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DD7 birthday coming up.


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#1 PinkyBlue

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:36 PM

Hello all!!

Just a little bit of a fluff question.

A school mum has invited about 7 of her DD school friends, and assuming family members to her DD 7th birthday.

She has been taking photos of what her daughter has picked out of catelogues and posting them on facebook...okay fair enough.

However, I received a text message of 2 photos of things, that are intended for me to buy her. Randomly, I didnt ask for this.

In the meantime, because my DD is actually very close to her DD, I purchased a $20 watch the same as my daughters, because this is what the girl asked me for, infront of her mother, which I then later said I managaed to get the last one. Additionally, her daugher was having a Tantrum over the fact that my DD has an iPad pen and she didnt. I asked her mum, that I could get her one for her birthday, another $10, which I proceeded to say to the mother, that I managed to find her daugher one.

Yesterday, the mother said, that if I wanted that there was 2 x $30 itunes cards for sale for the price of $50.

Now is it just me or is this a little rude?

Like I said our daughters are very close, so I would be happy to spend $50 total, including the 1.5hours travel to go to the party, which everyone going to will have to travel as its far for all.

But considering she knows i've already spend $30 and then receiving sms of other expensive things to buy...what should I do? bite the bullet and get something they chose, or just choose something that i consider in my budget but also that the daughter would like. I used to babysit the daughter so I know her well.

(fyi: she probably spends about $40-$50 on my daughter).

#2 Riotproof

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:37 PM

Oh no, it's not just you. That's definitely rude.

#3 Queen Yoda

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:39 PM

You've bought the gift your DD is going to give to her friend.  And you know the friend will enjoy the gift and be appreciative.

Ignore the mother.  She can suggest all she likes, she can't force anyone to buy anything.

And it's irrelevant how much the other mother spends.  That's her choice.  And for all you know, she could have bought everything on sale.  Who knows, who cares?

#4 SeaPrincess

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:42 PM

Rude, and off-putting.

You've got a gift that you know your DD's friend will love. Ignore the mother.

R

#5 Baggy

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:44 PM

I think she sounds quite rude.

I wouldn't worry about buying anything extra. Just tell the mum that you have already gotten her DD a present if she suggests more things to you.

#6 chic mummy

Posted 09 November 2012 - 02:46 PM

QUOTE (Riotproof @ 09/11/2012, 03:37 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Oh no, it's not just you. That's definitely rude.



very rude. not you at all.

#7 wombat

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:36 PM

I'm actually lost for words.  That's unbelievably rude.

#8 Mrs Dinosaurus

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:40 PM

Gold, who ARE these people and where do I meet them? I would love someone like this to "play" with laughing2.gif

PS - Not you OP, definitely her!

#9 LoudMuffin

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:53 PM

I would also say thanks but DD already picked out what she wants to give so and so.

She can hardly tell your daughter that she's not allowed to give the presents she wants.

If you're worried about the difference money wise there's heaps of things you could add for $10-$20.

Maybe people have complained before about her being hard to buy for so she's trying to make it easy but she should be happy enough to back off a bit if people have their own ideas in mind.

#10 Turn left

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:53 PM

No way.  That's so rude!  There's no way I would remain friends with people like that.  

Let your DD attend the party and take the gifts you've already bought (which are more than enough), then cut ties with these people.





#11 ComradeBob

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:54 PM

Before I opened this thread, I though wishing wells were the height of bad taste.

Now, I know better  blink.gif

#12 Gegemite

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:55 PM

Incredibly rude. I'd reply to her texts with this...


QUOTE (Rawr @ 09/11/2012, 12:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I would just say, 'thanks, but I've already bought her present'.

Very rude.



#13 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 09 November 2012 - 03:56 PM

Rudes a nice way to put it.
Stick with what you got op, sounds like she doing a present grab for things she wants to get but dont wanna pay for herself.


#14 foom

Posted 09 November 2012 - 04:56 PM

The sms'd photos is over the top. Maybe she has just plain forgotten that you mentioned getting the other things. That sounds like me - the forgetting, not the sending the photos. Sending photos I would only do if someone asked me. I'm half way through an email with a whole pile of photos of stuff I want for Christmas as I've been *asked* for some present ideas.

But the itunes card thing - could she have told you in case you wanted to buy some for Christmas presents (for anyone, not necessarily her daughter). I know I like hearing about them being on special so I can stock up for presents.

#15 Gembac8019

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:43 PM

yep, it's rude. give her what YOU bought. You don't want her to have this habit every single birthday, xmas etc do you? nip it in the bud while you can.

#16 SlinkyMalinki

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:46 PM

Rude.

#17 Propaganda

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:49 PM

She sounds very rude and quite unlikeable.

#18 jayskette

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:53 PM

biggrin.gif oh no imagine that DD's wedding and her mum would be doing the bridal registries!

#19 Soontobegran

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:53 PM

Bizarre behaviour and what a shocking example to set for her children.
Where do these people exist? I have never ever met anyone who'd think of doing something like this.

#20 Guest_Sunnycat_*

Posted 09 November 2012 - 05:57 PM

Beyond rude!

#21 bakesgirls

Posted 09 November 2012 - 06:01 PM

Very rude behaviour. Just give her DD what you have already purchased.

Slightly off topic- where do people like this exist? I want to meet one. I could have some fun with someone like that dev (6).gif

#22 FeralZombieMum

Posted 09 November 2012 - 06:03 PM

QUOTE (jayskette @ 09/11/2012, 06:53 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
biggrin.gif oh no imagine that DD's wedding and her mum would be doing the bridal registries!

Maybe the mum will insist all women wear a fascinator. wink.gif

#23 adl

Posted 09 November 2012 - 06:06 PM

ohmy.gif

Seriously I really wonder where these people are, or who? Is it geographical , cultural, generation/ age??   Is it from some tv / movie reference I have missed?

How very dare of her!!!!  Amd yes I agree I would have some fun with these "peoples"

#24 PattiODoors

Posted 09 November 2012 - 06:07 PM

Rude.
Sounds like an acquaintance of mine in fact.

#25 Bunsen the feral

Posted 09 November 2012 - 06:15 PM

I think what she really wants for her birthday is a recorder and some glitter and some of those little bead things that get absolutely everywhere...




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