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#1 elle-M

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:53 PM

I'm due with baby#3 next year and was speaking about names with a friend. We have chosen a boy's name (in fact, DD would have been named this). As soon as I said it she laughed out loud and said "are you serious"? I was hurt, but I know it's my fault for discussing names if I don't want to hear what people think.

So anyway, the name is Frederick William and the nickname will be Fred (that's the part she laughed at).

Surely not that bad???!!!

#2 Divvy

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:55 PM

I love Fred.

If I didn't already have a child with a name that rhymed with it, I'd use it.

#3 Broxie

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:57 PM

I love Frederick and Fred.

#4 *musical*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:57 PM

I'm a teacher....there have even no Freds in the 12 years I've been teaching at three different school.  But I don't dislike it.  Ned has been nbecoming more popular in the past five years....why not Fred.

#5 Lucrezia Borgia

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:58 PM

Well I like it ....but I have a Henry and a Charlie, so that person would probably have had a bit of a snort at my name choices too! (I also have a bit of a crush on crown prince Frederick of Denmark, but probably the less said about that the better....)

If you like don't worry about what other people think, but it's probably wise not to discuss names until the baby is actually born...people are less likely to be rude if you present a child and say "this is x" ...I say less likely...I guess it's not unheard of though! Good luck!

#6 opethmum

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:58 PM

I know a Frederick, his nn was Rick/Ricky as a child but as he grew older people started calling him Fred. I have no problem with that name. Don't get upset with people who have no taste!

#7 *little-rach*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:59 PM

It's definitely nms but I wouldn't say it's laughable or bad.

Is it a family name? I would use an middle name if it was

#8 kelbelblue

Posted 11 November 2012 - 03:59 PM

OP, I think it's a lovely classic name original.gif

#9 la di dah

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:01 PM

I don't think it's laughable It's a little old-fashioned but I like some old-fashioned names.

Honestly it's probably ahead of the curve, from the way I've heard people talking about Alfred (half of them planning to use Fred as the nickname) coming back. Could go up the ranks in 10-15 years. There might eventually be more little Freds/Freddies than your friend expects.

I wouldn't let your friend get to you unless you share taste a lot. And even then, not necessarily. It's funny what pings "old/funny" to some people while others don't. My sister loves Alfred but thinks Henry is too dusty, and I would have flipped that. shrug.gif

#10 whelmed

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:01 PM

I love that name, classic but not overused. Don't be put off by your friend's rudeness. Some people just engage mouth before putting brain in gear, not much you can do but shrug it off and stick with your own plans.

#11 Elemenopee

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:04 PM

OP I love the name Frederick. I have been noticing it being discussed on the baby name boards a bit lately, and know a newborn called Freddie. I agree with La Di Dah, it's popularity is on the rise.

#12 Beltie

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:07 PM

Don't read too much into it. It's obvious from reading name threads that people are influenced by prior experience with a name. Your friend might have had a stuffed donkey called Fred when she was 3, or been sold uncomfortable shoes by a Fred, or read the Fred Bassett comics in the paper every Sunday as a kid.

I think it is a good, solid name that has endured in many cultures for centuries. I know a 2 year old Freddie who is divine and his name fits like a glove.

#13 Lokum

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:07 PM

I have a cousin called Frederick Charles, nn Fred.

He's a teenager. No issues with his name AFAIK. Once the person owns it, that's it. And it is classic.

#14 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:07 PM

I love the name but unfortunately it doesn't go with our surname otherwise it would be number 1. I have a friend named Fred (not sure if he is a Frederick or just Fred) and I was mentioning him in conversation and a colleague (young idiot of thing) exclaimed "omg is he name actually Fred?" in a snarky, stuck up tone.

I think Fred is an old fashioned name and not common amongst the younguns like Alfred, George, walter etc. but it's lovely.

#15 EsmeLennox

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:09 PM

A friend of mine laughed at me when I said that I liked the name Harry. This was 10 years ago, then when we used the name, nearly 8 years ago, people were kind of suprised at 'such an old fashioned name' - look how many Harry's there are around now! Naming fashions come and go, Fred is kinda cool.

#16 whydoibother

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:11 PM

my grandfather is Frederick (Fred or Ted) meh it is a classic name and she is silly

#17 elle-M

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:13 PM

QUOTE (Lucretia Borgia @ 11/11/2012, 01:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
(I also have a bit of a crush on crown prince Frederick of Denmark, but probably the less said about that the better....)


Me too!

QUOTE (*little-rach* @ 11/11/2012, 01:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It's definitely nms but I wouldn't say it's laughable or bad.

Is it a family name? I would use an middle name if it was


Both names are family names, all our children's names are because we love old names

QUOTE (la di dah @ 11/11/2012, 02:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think it's laughable It's a little old-fashioned but I like some old-fashioned names.


Me too. I like old names, even daggy ones. I'm really, really fond of them.


#18 kadoodle

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:17 PM

Big Fred
Little Fred
Fred of middle age
If we have another Fred
We'll stick him in a cage.

There are a lot of Freds in my family, OP.  Which is a shame, because I love it.

#19 Jenferal

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:18 PM

I really really like Fred. I think it's a great name, can be cutened to "Freddie" or formal by calling him the full name. Works on all levels and ages in my mind.

#20 JaneLane

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:19 PM

It's NMS, too old fashioned, but I would never laugh at someone considering it. I would just think they liked older more traditional names, nothing wrong with that

#21 Let_it_Rain

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:19 PM

Love Frederick and would totally use it except DS is Edward (NN Eddie).

I think her response would be very unusual, it is not a strange or out there name at all.

Off topic: Love you DD's name as well.

#22 bark

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:20 PM

Its fine, go for it!

Its fine, go for it!

#23 FiveAus

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:22 PM

Sorry, I would have thought you were joking too. It's not what I'd call a child of mine but then I'm not the one having the baby. If you like it, use it.

#24 Leha

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:22 PM

What's wrong with Fred? It's not my style but not a name I would laugh about. I thought you were going to tell us some bizare name or some weird spelling of a classic but fred is a very normal name. Your friend is a jerk.

#25 tres-chic

Posted 11 November 2012 - 04:24 PM

The exact same thing happened to a friend of mine with a far more old fashioned, 'old man' name than Frederick.

The woman in case didn't mean to be tactless, it 'just came out'. She's off the xmas card list though.






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