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Posted 07 November 2012 - 04:26 PM
I am just wondering if anyone has thought about changing obstetricians during their pregnancy?
This is my first baby, so I know I am probably not as relaxed as most seasoned mums. But I am just feeling a bit off about my Ob. The appointments feel rushed, even my DH mentioned today that he got a weird vibe about the doc today, like he was rushing us and giving us curt responses.
But it's not just his manner, I have had to wait 2 weeks for the results of my NT test and all he said was low risk, nothing more needs to be done. Which is good, but most other people seem to be much more informed than I am.
When I was 11 weeks, he told me my due date was one date but then when I went to have the testing done, the ultrasound and blood yes person said that my due date was another date.
Everything seems so confusing and muddled.
Is it inappropriate to call another Ob to see if they would continue being my practitioner? How do I get my records and info? Any advice or info would be greatly appreciated
Posted 07 November 2012 - 04:32 PM
I don't know how much explaining you want for the NT scan.. they generally tell you what risk you are and a figure of 1/xxx. that's pretty much it... unless you are very high risk, they go into it more.
As for being told one date and then having the ultrasound etc done, and being told another date that is very very common. It happens to many women. You would be suprised.
Edited by princeza, 07 November 2012 - 04:32 PM.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 04:37 PM
If you dont feel comfortable to ask questions, and that you wont ever be comfortable with your current OB, I would change obstetricians, if its relatively easy and cheap to do.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 04:42 PM
Is it inappropriate to call another Ob to see if they would continue being my practitioner? How do I get my records and info?
Absolutely not! You have the right to change OBs as you see fit.
As a FTM myself, I got an earful from one OB's receptionist saying that it was inappropriate for me to change OBs once I had booked an appointment with her OB. I felt really uncomfortable as I wanted to find out more about this OB given that my first choice OB was unavailable; however, I was beginning to get stressed that I wouldn't find another OB so went ahead and booked the appointment even though I had reservations.
That evening, I went a spoke with a family friend, who has been a midwife for 30 years. She said if I'm not 100% comfortable or confident with my OB then it is fine to change and reassured that this happens all the time.
After speaking with her, I called up and cancelled the appointment the next day.
I really like my current OB. He not the warmest, fuzziest OB out there but I have every confidence in him as a practitioner. And he is very responsive in terms of letting me know test results and explaining what they mean.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 05:00 PM
My ob is great but she's expensive. Good obs also book out quickly. Call around and check availability with some of the other obs if you want to change. You may end up paying another booking in fee. Have you thought of going in with a list of questions for the ob or trying to talk to them about your concerns?
Unless you've heard that someone is good, I'd also be aware you may change and not like the next one either.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 05:07 PM
I changed OB's after my first couple of appointments and haven't looked back. You can absolutely do it and shouldn't feel and hesitation to do so.
I rang the OB I wanted to go to and begged his receptionist to fit me in (after explaining why I no longer wanted to continue with my first OB) and she got me in within a week.
Go for it!
Posted 07 November 2012 - 05:09 PM
Your dates usually change based on your scans, unless your ob has done a scan he is only going on the information that you have given him.
Edited by follies, 07 November 2012 - 05:10 PM.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 05:15 PM
I changed mine about 20 weeks in. Best decision I ever made. You have to trust your obstetrician.
Posted 07 November 2012 - 08:01 PM
Thank you for your replies, I know it sounds a little over-reactive but I just have no one else to talk to.
I moved interstate with my DH and I have very few girlfriends with children o ask advice from. My DH is also a very "don't rock the boat" kind of person, so he doesn't even want o talk bout it with me.
Because we have had previous miscarriages (under th care of the same Ob), we have been to see he OC about 4 times, with 4 ultrasounds (5 including the NT) scan. I understand that it's hard to predict dates etc but it just seems like every time I go there I can get no clear idea of what week I am in. I thought tomorrow would mark the beginning of week 15 based on what he said the last time. But today he said that he was going to continue considering my due date being 8 May which makes me 14 weeks according to my calendar! I'm so confused.
The other thing that is concerning me is that he said he was non-judgmental and unbiased in relation to the 12 week NT testing and the choices that had to be made after the results were known. But then he stressed high likely a miscarriage was in th event of a CVS and said that we would in all likelihood lose our baby trying to get a result.
His tone wasn't unbiased and I felt very judged for wanting to have the 12 week NT scan. I am 38, so the risk is there.
Anyway, I thank you for your replies and advice and for reading if you have got this far!
I might call another Ob tomorrow to see what I can do
Posted 08 November 2012 - 09:48 AM
Yeah my friend is going down the private path and chose her OB based on her GP's advice. She seemed to have dropped the ball from my friend along the way. She didn't even get her referred for a NT scan until the 18 week mark which is quite late. When I told her I got mine done at 13 weeks she was shocked.
I am TOTALLY happy with my midwife. I am going public (had private health but dropped it altogether after a disastrous episode where even though we had cover and were fully paid for hospital they refused to commit to helping us when my husband almost cut his tendon in his foot - wanted to prove it was not pre-existing! Yeah sure...) and the service and care I'm getting from my midwife programme is amazing. She's available 24/7 on the phone and helped me during a little scare 2 weeks ago. My midwife and her team - who I get to meet once I start going to the clinics at 24 weeks - will be with me while I give birth while the OB only shows up when things get serious anyway.
OP - have you got the number for a midwife or the midwife who will be involved in your care during delivery? Perhaps getting in touch with them will help with your little questions. Specialists are always busy - Nurses are the best I reckon.
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