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#1 LookMumNoHands

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:03 PM

I've found a beautiful rescue cat, who I'm told is very affectionate. He really wants a new home and I'm sure I would be his perfect owner.

DH is not against me getting a cat, but is worried about it being dangerous when the baby comes along in May.

Is it true that cats can smother babies by sleeping on their heads?

If you were me, would you get him?

#2 noi'mnot

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:07 PM

Get it.

My understanding is that there is no recorded case in history, around the world, of a cat smothering an infant to death.

We had no problems with two cats and a baby. Just made sure that the baby and cat situation was supervised.

A lot of people replace the bedroom door that the baby will be in with a flyscreen door as a precaution, the internets told me. Some alternatively cut out a panel at the top of the door and replace it with flyscreen, both options keep a cat out if you're really really worried.

My partner's family were TRULY PARANOID about the cats smothering the baby, and took many many months to calm down over it, but eventually realised it's a non-risk.

Get the cat! Yay! original.gif

#3 strawberry blondes

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:11 PM

I have had 3 DD's so far and several cats and not once has a cat wanted to sit on any of my babies! I'm due im May too and considering getting another cat at the moment. I'm pretty sure that story is an old wives tale. You can also get mosquito type nets to go over the babies cot, they are about $99 and have a zip for easy access.



#4 Apageintime

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:11 PM

Get him.

The smothering is an old wives tale.

In my experience cats hate babies anyway, theyre noisy and don't provide food and compete for lap space. So cats normally avoid babies.

#5 la di dah

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:12 PM

I have two cats and am TTC. I would like a crib with a mosquito netting like this. Not because I am so afraid of the cats doing something to the baby but I do know they will see the crib w/o baby as nothing more than a new laundry basket and they will try to set up camp and shed and sleep in there.  

And also my MIL will eventually catch them doing that and have a heart attack.

Most cats tend to ignore babies as loud, messy, and not their problem.

#6 LookMumNoHands

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:12 PM

Just had another chat with him, and now he''s added toxoplasmosis to the list.  rant.gif cry1.gif

#7 la di dah

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:15 PM

QUOTE (LookMumNoHands @ 06/11/2012, 03:12 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Just had another chat with him, and now he''s added toxoplasmosis to the list.  rant.gif cry1.gif


Interesting fact: Indoor cats that are fed proper cat food don't generally carry toxoplasmosis as cats get that from eating birds and rodents. You're likelier to get it, gardening, from a cat that lives down the road and wanders than you are from your own indoor cat.

And honestly the big precaution they recommend is getting someone else to change the litterbox, and to change it often. Though maybe that's why he's holding out?

#8 noi'mnot

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:18 PM

Toxoplasmosis is easy to deal with - first, you get a blood test to see if you've been exposed to it earlier. If you have, then you don't need to worry. Otherwise, he just changes the litter. It's not a big deal.

#9 strawberry blondes

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:19 PM

If he really loved you he would let you have the cat and he would be happy to change the little trays!!!!  original.gif wink.gif

#10 opethmum

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:24 PM

Ha! He is trying to get out of changing litter trays. Get the cat and I am looking forward to seeing the pic!!

#11 Felix101

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:40 PM

We have two cats that we've had for years, and DS, our first baby, was born in May. The cats are so completely disinterested in him! Particularly now he can grab a handful of fluff... (They're Persians)

We have a mosquito net (from ikea) that goes over the cot so they can't get in - they're otherwise allowed in his room (although he's still in the basinet in our room...). We just let the cats familiarise themselves with any baby things that happen as they can get a bit stressed with change (e.g. When we set up the baby room, they were allowed in to go and check everything out - if we locked them out they would just want to get to it, so we let them in and they don't care).

After doing all this research into how to keep cats and bub happy and safely together I thought i was totally prepared. Until about 3 months after DS was born when I realised his basinet, which is next to the bed, is completely cat accessible... Haha - but again they have absolutely no interest, and they stay clear of it (as well as his floor rugs, bouncer etc - they seem to just know). Some people lock the cats out of their/ the baby room but we haven't and have had no need to. original.gif

As for toxoplasmosis..... As a PP said, just get DH to change the kitty litter. Although, I have to disagree with this being easy, as suggested by a pp wink.gif well, it wasn't in this household anyway. Apparently, despite it needing to be done every day for nine months, DH just could not get his head around it. I had to 'remind' him constantly!!! Haha

Good luck original.gif

#12 Tarantara

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:42 PM

I have 4 cats. Baby has made it to almost 8 months without having a cat on his head. Cats have always been locked out of the bedroom, at first I had a net thing on his cot but I got over it pretty quickly - I keep the cats out of his room when he is asleep.

I will admit there was one occasion when he was tucked into his pram bassinet with a nice soft blanket when I came back from doing something, and found a bad Siamese cat curled up on his legs. That had a lot more to do with the soft furry blanket than any desire to sit on the baby.

#13 raone

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:47 PM

My cat is scared of my two month old.She came up for a sniff early on and got a hit from his flailing arms lol. She will go near and sniff. But she runs if he moves which is most of the time. I also just keep her out of where he is asleep.

#14 wtp***81

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:52 PM

Re the toxoplasmosis issue - We have a cat and my OB was not all that concerned when I bought it up.  He just said don't change the litter myself as a precaution.  Also that if the litter gets changed every day then it doesn't ever have the chance to become infectious.  I also have to remind my DH daily though original.gif

We have now made our bedroom a cat free zone in preparation for the baby arriving as the baby will sleep in our room, so we just leave the door shut and don't let him in there.  Also our cat hates babies and children in general and will run away and hide as soon as he sees/hears one, so I doubt that he will be actively approaching the baby anyway.

My inlaws are also paranoid about this issue - the first thing they said when they found out I was pregnant was "what are you going to do with your cat?"  I think they were secretly hoping I was going to get rid of him but there is no way that is going to happen!!

Good luck I hope your DH gives in!

#15 HerringToMarmalade

Posted 06 November 2012 - 02:52 PM

A friend's cat used to sleep on her little sister's face, but she was old enough to wake up and push it off. I wouldn't have thought it was very common, but pretty easy to avoid if you're worried.

#16 FeralRebelWClaws

Posted 06 November 2012 - 03:13 PM

QUOTE (strawberry blondes @ 06/11/2012, 03:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If he really loved you he would let you have the cat and he would be happy to change the little trays!!!!  original.gif wink.gif


Tell him it's training for nappies heheheh

I would have no concern with bringing a baby home and I have 5 cats. Though mine would probably be like LDD's and would set up camp in the cot and think it's their bed, so I might keep them out if there was an issue there, but I'd see first original.gif


#17 LookMumNoHands

Posted 06 November 2012 - 03:25 PM

HE'S SAID YES!!! eexcite.gif eexcite.gif eexcite.gif eexcite.gif    

Thanks to you lovely ladies  biggrin.gif .

I've emailed the rescue place, and hopefully will hear from them soon.

One thing he will not back down from, is that it must be an indoor cat only (which is fine by me) so I'll just have to check out that detail.

Can't wait for kitty smooches!

#18 noi'mnot

Posted 06 November 2012 - 03:29 PM

Hooray!!! original.gif

Indoor cat only is for the best, it's much safer for the cat.

Can't wait to see pics! original.gif

#19 Princess.cranky.pants

Posted 06 November 2012 - 03:56 PM

Glad to see kitty has a new home!  

We have 3 kids and two cats. I was never concerned about having cats around babies and it's never been a problem. Our cats stayed well clear of the kids when they were babies. They hated the unpredictable noises (like crying) that babies make.

It might help to know that Toxoplasmosis is not very common in cats. None of the DR's or midwifes who cared for me over 3 pregnancies ever mentioned it. I asked an OB about it and they said that it was very low risk. There is actually more risk of getting toxo from eating under cooked meat and unwashed vegetables.

Hope we get so see photo's. original.gif

#20 strawberry blondes

Posted 06 November 2012 - 04:14 PM

YAYYYY!!!!! Kitty smooches! You won't regret it!

You could always get a cat run outside so he can get some fresh air. My female cat couldn't care less if she went out or stayed in but my male loves sitting out on our deck watching the world go by.  original.gif

#21 missy78

Posted 06 November 2012 - 04:16 PM

You know the rules! Kitteh thread requires pictures....

#22 Feral*Spikey*

Posted 06 November 2012 - 04:54 PM

Yay to you and your DH!  eexcite.gif

And indoor kitties are the safest and healthiest kitties. Mine is 20yo, never set a paw outdoors. llove.gif

#23 Kay1

Posted 06 November 2012 - 04:58 PM

Rubbish. Its an old wive's tale.  I had a cat before my kids came along and she has never been very interested in them at all, until they are old enough to give head rubs LOL. We did make sure the baby's room door was shut when they were sleeping but she never even tried to get near them.

#24 PurpleNess

Posted 06 November 2012 - 05:09 PM

Get the cat & teach the cat to stay out of areas such as your room or the nursery.

We have 2 cats & were worried but honestly once bub started his high pitch crying the cats scattered lol.

We also got a Valco bassinet that has a mesh zip up hood for extra protection as I was a bit paranoid in the beginning. Just keep the cat out of your room ( if that's where baby will sleep) and you won't have any problems.

http://valco.com.au/product/rico_bassinet

My son is nearly 11 months old & my older cat loves him, she lets him pat her ( hit & pull her!) and is quite happy to chill out around him, I think they'll be great friends.  It's great for kids to have pets. The younger one keeps a distance so no chance he'd sleep on him - plus thats a huge wives tale , I researched & found no recorded cases....

#25 *Ker*

Posted 06 November 2012 - 07:02 PM

My cats always avoided my kids until they got older and could play and feed them. before that, they were boring to a cat.

Kudos to you both for choosing a rescue!!!





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