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#1 biscotty

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:28 AM

Bit of a spin-off.. just curious how many people go out by themselves, and what do you do?

I love doing things like going to the movies or eating out by myself. I've never been out drinking by myself, and I don't think I would know how.. So if you do, what do you do? Strike up conversation with strangers or just sit by yourself?

I'm curious because I am single & my DD's dad has recently started having her the occasional Saturday night. I have plenty of friends but they are still young & childfree & into the clubbing scene.. whereas I would rather stick rusty forks in my eyes than step foot in a nightclub. I'd rather go for a quiet drink somewhere.

#2 tothebeach

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:33 AM

Not deliberately.  But over the course of time, I've travelled a lot for work and, short of eating room service every night, I've gone out for dinner or a drink by myself.   There is a simple pleasure in enjoying a drink without needing to talk.

If I have a choice, though, I'd much rather go with a friend.

#3 niggles

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:46 AM

I generally have the luxury not to need to. I can imagine living in a new place, not yet having made friends to call, and going to see music or theatre or art alone if I couldn't arrange babysitting and take my partner (or if I didn't have one). If you want to make friends you have to start somewhere.

I go to movies alone every now and then.

When I travel for work I eat, have a drink and generally go out and about alone.

#4 --binda--

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:53 AM

Movies - YES! Love love love going to the flicks by myself.


Dinner, not really.


#5 EssentialBludger

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:58 AM

Movies, yes.

Shopping, I LOVE shopping by myself. I'd rather shop by myself than with anyone.

Drinking and dinner? No, I'd feel like a loner. unsure.gif

#6 FlamingoG

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:58 AM

I have been to the odd gig alone, if none of my friends are interested - it always lead to new friends and big nights, maybe because it's a bit liberating?

#7 Guest_AllegraM_*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:05 AM

I love going to movies and shows by myself. I also like having breakfast or lunch alone, but not dinner for some reason.

I would never go to a pub or club unless I had arranged to meet someone there. Come to think of it, I have not been out on the town for years.

#8 Ice Queen

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:05 AM

Things I love doing by myself:

Movies, actually prefer it than with other people.  That is what I would do on a random by myself Saturday night.
Coffee, most definitely and do it all the time.  I like having a paper though.
Lunch, I dont mind especially with a book or a paper.
Shopping
Art gallery or museum
Maybe a winebar or civilised bar for a glass of wine but probably only in the afternoon or early evening.  I cant imagine being comfortable on a Saturday night.

I love to read so if I do eat on my own I will usually take a book or a newspaper.  Ipad would be perfect.

#9 Feral Becky

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:09 AM

I love shopping by myself too, Essential Bludger.

I think to go out drinking and dancing by yourself is to invite "unwelcome (or maybe not!) interest"

But then I am a super old fuddy duddy like that so flame away biggrin.gif

#10 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:10 AM

I go shopping by myself (or mostly with DS), that's about it, I don't go to the movies anyway and I don't go out at night.





#11 FeralBob!

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:13 AM

I went to Woolies by myself on Friday night, does that count? laugh.gif I fecking enjoyed it though - no small child whining about how she was tired, and no spending half and hour trying to locate DH after he wanders off muttering something about milk and toilet paper .

#12 CallMeFeral

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:22 AM

No I don't go out by myself.
I guess I'm still quite shy and self conscious, so I wouldn't end up talking to strangers if I did, and would feel really awkward.
If I had opportunity I'd probably go for coffee or something by myself now and then, but it would only be to get away from my kids, otherwise I'd just do it at home, I'm more relaxed at home.

#13 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:28 AM

Not often but I have, like others while traveling or moving to a new place. You don't meet people if you stay home all day.

Like the spin off OP though if I had a chance to go out alone or not at all, I'd be going out alone for a breather if nothing else!

#14 Lokum

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:32 AM

Movies, lunch, coffee, shopping. Would do a play/show solo, but prefer not to. Nice to have someone to talk to about those, and at interval.

Occasionally dinner (esp if travelling for work), and maybe would have a drink by myself around 5pm.

Wouldn't want to sit in a bar/pub at night drinking by myself. I've sat down and ordered a drink in a pub while waiting for a friend, and it just led to harassment.

I travelled extensively by myself throughout eastern Europe and some of Asia in my early 20s.  I did museums, galleries, lay on the beach in Greece, took train trips, restaurants and the whole works by myself.

I had no shortage of company from fellow travellers, but after a day or two, I was generally pleased to break free to do things at my own pace again. Especially museums and galleries - your pace is rarely in step with another, so you're slowed down or hurried along by them and I can't bear it.  A book or newspaper is nice, but not necessary.

Since then I travel with DH, and once in a while I wish it was just me again. You're more open to meeting new people, or trying new things, and there's less compromise when you travel solo. It's harder work, but worth it.

#15 protart roflcoptor

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:33 AM

I do most things like shopping, coffee, lunch...by myself, no issues at all. Movies, easily. you're sitting in the dark, not supposed to be talking so brilliant as a solo outing.
Dinner, many times travelling for work.

Wine bar at lunch, afternoon, yes.

To a pub on a saturday night? No. For that kind of outing I prefer company. I wouldn't feel comfortable thinking about my daughters (one is of legal drinking age), doing that without a friend to look out for them either.



#16 Beanbag Warrior

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:34 AM

Infrequently, but I have been known to settle down in a Toscanis or similar with a book and large bowl of pasta for lunch.

#17 JRA

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:37 AM

I have eaten out too  many nights on my own with work. I learned to do that taking a book, before the kindle. So going out at night by myself to a restaurant or pub for enjoyment is something I just can't imagine wanting to do, it is something I do for work, not for pleasure.

I love my own time, I love to sit on the beach and listen to the waves, I love to sit and read, or cross stitch, I love taking the dog to the park, or even sitting in a cafe having a coffee by myself. It is not that I don't like doing things by myself.

I have met lots of new people over my life, but not by going out to a pub by myself, I meet them through work, through DS, through sports, that sort of thing.

If I go out at night for social stuff it is either with DH, or friends, or both.

#18 blue86

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:43 AM

Almost exclusively!

But that is due to the fact that I am single, live alone, and have just moved interstate, so my social life is 1200kms away - if I didn't go out alone, I'd never go out. That said, I used to it quite a lot when I lived in Brisbane as well...I'm quite comfortable talking with randoms (which is made easier as there is usually sport of some description on to watch) but have also perfected my "leave me alone" face when I'd just rather sit alone.

#19 WYSIWYG

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:44 AM

No, but its not coz I don't really want to, it just never happens due to DFs shifts. When he is home I'd rather spend the time with him than alone like I do most of the time. I'm over my company, I need others around me blush.gif

#20 Feral Becky

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:47 AM

QUOTE (ossim roflcopter @ 11/11/2012, 12:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To a pub on a saturday night? No. For that kind of outing I prefer company. I wouldn't feel comfortable thinking about my daughters (one is of legal drinking age), doing that without a friend to look out for them either.



Well that just gave me chills, so..no

#21 marnie27

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:48 AM

Nope, I never do anything on my own - apart from shopping occasionally.

When I travelled overseas by myself years ago I did all kinds of things on my own and quite enjoyed it. These days we have busy lives and I'd rather do stuff with the people I love than by myself. Though I would love a weekend at home by myself - I am never here on my own EVER!

#22 casime

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:49 AM

All the time, if I didn't I'd probably never go anywhere.  

I mentioned in the other thread that I used to go to a salsa club by myself when I lived in the US.  It was great as it really was about the dancing.  Most people were regulars and just wanted a few drinks and a dance.  Once you got known as someone who could dance, then you didn't get to sit down all night.  Some of the dancing was a bit raunchy (it is salsa!), but never went further than that.  Damn, I really miss that place.    

I have no problems going to a restaurant by myself, or sitting in a bar having a drink, or anything else.  Sometimes I stay alone, sometimes I get invited to join other groups, which can be good fun in itself.  Particularly when I travel, I find there's a certain fascination among people towards "foreigners" and they are generally welcoming.  Best night out was in a bar in Blackpool that I wandered in to and they were having an Aussie trivia night.  When they found out that I was a "real Australian", I didn't pay for a drink all night.   I also love that when I travel alone I can pick up good theatre tickets on the day because you only need one seat.  

I'll admit that I don't understand people who can't seem to go anywhere on their own.

#23 Grobanite

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:49 AM

No not really. But DH is my best friend and We do almost everything together.

I still get time to myself at home to chill out when I need it.

I had so many years of being single and doing things alone I am over it.



#24 biscotty

Posted 11 November 2012 - 11:52 AM

QUOTE (BobTheKelpie @ 11/11/2012, 11:13 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I went to Woolies by myself on Friday night, does that count? laugh.gif


Definitely counts, I love solo shopping too.

QUOTE (Lokum @ 11/11/2012, 11:32 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I travelled extensively by myself throughout eastern Europe and some of Asia in my early 20s.  I did museums, galleries, lay on the beach in Greece, took train trips, restaurants and the whole works by myself.


Now you're making me all excited.. I'm travelling Europe (semi) solo next year. Well I'm taking my DD, so not really.

QUOTE (ossim roflcopter @ 11/11/2012, 11:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
To a pub on a saturday night? No. For that kind of outing I prefer company. I wouldn't feel comfortable thinking about my daughters (one is of legal drinking age), doing that without a friend to look out for them either.


That's a good point. That's one of the reasons I've never done it. Also because, when I do get the rare night off, I prefer to spend it reading or sleeping. laugh.gif

#25 FiveAus

Posted 11 November 2012 - 12:11 PM

I go away for weekends on my own. I show dogs and my husband hates dog shows, so I book a single motel room and take two dogs with me and I absolutely love it.

Sometimes I meet up with other dog show friends and we stay at the same motel or share a cabin, other times I spend the whole weekend alone. Sometimes I prefer alone......that way I call the shots on dinner, whether I watch TV or read, when I go for a walk, whether I go for a drive and take some photos, or whether I just hang around the motel or caravan park with the dogs and do nothing.

Either way, it's fun and good for the soul.




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