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#1 yabbadabbadoo

Posted 09 November 2012 - 09:47 PM

In response to a thread on here about a facebook friend the OP has never met and various other ones before, I often wonder how people have facebook friends they have never met.  I don't mean it in a critical way, I am genuinely curious.  

Also when people on here talk about offensive things they have read on Facebook that have been posted by their friends, how are you friends with these people in the first place?  I am not questioning why you are friends with them, just how you are friends with people who have such extreme, offensive opinions, to the point that you have had to defriend them.  Again, not being critical, just curious?

#2 FeralHez

Posted 09 November 2012 - 09:53 PM

My fb friends I haven't met are friends from EB who live far away. Off the top of my head I've met everyone else, except my friend's dog as they are overseas lol
Eta - I've deleted one guy for offensive posts, and another girl has one more chance til I do the same.

Edited by HezzaB, 09 November 2012 - 09:56 PM.


#3 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 09 November 2012 - 09:54 PM

Most of my online FB friends are from EB. Them, and the ones I have met IRL from EB are generally better friends than my "real" friends (eg colleagues/acquaintances/school friends etc)

All my online FB friends generally have the same views as me hence why we get along, the extreme ones who are the most offensive are generally colleagues, ex school friends etc. But I don't bother keeping people as FB friend who offend or upset me, what would that achieve?

Edited by Sunnycat, 09 November 2012 - 09:54 PM.


#4 Busydays

Posted 09 November 2012 - 09:55 PM

I have a couple of FB friends who I have never met. They are friends or relatives of my DH... they are only connected to me as I add pics of our kids, and he doesn't. I can't imagine I would keep any friend who is offensive, annoying or insulting... even if they were family!

#5 sa5ha

Posted 09 November 2012 - 09:58 PM

These days, I have a pretty small Facebook friends list (100 and something) and the only "friends" I have that I haven't met are either people I know through work (but they work in different states or countries to me) and some extended family of my fiance's that I haven't met yet but that have added me.

However in the past when I played online video games and was more involved in different forums, I had quite a varied group of  "online friends" on Facebook. A lot of them were interesting characters that ended up being deleted from my Facebook for attention seeking or stupid/offensive things constantly being posted.

#6 Buggylicious

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:01 PM

I have around 20 from eb I've never met, I consider 7 of them my best friends (the rest of you are awesome too!). I have another 5 or 6 I've never met IRL that I've become friends with from old Facebook groups, we just always commented on stuff got in to conversations and eventually added each other. I've been friends with most of these people for 3+ years.

#7 Angelina Ballerina

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:03 PM

Most of the ladies from my DIG are FB friends that I haven't met in person.


#8 la di dah

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:04 PM

Friends from forums. Some I've known... holy crap... eight or so years...? Maybe ten?

Others are from EB. EB came much later though.

Met my husband on ye olde ancient forum, actually. Knew him for years online before we started online dating, then flew out to Australia having not met him in person. He didn't chop me up into pieces. If we weren't together no way would I be on EB annoying y'all, so blame him! biggrin.gif

#9 libbylu

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:05 PM

None.  There are 297 of them and I know all of them.  Those I know least are friends from school who I haven't seen for years, but did spend 6 years of my life with them.  There is noone who I have only met once or twice.  They really are all or have been friends at some point, all who I have spent a significant amount of time with.  Apart from one or two who I know outside of work, I don't make friends with work people on facebook.
I have had a few requests from friends of friends who I may have met at a party etc, and a few from friends of friends who I have never met (that I recall) but I never accept them.

#10 wilding

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:11 PM

All of mine I know. I'm not really into adding randoms I know from message boards and stuff.

#11 I'm Batman

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:12 PM

QUOTE (Buggylicious @ 09/11/2012, 11:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have around 20 from eb I've never met, I consider 7 of them my best friends (the rest of you are awesome too!). I have another 5 or 6 I've never met IRL that I've become friends with from old Facebook groups, we just always commented on stuff got in to conversations and eventually added each other. I've been friends with most of these people for 3+ years.

I know you'll be as funny, warm and radness as you are online, in real life.  I really want to buy a monster truck and visit you.

#12 zogee

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:14 PM

As a PP said I have my DIG friends who I haven't met IRL. We have chatted on EB for a year or so before we created a FB page.

#13 vanessa71

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:15 PM

I think there are roughly 30% of my FB friends that are from EB, I haven't met half of them. I do however feel closer to some that I have not met than I do to some of my IRL friends. We actually spend more together online than the time I spend with the IRL friends. There are also online friends that have become IRL friends.  wink.gif

I have a couple of friends that I have never met anywhere else but Facebook. I am not really likely to meet them as they live on the other side of the world.


#14 YellowKittyGlenn

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:15 PM

I have met every single friend on facebook. They are a mixture of family (aunts, uncles, counsins, siblings, parents) people I went to high school with that I am still friends with, people from various places I have worked, people from Contiki trip when I was 21 and still keep in touch with.

#15 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:17 PM

I have about 70 friends, more than half are family, the ones I haven't met are few; two of DHs o/s schoolmates, a few from EB original.gif

#16 yabbadabbadoo

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:18 PM

I have a couple of friends that I have never met anywhere else but Facebook. I am not really likely to meet them as they live on the other side of the world.


But how did you meet them on FB if you have never met them?

Edited by yabbadabbadoo, 09 November 2012 - 10:19 PM.


#17 yabbadabbadoo

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:19 PM

Grrr why did my quote not work properly?

#18 ShoeLady

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:23 PM

I am curious about this topic, how do you find friends whom you've never met?  Are they friends of friends?

#19 blackcat20

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:24 PM

I've got five. Three from a forum I've belonged to for years, so it feels like I know them even though we've never met (there is a fourth that I have met). And two that I know through my blog and theirs. Otherwise I have a strict meet before adding policy.

Edited by blackcat20, 09 November 2012 - 10:25 PM.


#20 la di dah

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:30 PM

Just counted. 30 friends I've never met in real life on my facebook.

My husband has met a couple of them IRL but I haven't, they're his relatives. Do they count? We can be sure they're real at least. (Unlike all you voices in my head)

Did not count the people I knew online and counted as online friends first but have met since, including several EBers. That'd be several more including DH and that just starts to get silly.



#21 Rainbow Brite

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:35 PM

I am only friends on FB with real friends. I do not accept requests from people I went to school with but was not friends with either. Why send a request? We weren't friends before so why after 15 years would you want to be friends now?

I have no interest at all in being "friends" with people I've never met.

Edited by Madam Plum, 09 November 2012 - 10:38 PM.


#22 vanessa71

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:35 PM

QUOTE (yabbadabbadoo @ 09/11/2012, 11:18 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
But how did you meet them on FB if you have never met them?


We have mutual interests and they added me as a friend, I accepted.


#23 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:39 PM

I have amazeballs friend, met via EB. There is a core group of "haven't actually met them" friends who have helped me through really hard times as much as my "real life" friends have  wub.gif Some of them I have had a chance to meet, and some I really look forward to meeting when we are in the same town. There is also a much bigger group that I think are really amazing, funny, intelligent, thoughful, politically and socially aware women who I would hang out with if we were in the same place. Consider yourself warned, FB friends!

And then there are the locals, who I hit it off with online and enjoy hanging out with  original.gif

I have never had any of these horror story, offensive FB experience, thank goodness!  FB is just a method of communication, but one that makes keeping in touch with out of town friends so much easier.

#24 Magnus

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:49 PM

I only have a few who I haven't met in real life. Some of them are extended family in another country (cousins, second cousins, great uncles, that kind of thing). I'm really glad to have them on Facebook, cos it turns out they are great people.

Some are from back in prehistoric times when I had a Livejournal, so I had a few people who followed my blog and some others I met from groups I joined, so we would have had interests in common to have joined the same groups.

I have added a very few who are friends of real life friends, so I've heard heaps about that person, so I almost feel like I know them.

I have some very offensive facebook friends. They are all close relatives. I have deleted some of them, and reported others, but there are some I can't delete and still have a good conscience. Oh, and a friend's brother who is a new facebook friend and I didn't realise he was offensive until I added him.

#25 Kwyjibo

Posted 09 November 2012 - 10:53 PM

Out of my 70 odd FB friends, around 3 or 4 I have never met in RL. They live in other states but we hit it off in forums (mainly here).

Edited by Kwyjibo, 09 November 2012 - 10:54 PM.





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