doing anything too study-like, but there are some which are quite light in subject matter.

https://www.coursera.org/

http://www.openculture.com/freeonlinecourses

#10 Feralina

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:42 PM

Or try a class at your local community centre? Most of them have creches for the time you are at your class.

#11 twinboys

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:44 PM

Is there occasional care around you?
Some councils have centres, some gyms have them and so do some neighbourhood/community houses.

See what is available and you find that you can go for a swim or do an exercise class.
There might be a course at a community centre you can do
There may be a spot at a local council centre for a couple of hours once a week.

Then you can go and do something child free during the day.

Is there a local playgroup you can attend??
Some churches have great playgroup or music sessions.
Does the local library have a story time you can go to?

#12 Feral_Pooks

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:45 PM

Go through all of your stuff and reorganize. Sort into keep, donate, sell, trash. Repack things, run the donate stuff to the local op shop, have a garage sale or list things online to sell. Getting rid of excess stuff is awesome and I've easily made $500 doing this during our process of moving.

Paint a room.

Have you got a backyard that needs some TLC? Planting and setting up a play area for DS is on my to-do list. I'm working on it by buying 2nd hand stuff online and researching cheap native plants that local birds like.

Go for morning walks. Feed the ducks, go to a green grocer and your daughter can try new fruits and things, explore local parks, garden shops, bunnings is good for a wander, etc.

Is there a local library with a baby program on? I go twice a week to grab a coffee, peruse the shelves and sing nursery rhymes with other mums and bubs.

Is there an indoor play centre? I sometimes meet people there or go alone, DS can play and kid-watch and I can read a book, etc.

Have you ever wanted to paint? Sew? Brush up on cooking skills? Watch a certain documentary series?

Could you do any volunteer work?

#13 Guest_Dinah_Harris_*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:45 PM

Ever wanted to write a book?

#14 Fyn Angelot

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:45 PM

QUOTE (Chaos in stereo @ 11/11/2012, 10:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Well I have a suggestion for you but you probably won't like it. I finish my exams tomorrow and my house is absolutely disgusting after weeks (months?) of neglect. I will be cleaning spiderwebs off windows and dusting vertical blinds and other exciting, fulfilling projects (after I find the floor, can't see it at the moment). Maybe you could try something like that. Appealing?


laughing2.gif This is what I probably should do, and is on my list.  And I'll probably even do a bit of it.  But without something a bit more...fulfilling...I'll probably just want to set fire to the lot after a while!

#15 Dylan's Mummy

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:46 PM

Look into jewelry makes courses or another type of craft that interests you. Just google things you are interested in along with your city and things like "course" or "workshop". If you are interested in crafts, there is a shop called incube8r in various cities around the country and they may be able to help you with finding a course, go to incube8r.com.au.

I suppose that there is always scrapbooking, I'm sure that plenty of Mums do that to keep busy, especially since they have plenty of photos of their bubs.

Edited by Dylan's Mummy, 11 November 2012 - 09:47 PM.


#16 kadoodle

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:46 PM

Good luck, OP original.gif  I found Monash very accomrdating with CC and babies on campus.

#17 tait

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:48 PM

If I lived in Melbourne and had 4 months of not much to do, I would go to every museum and art gallery in the city. I would go to the zoo, the markets, the beach and the shopping! I would have a holiday in my home town. (I live in a town with one museum that can be seen inside an hour.)

Other then that I would spring clean the house.

#18 claptrap

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:51 PM

I really like the idea of swimming and it's something you can enjoy together.

The community centre course is also a great idea.  

Or, perhaps see if there are some elderly people in your community who might appreciate a visit once or twice a week?  



#19 Fyn Angelot

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:52 PM

QUOTE (twinboys @ 11/11/2012, 10:44 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is there a local playgroup you can attend??
Some churches have great playgroup or music sessions.
Does the local library have a story time you can go to?


See, this is part of the problem.  I don't want to do that stuff.  That's "mummy" stuff and is what I want a break from.  I want some space to be myself, not a mum, and not take up something just because it's either craft or antidepressants.

(Yes, that came out whingy.  Yes, I know I'm being a sook.  Yes, there is bigger stuff going on than just not being bored over summer.  However...it's where I'm at.  I'm truly grateful for all the suggestions, and I have some ideas from this thread that might be helpful, so thank you).

I'd love to do some volunteer work, but what can I do with a baby on my hip?

#20 whatnamenow

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:59 PM

QUOTE (Ange Vert @ 11/11/2012, 09:52 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd love to do some volunteer work, but what can I do with a baby on my hip?


Alot..  everything from programs designed to just get older folk a phone call once a week to check up/provide them with contact to more intellectual type tasks depending on your skills.  There are hundreds of charities, NFP's and on the smaller scale social groups, support groups that would love a few months of admin/specialist support even on a short term basis.

#21 Chaos in stereo

Posted 11 November 2012 - 09:59 PM

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Edited by Chaos in stereo, 26 August 2013 - 05:29 PM.


#22 twinboys

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:01 PM

If you want to do volunteer work with a baby look at doing something like this english tutor

Most of the women are house bound with kids so you can take your own child with you.
I did this for a year and got to know a lovely family

#23 Acidulous Osprey

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:06 PM

Do you want stuff which is for you or stuff which is for the good of others?

I am struggling ATM as I want something outside the house which is for me but is not craft or dogoodery.

#24 redheeler

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:06 PM

when my DS was that age I used to hit all the op shops (you'll prob need the car though). I managed to get some absolute bargains and nearly all DS's clothes are 2nd hand (have got him sorted for clothes till he is 4  rolleyes.gif  They have lots of books too and everyone loves a baby to goo over so you meet lots of new people. Gets you out of the house (can’t see the mess if you’re not there).  Also checked out libraries & many have free baby sessions where it doesn’t matter if they cry & make lots of noise.
Can you afford some childcare? Maybe even a half day? I started transitioning my DS into childcare (couple of 1/2 days a week) & it was soo good for my mental health to have some time to myself.


#25 Fyn Angelot

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:24 PM

QUOTE (Balzac @ 11/11/2012, 11:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do you want stuff which is for you or stuff which is for the good of others?

I am struggling ATM as I want something outside the house which is for me but is not craft or dogoodery.


Either/or.  I'm used to my work being about helping others, so I don't mind that.

QUOTE (redheeler @ 11/11/2012, 11:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Can you afford some childcare? Maybe even a half day? I started transitioning my DS into childcare (couple of 1/2 days a week) & it was soo good for my mental health to have some time to myself.


I'm saving like mad so I can afford it next year when I really need it!




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