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#1 Kalota

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:13 PM

...but you're invited to the church ceremony?

-edited for privacy-

Edited by Kalota, 05 January 2013 - 09:38 PM.

#2 gemmaw

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:17 PM

I'd probably get her a card just from myself personally but not a present. You have already contributed to a present through work. Just my opinion though.

#3 aluminium

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:19 PM

I would probably give a card.

#4 HRH Countrymel

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:19 PM

A card is fine.  You were a part of the office present and chose it for heavens sake!

Relax and I hope you enjoy the ceremony.

#5 skylark

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:20 PM

I've always just given a card only in those situations. Who cares what other colleagues do, if you're not invited to the reception then you are really under no obligation whatsoever.

#6 ~Nic~

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:20 PM

QUOTE (gemmaw @ 09/11/2012, 08:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'd probably get her a card just from myself personally but not a present. You have already contributed to a present through work. Just my opinion though.

Agreed... and I wouldn't take it tomorrow as then someone has to carry it around for her, and odds are, it will get lost somewhere and she won't realise that you did it anyway... I would buy a nice card and if you have her home address, mail it to her early next week (Congratualtions on your wedding, you looked beautiful, thanks for involving me, looking forward to seeing the pics when you get back etc etc etc)

#7 MsDemeanor

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:20 PM

I wouldn't buy a present if I didn't go to the reception. You spent a lot on her already.

#8 namie

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:21 PM

I would just give a card.

#9 Therese

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:22 PM

I would also get her a card but not a present.

#10 katniss

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:23 PM

When a colleague of ours got married, we were invited only to the ceremony because she had started not long before she got married. We all chipped in for a present and all signed a card. I didn't buy her any further presents.

I don't think you need to buy anymore.

#11 Kalota

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:31 PM

Thanks everyone! I'll buy a nice card. I don't have her address, so do you think it's okay if I just leave it on her desk for when she returns to work in a week?

#12 luke's mummu

Posted 09 November 2012 - 07:57 PM

QUOTE (Kalota @ 09/11/2012, 08:31 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks everyone! I'll buy a nice card. I don't have her address, so do you think it's okay if I just leave it on her desk for when she returns to work in a week?

Yes I think that's a great idea, she will definitely get it that way.

#13 B.feral3

Posted 09 November 2012 - 08:27 PM

I think you've contributed more than enough.

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