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#1 pefeli

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:17 AM

I am just after a bit of what do you think?

I came home after a weekend away and there was an email saying our computer usage was being slowed due to too many downloads. I asked my DH if he knew anything about it and he explained that a friend had been over with his daughter and the daughter had played on the computer(she is 10).

I thought that I would check out what she had been doing to use so much of our downlaods so clicked on the computer history button - please excuse my terminology I know very little about computers. Well the extra sites that had been visited were pornography. But they were visited on both nights that I was away and the little girl was only visiting one night.

My DH explains it by saying he did not visit those sites and that they must have been 'pop-ups' while he was playing games on the internet.

What do you think - do 'pop-ups' that appear while you are on the internet appear on the computers history or do the sites need to be visited before they appear?

On a side note - I would not have a problem with him visiting porn sites it is the fact that I think he is lying to me that I have worries about. Something like this happened once before where downloaded videos of porn on our photo files was found and he swears he never put them there. How I wish I understood computers!  sad.gif

#2 Gossipgirl

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:21 AM

No idea really but I would think pop ups wouldn't be classed as a page download.


#3 HerringToMarmalade

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:24 AM

I think the history depends on your computer. Mine sometimes doesn't register pages I've had open for awhile, but will sometimes register pop-ups. I'd be looking more at how many were listed and if it looked like they were different pages of one site. I wouldn't have thought he'd have encountered many pop-ups normally. Do you often get pop-ups? Most browsers block them.

#4 DK3000

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:27 AM

How much data was downloaded OP?

Just visiting a page, or having a page 'pop-up' doesnt usually use that much data, and even many hours of just reading pages doesn't use that much.

Watching videos usually uses the most data.

Go to the sites that were visited and see if they have a video watching facility.

You'll probably be able to work it out that way.

#5 amabanana

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:28 AM

QUOTE (pefeli @ 07/11/2012, 10:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
But they were visited on both nights that I was away and the little girl was only visiting one night.


There is your answer right there.

QUOTE (pefeli @ 07/11/2012, 10:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
On a side note - I would not have a problem with him visiting porn sites it is the fact that I think he is lying to me that I have worries about. Something like this happened once before where downloaded videos of porn on our photo files was found and he swears he never put them there. How I wish I understood computers!  sad.gif


He's probably embarrassed/ashamed.  I would talk to him and tell him what you wrote here; that you don't have a problem with him visiting the site but you would if he was lying to you.


#6 *Lib*

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:30 AM

If I'd been caught looking at porn I'd probably lie too. Does it really matter? He's an adult. You said you'd have no problem with him looking at porn. Its like walking in on him mid w**k. Mortifying.

#7 Feraldadathome

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:33 AM

You away, porn sites visited at night only. I think you need to be st6raight up with your DH that you don't mind overly, but that he needs to be straight up about the porn. It's the only logical answer

#8 SeaPrincess

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:33 AM

QUOTE (amabanana @ 07/11/2012, 07:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
He's probably embarrassed/ashamed.  I would talk to him and tell him what you wrote here; that you don't have a problem with him visiting the site but you would if he was lying to you.

Thereby accusing him of lying to you.

You cant win, so if you don't care, let it go. If you're concerned that children may have been exposed to porn, then stress to your DH the importance of the children being supervised when they are on the computer.  TBH, it doesn't sound like it was the children though.

R


#9 Awesome101

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:37 AM

Haha - Busted! Poor guy must be so embarrassed. If you go onto your internet account and login you can actually see what the exact usage history for each night is. (if you dont know how to do that, just ring your provider and they will tell you) Looking at webpages doesn't use a lot of data, watching videos and playing games does. Pop-ups should affect it much, if at all.

Just tell your hubby that your fine with him watching porn, but please try and do it at the end of your internet cycle so that you don't have to go through the month with slow browsing speed. Act like you know what your talking about and he'll know that he can't lie to you about it original.gif. I don't think it will need to be discussed further.




#10 opethmum

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:38 AM

I would consider him watching porn, pop ups rarely occurs when visiting genuine sites. He knows you are not good with technology and was hoping that you would stop asking after he told you it was pop ups. So he is lying to you one way or another and manipulating you.
I would take it up with him and not budge, you know what is going on and he is hoping that you will turn a blind eye and he will manipulate and turn it back on you and make it your fault somehow. You really do not want to go through the history list and look at the porn sites he is visiting the fact that he lied is a big enough issue.
I would take up the case in point of lying and manipulation, porn is porn and it is not really a grey area. Ask why he felt the need to look at it and lie to you. Tell him you are not a prude and would appreciate him being open and honest about it. Yes it does not make it ok he viewed porn but understanding why he did it and lying to you is another thing.
Good luck and I hope you can get to the truth and sort this out quickly.

#11 pefeli

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:43 AM

Thank you everyone for your thoughts.

I can't tell how much data was downloaded and can not visit porn during the day to check it out as my 3 year old is sitting next to me when I am on the computer.

shmach - I think you are right. I feel I can't win in a discussion with him about it. He denies that he has visited the sites even though I said last time as well I have no problem with it but don't want it in photo files that I access with our children.

Lib- I guess I am having a problem with how I feeel he is easily lying to me and confusing me with computer lingo when i ask questions about it so was trying to figure out if it could have happened how he said.

But as people have said it might be possible that the history is from pop ups I will just have to accept that it can happen and leave it there.

#12 InsertAwesomeHere

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:49 AM

Depending on the browser used you should be able to click to expand and see if more than one page on that site was listed.

For example if you visited google you'd see
www.google.com

If you then googled things you'd see
www.google.com
            kids clothes
            helping kids with homework
            something else creative

Also on that note if he googled the sites you'd see that under the google link as well.

Maybe download a separate browser and just tell him it's there so he can use that and the kids shouldn't have too much chance of opening it from the browser history.

Hope that makes sense.

#13 pefeli

Posted 07 November 2012 - 09:49 AM

Opps, I am slow to respond with my little helper wanting me to play with her at the same time.

I will bring it up again and be able to use some of the computer talk here to sound like I know what I am saying and be confident about it so he will not lie again - if that is what he is doing....

I think if I am honest and open then maybe he will feel that he can be too.

Thank you for your help.

#14 Funwith3

Posted 07 November 2012 - 11:22 AM

I think that if you download porno once, something in cyberspace remembers and you are then constantly sent pornographic pop ups and ads. Id say your DH did download pornographic images on an occasion, and now he's being haunted by them!!

#15 SuburbnJournalista

Posted 07 November 2012 - 11:42 AM


He's lying. Pop-ups don't use up data allowance. (they do come up if you've been visiting dodgy sites!)

I would have a huge issue with the lying (which is probably like others have said, he's embarrassed)

If he doesn't fess up, I'd have him sit down with you while you ring the internet service provider to get to the bottom of it. I would not let it go until the truth comes out, otherwise he'll think he can lie to you easily.

To quickly see internet history CTRL + H

#16 amabanana

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:01 PM

QUOTE (shmach @ 07/11/2012, 10:33 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thereby accusing him of lying to you.

You cant win, so if you don't care, let it go. If you're concerned that children may have been exposed to porn, then stress to your DH the importance of the children being supervised when they are on the computer.  TBH, it doesn't sound like it was the children though.

R


It's not about winning.  It's about lying and how that makes the OP feel.  Would we let our children 'get away with it' if they were lying to us?  It doesn't need to be an accusation, just a statement along the lines of, however the porn got there, if you were to look I would prefer if you told me when I asked.  Just a thought.

Someone needs to teach the OP's DH how to do private browsing.  unsure.gif  Not that I would know anything about that and would never use it.  unsure.gif

#17 Sweet like a lemon

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:03 PM

Most browsers (Internet Explorer; Firefox; etc) have pop ups disabled by default but even if they aren't disabled they don't count toward your data usage. Video streaming and downloads would do that. Further more pop ups do not show in your history. The only URLs in your history are ones you've typed and / or clicked on.

How much is your limit? (500MB, 1GB, 500GB, etc.) YouTube videos could push you over quickly if your plan is under 20GB. Worth looking at as well as the Download history on your browser. If there is nothing incriminating in downloads and your plan is pathetically small then while your DH has surfed porn sites, he hasn't killed your allowance with porn vids.

Edited by ForsakenTruth, 07 November 2012 - 12:17 PM.


#18 steppy

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:03 PM

He's obviously been downloading porn. You don't bust your data limit on two visits to a porn page. He's either downloading or watching streaming video.

#19 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:10 PM

I would class this as a small, annoying lie.  Along the lines of a frustrating habit my husband has...I might say to him, "You need to clean the floors, they are filthy." and he will reply, "I did them twice this week".  I know he didn't...he hasn't been alone in the house at any point, but he just refuses to admit when he has been a bit slack.  Just pointless fibs to avoid discussions people don't want to have.

I would be more annoyed at using up our downloads.

#20 Feraldadathome

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:16 PM

QUOTE (amabanana @ 07/11/2012, 01:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Someone needs to teach the OP's DH how to do private browsing.  unsure.gif  Not that I would know anything about that and would never use it.  unsure.gif
unsure.gif

Edited by dadathome, 07 November 2012 - 12:17 PM.


#21 Nofliesonme

Posted 07 November 2012 - 12:26 PM

Putting aside my house rules on porn, you cant use up downloads  on pop ups. They use stuff all. I'd Be clicking on the history and watching or looking at what he was watching etc.... Nextly I'd be calling him in his lying, any other opinions I have regarding porn in my house is unrelated but the lying about it is not on in any form in my opinion....

#22 Natalie26

Posted 07 November 2012 - 01:08 PM

I've caught my DH out before looking at questionable web sites.  He did a similar back peddle. I told him that I don't have an issue with him looking at porn as such - but more that our kids could have stumbled on it with a few wrong clicks.  He hadn't considered this!!  It is a bit like leaving Playboys in the top drawer under some stuff rather than hiding them in the cupboard.




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