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#1 Feral Mozzie

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:08 PM

I see a lot of of criticism of names on EB based on the fact that the child will need to spell their name for their whole life. I am just curious if this really bothers people?

I have a name that has been in the top 20 girls names for most of the last 30 years. There is only one commonly used spelling (I have met many women with the same name as me, and we all spell it exactly the same way). And yet, I have to spell it for people all the time. It's never occurred to me that this is a burden, or that it should bother me.

Even if you call your kid something fairly standard like Catherine/Katherine/Kathryn, or Aimee/Amy/Amie, there is a good chance they will need to spell it for people.

So does it bother you when you need to spell your name out? Is it important to you in naming your kids?


#2 jai*

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:11 PM

Nope. I have to spell my name every single time. Doesn't bother me at all.

#3 Rosie R

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:13 PM

I have a fairly uncommon name and have to spell it regularly.

It doesn't bother me having to do so. original.gif

#4 wallofdodo

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:13 PM

My name needs to be both spelled out and the pronunciation usually corrected. The second annoys me more than the first. My mum and I have worked out that she has made a spelling error with my name, which sort of makes it a unique type name.

What annoys me more now is that I am tired of correcting people so there are a lot of people who think my name is something that it is not.

#5 liveworkplay

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:15 PM

it doesn't bother me more makes me rolleyes.gif. I have one of the commonest 70'a names going. it has only 4 letters yet I still have to spell in 99% of the time. I always spell my last name even though it is relatively simple. so no, I don't think.it's a burden to have to spell your name as most people these days will ask you to spell it no matter what it is.

#6 Luxe

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:15 PM

I have a unisex name. It doesn't bother me that I have to spell it sometimes. What does annoy me is when I email someone and they can clearly see how it's spelt and they'll spell it the other way instead.

It wont stop me from using a baby name that may need to be spelt when the time comes.

#7 Expelliarmus

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:16 PM

It drives me nuts. Both having to spell it constantly and correct the pronunciation.

I've stopped even bothering with the latter.

#8 mama123

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:16 PM

Nope. Doesn't bother me at all!

I'm not overly keen on my name but I do love that it is un-common. I find it highly annoying if I happen to stumble across someone with the same name as me, it gets so confusing. I don't know how people put up with that! biggrin.gif

I have had to spell my first name my whole life and it is long. Now that I am married I have a surname that needs to spelt out as well. biggrin.gif It doesn't bother me though. You can normally tell whether or not the person is going to have trouble and my usual response once someone has asked me what my name is, is to automatically start spelling it out. Sometimes if I'm in a place that's overcrowded and noisy I'll just ask for the pen and paper and write it out myself but that's few and far between.

I don't think it's a big deal.

#9 Ingrid the Swan

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:16 PM

Yes it bugs me.

I have to spell my first name, surname, street, suburb and (if required) my middle name. I've taken to spelling my FN and surname automatically without being asked. Still, more often than nor I still get the wrong spelling or the masculine version of my FN or anything other than a hyphen in my surname (and that's if they've twigged it's actually two names in the first place).

I'm surprised my mail ever makes it to my house.

#10 RumbleBee

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:16 PM

I have to spell out both my 9 letter first name and my 10 letter surname.

It doesn't really bother me, and I like having an classic-but-unusual name.

#11 NotBitzerMaloney

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:17 PM

My last name is complicated i.e. there's a space and a hyphen. Thankfully my first name is as common as can be, but unfortunately can easily be heard as something else.
It gives me the absolute irrits that I have to spell my name (usually more than once), they can't find me in computer systems, etc.
My children therefore were given their father's white bread boring last name and phonetic first names (but a bit out there). No way was I going to hyphenate their names or given them non-phonetic names. They will still have to spell their names, but at least it won't be multiple times with the same person, over and over and over - hopefully!



#12 libbylu

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:17 PM

No.  My last name is as common as Jones and I still get asked to spell it sometimes!
I guess what is possibly more annoying or embarrassing is when people cannot read your name out when they see it.  If it is spelled in such an obscure way that it will be constantly mis-pronounced then that would be a PITA I reckon.

#13 cheekymonkeysmum

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:18 PM

Yep annoys me to tears i have a common name but can be spelt a couple of ways but OMG i am over it every time i go somewhere i have to spell my name i am so F'n over it.

#14 ~buzz~

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:18 PM

Nope I am the same as you OP my name is very popular been in the top 10 or 20 for years and the only person I have met with it spelt differently is a friends daughter and she is 2 yet I still often get asked to spell it

#15 la di dah

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:19 PM

As a weirdly named individual, I don't mind spelling it for people at all. Especially if that means they'll actually use the right spelling.

Even mispelling my name doesn't bother me much unless you are close kin (this happens!) or I just signed the email you are replying to and have in fact quoted.

For my own child, I'd choose the common spelling if there were multiple "right" ones, (Amy over Aimee, both are legit but I think Amy looks simpler and easier and is more popular) but I'm nerdy enough to choose the "right" one if the popular one is "wrong," i.e. Aidan over Aiden, because I am a pedant.

But pretty much any name will require spelling, yeah. Nor do I really ascribe to owing the entire Anglo world me naming my kid a common English name.

#16 Amy 1976

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:19 PM

I have a very uncommon name. I often have to repeat it and/or spell it more than 20 times per day (my job means i talk to new people all day) I also receive endless questions about why I have the name I do.

It bothers me quite a lot to the extent that I often consider changing my name. I think my parents were vain and selfish in choosing the name hey did for me.

I'm obviously biased because of my experience but I think that names should be spelt in the usual way and should be culturally appropriate.


#17 EssentialBludger

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:22 PM

It's not the end of the world, but I do get tired of saying "Amie with an ie" after awhile. I really wish I was just plain old Amy.

#18 Lyrical Serve

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:22 PM

QUOTE (howdo @ 02/11/2012, 09:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
It drives me nuts. Both having to spell it constantly and correct the pronunciation.

I've stopped even bothering with the latter.

Can totally relate.

I even make up names for coffee orders because they will never get it right in a million years. Made me choose a more common and easy to spell name for dd and I am happy in the knowledge that she won't have to spend her life explaining her name to every person she ever meets.

#19 Broxie

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:24 PM

I have a Dutch first and last name and spell them both for people all the time. I don't love spelling it all the time, but it doesn't upset me.
I named my DS Dean, and every time I tell someone who has to write it down (receptionists, nurses etc), the first question is always 'how do you spell that?'
I don't even think any other way is possible, but with cre8ivitee so rife, I think it's just a standard question now.

Edited by Broxie, 02 November 2012 - 08:25 PM.


#20 her mum

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:25 PM

QUOTE (FluffyOscar @ 02/11/2012, 08:15 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Yes, it sh*ts me to tears. And one of the letters is a 'd', which sounds like 'b', so when I get to it I have to say "d, for dog", because WTF else is an easily understandable word that starts with 'd'?

Having said that, all the uneek names these days mean that even "Jane" could be misspelled.


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#21 mama123

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:26 PM

QUOTE
I even make up names for coffee orders because they will never get it right in a million years.


I have seriously considered doing this when I am tired and just want to get out of there. biggrin.gif It's such a great idea. I like it when my husband is with me, I just give them his name.

#22 Feral Mozzie

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:26 PM

Interesting - so it bothers a few people, but most don't seem to mind. And yet it seems to be such a bug consideration for naming children, at least here on EB.

QUOTE (libbylu @ 02/11/2012, 09:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
No.  My last name is as common as Jones and I still get asked to spell it sometimes!
I guess what is possibly more annoying or embarrassing is when people cannot read your name out when they see it.  If it is spelled in such an obscure way that it will be constantly mis-pronounced then that would be a PITA I reckon.


That is an excellent point - luckily all the names we have short listed for this baby can be read phonetically.

QUOTE (la di dah @ 02/11/2012, 09:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Even mispelling my name doesn't bother me much unless you are close kin (this happens!) or I just signed the email you are replying to and have in fact quoted.


I get this All. The. Time. And I agree, it's very annoying!


#23 cabbagepatch

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:28 PM

As someone with a 3 letter name - I hate having to spell it all the time... it's not really that hard!!

Although it didn't make me specifically choose an easier name for my DD - although I don't think you can really spell her name any other way?! I'm sure someone cre8tive could find a way tho Tounge1.gif

#24 tiggy2

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:28 PM

I have to spell both first and last name. It really annoys me. I also make up a name for coffee orders, take away orders etc!

I don't bother to correct people anymore, if I recognize you are referring to me I will respond. Even some of my close friends who have known me forever still spell my name wrong.
I really hated it as a child, I was already considered weird coming from another country and not speaking English in a very Anglo school, my name was another way I didn't fit in.
Doesn't seem to have bothered my brother but I hated it.
I've gone for very classic names for my kids.

#25 NotBitzerMaloney

Posted 02 November 2012 - 08:28 PM

QUOTE (Amy 1976 @ 02/11/2012, 09:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have a very uncommon name. I often have to repeat it and/or spell it more than 20 times per day (my job means i talk to new people all day) I also receive endless questions about why I have the name I do.

It bothers me quite a lot to the extent that I often consider changing my name. I think my parents were vain and selfish in choosing the name hey did for me.


I do wonder if my children wil think / say this of their parents. We gave them both very normal middle names, which I would have no problem with them deciding to use if they decide their slightly odd names aren't really for them. Heck, I have no problem if they choose to use totally new first and last names.




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