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#1 Tunip

Posted 10 November 2012 - 09:41 PM

Recently my university faculty nominated an article I wrote for a student award given by a well-respected industry body. Last week I received an email directly from the organisation inviting me to be a guest at a corporate function at which the winner will be announced and the award presented.

For background, it is a luncheon and the guest speaker is a very prominent figure within the industry. If I were to attend I would be travelling from another state. I won't know anyone at the function, and I'm not sure if anyone from my university will be attending (not that I'd know them anyway, I am an off-campus student).

Is it reasonable for my husband to accompany me? I know tickets are available to the public at a cost of approximately $100 a head, so the fact he doesn't work in the industry would not be an issue. I have never attended such a function and I suppose I don't want to appear incapable of going on my own or that my husband and I are 'joined at the hip'.

Do you think it reasonable to RSVP, mention that we will be buying a ticket for my husband, and ask that we be seated together? And -- as an aside, for those in the know -- is there much benefit in attending these networking-type dos? I am feeling rather clueless and cannot decide whether or not I should attend, and with or without husband if I do. I'd appreciate any advice. original.gif

#2 SugarMumma

Posted 10 November 2012 - 09:46 PM

QUOTE
I have never attended such a function and I suppose I don't want to  appear incapable of going on my own or that my husband and I are 'joined  at the hip'.


Could it not be seen as you having a supportive husband?

If he's happy with being a wall flower if you're hooked into the networking bit then I say take him original.gif

Edit to say congratulations on your work!

Edited by SugarMumma, 10 November 2012 - 09:47 PM.


#3 Wyn99

Posted 10 November 2012 - 09:48 PM

Often these industry bodies will advise prior if you have won the award, especially if you have to travel interstate & incur expenses.  It can't hurt to ask? Sounds like you would be seated at a table - I see no problem with your husband attending and your request to be seated together.

#4 joshuakalan

Posted 10 November 2012 - 09:54 PM

Congrats on the recognition.

It is usual practice to be advised if you are the recipient on an award. I would ask them if they are in the position to tell you before spengin money on airfares and a ticket for hubby.



#5 LambChop

Posted 10 November 2012 - 10:15 PM

Perfectly reasonable to take a partner, although having him there won't 'force' you to network as you might if you were flying solo.

My personal preference is to not be invited to 'work do's', they can be pretty boring  roll2.gif

#6 IsolaBella

Posted 10 November 2012 - 10:19 PM

I often go as Corporate Wife to things. Take your DH.

#7 tibs

Posted 10 November 2012 - 10:37 PM

I've been to these things as award nominees and winners and partners don't usually attend.  They tend to seat the award winners/nominees together sometimes with representatives of the unis or the sponsors or the industry bodies.

Just wanted to add, whoever organised your awards etc has probably 'bought' a whole table for the function so just because the function organisers are selling tickets for $100 doesn't mean a seat will be available on your table original.gif

Edited by tibs, 10 November 2012 - 10:40 PM.


#8 Tunip

Posted 10 November 2012 - 11:22 PM

Thanks for the replies. I had vaguely considered asking if I have even a hope of winning (given it'd be a relatively expensive lunch date) but I wasn't sure if it was appropriate to do so.

QUOTE (LambChop @ 10/11/2012, 10:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Perfectly reasonable to take a partner, although having him there won't 'force' you to network as you might if you were flying solo.

My personal preference is to not be invited to 'work do's', they can be pretty boring  roll2.gif


Unfortunately, I'm still at the stage of finding this sort of thing a novelty.  laughing2.gif

QUOTE (tibs @ 10/11/2012, 11:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I've been to these things as award nominees and winners and partners don't usually attend.  They tend to seat the award winners/nominees together sometimes with representatives of the unis or the sponsors or the industry bodies.

Just wanted to add, whoever organised your awards etc has probably 'bought' a whole table for the function so just because the function organisers are selling tickets for $100 doesn't mean a seat will be available on your table original.gif


Thanks, tibs. I thought as much, and had also assumed it might not be de rigueur for partners to attend. I suppose I can ask and see what the organiser has to say; if it turns out I'd be seated with representatives from my uni faculty it might be all the more reason to attend!

Edited by mummasaurus, 10 November 2012 - 11:34 PM.


#9 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 10 November 2012 - 11:35 PM

couldn't you make inquiries within your own faculty as to who else might attend and if they are taking their spouse/partner/SO (or whatever people call it today)?  That's probably what I would do to start with.  If you get no luck within your own faculty, then contact the dinner organiser's and have a quick chat to them.

As someone who attended similar functions, I don't take DH.  Most attendees don't, but some do.  Mind you, I have always known one or two other people from my own institution and it's rarely required an interstate trip.  When it did, the faculty paid for my expenses.  That's another reason why you should be bringing it up with people within your faculty.  They might be able to help cover expenses.

#10 Tunip

Posted 10 November 2012 - 11:58 PM

YodaTheWrinkledOne -- as an off-campus student living in another state I've never even met anyone from the faculty. I'm not sure I could reasonably ask to be told if those attending are bringing their spouses/partners, let alone ask for reimbursement of my travel costs. Maybe I didn't make it clear in my OP that I am a student, rather than a member of staff??

Edited by mummasaurus, 11 November 2012 - 12:10 AM.


#11 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 11 November 2012 - 12:16 AM

QUOTE (mummasaurus @ 10/11/2012, 11:58 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
YodaTheWrinkledOne -- as an off-campus student living in another state I've never even met anyone from the faculty. I'm not sure I could reasonably ask to be told if those attending are bringing their spouses/partners, let alone ask for reimbursement for my travel costs. Maybe I didn't make it clear in my OP that I am a student, rather than a member of staff?

surely your article submission was supported by someone from the faculty staff???  Or did you submit the article entirely by yourself with no help, assistance or knowledge from the faculty?  

Most students I know have some connection with a staff member, even if they are a completely off-campus online student.  And having been both student and staff, I have never seen a situation when the student was left to figure it out themselves.  Unless they never told anyone that they were invited in the first place (hard for faculty to help if they don't know until the student arrives at the dinner - I have seen that happen too).  The faculties I have worked in have usually tried to help out with the costs for students.  Maybe not the total cost, but some of it.  If they can.

If you don't ask, you'll never know.  Give it a go.  original.gif


#12 Tunip

Posted 11 November 2012 - 12:37 AM

Yes, the article was nominated by one of my lecturers and then submitted to the award-giving body by another senior lecturer. I actually had nothing to do with the process at all, other than writing the article in the first place and giving permission for it to be submitted.

I really am pretty clueless about the whole thing, and am not by nature a particularly self-promoting individual, so I certainly appreciate your advice. I don't really have a 'connection' with any of the faculty staff, but I will consider contacting the lecturer who submitted the piece for the award. Thanks. original.gif


#13 LynnyP

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:06 AM

Ive been to a few University and similar prizegiving things, I have rarely seen spouses.  If someone had their spouse with them, I don't think it would raise any eyebrows though.

#14 PurpleNess

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:15 AM

OP I think it would be fine to ask if your husband can attend as he's very proud & supportive of you. No harm there.

Also take your gorgeous son, you'll have everyone in the room wanting to say hello :-). ( Um this is a joke just incase anyone thinks I'm serious!)
Just had to mention he's too cute:-)

Congratulation on your recognition too.

Edited by PurpleNess, 11 November 2012 - 10:24 AM.


#15 codswallop

Posted 11 November 2012 - 10:19 AM

I don't think I would take a partner let alone a child to this kind of event.  It's not like it's an awards dinner or a ball, with a non-industry related celebration; it sounds more like a specialist event. However I can understand that it might all be a bit daunting since you don't know anyone.  

Would it be feasible for you to make a little "mini-break" out of it, and for your DH and little one to accompany you interstate, all have a nice stay in a different city, and then he'll be there to bolster you up prior and to debrief afterwards?

If this is an area where you have ability and interest and think you may like to develop your career further then it might be good for you to force yourself to network and make contacts, that's all I'm thinking.

#16 Tunip

Posted 11 November 2012 - 02:07 PM

Thank you for the additional replies.

QUOTE (dogged @ 11/11/2012, 10:49 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I don't think I would take a partner let alone a child to this kind of event.  It's not like it's an awards dinner or a ball, with a non-industry related celebration; it sounds more like a specialist event. However I can understand that it might all be a bit daunting since you don't know anyone.  

Would it be feasible for you to make a little "mini-break" out of it, and for your DH and little one to accompany you interstate, all have a nice stay in a different city, and then he'll be there to bolster you up prior and to debrief afterwards?

If this is an area where you have ability and interest and think you may like to develop your career further then it might be good for you to force yourself to network and make contacts, that's all I'm thinking.


We already have Nan lined up to look after our son overnight if we do go -- it would make for a nice little break! I agree with your last par, and think I might take the husband for the trip and attend the function by myself. I don't feel entirely comfortable attending on my own but I'm sure I'll be fine once I get there.

Thanks again.

QUOTE (PurpleNess @ 11/11/2012, 10:45 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
OP I think it would be fine to ask if your husband can attend as he's very proud & supportive of you. No harm there.

Also take your gorgeous son, you'll have everyone in the room wanting to say hello :-). ( Um this is a joke just incase anyone thinks I'm serious!)
Just had to mention he's too cute:-)

Congratulation on your recognition too.


Thanks for the lovely compliment and your kind words, PurpleNess. original.gif




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