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#1 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 27 October 2012 - 03:54 PM

My MIL asked me today what we were planning to do on the first day we bring our new baby home.
I told her that we would just be coming home and probably doing a load of washing (I am giving birth 2 hours away and will most likely be away from home for 5days).

She told me that most new parents go around to people's places to show off the new baby and that it would be a shame to not show off the new baby to everyone.

Both MIL and my Mum keep asking who's house are we going to first  rolleyes.gif

What did you do?

I would imagine after a 2 hour drive we are going to be very tired and I also have 3 fur babies at home waiting for me.

#2 Liz75

Posted 27 October 2012 - 03:59 PM

I went for a walk. There is no way I would be popping into people's houses.

#3 spersephone

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:00 PM

NO - what world is she from?  Most people come home, relax and get to know their baby.  Most people might suggest a friend or two or family come over, but often that's after the first day or so.

I haven't heard of anyone being expected to traipse around showing their baby off at other people's houses.  The day we came home with my youngest, I went via Medicare so I could put in my forms for her - I was so excited to register her birth.  But that's it.  We went home and hung out with her and finally had her all to ourselves.

Other people were welcome a day or so later.  We didn't venture out for at least a few days, I know other people who don't even do that for a few weeks.

#4 aussiemads

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:00 PM

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She told me that most new parents go around to people's places to show off the new baby and that it would be a shame to not show off the new baby to everyone.


Fat chance! Nothing but home time for the first day, still getting used to breastfeeding and stuff there is no way i would have wanted to do that while visiting a bunch of friends and relatives.

#5 kristylee21

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:00 PM

We stayed at home so we could all rest and recover... We had people come and see use... Usually bringing food which was a very welcomed bonus! We went out to the shops on day 3 home( dd was 4 days old as we came home the day after she was born)

#6 cheekymonkeysmum

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:00 PM

We got home from hospital at about 3pm.

We basically just got settled and unpacked nothing to out there.

We didn't go out for about 7 days we had family/friends visit us but we didn't see the need/want to go out plus i was a very nervous new mum i think my ds stayed in the cot the first couple of days besides feeding nappy change and bath.

#7 Leafprincess

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:01 PM

I'm not going anywhere after I have baby.

I'm going straight home and into the traditional Chinese practice of confinement.
Basically you stay home for the first month and mother & baby bond.
Women in your family cook and clean for you.

After the first month you celebrate and "show" the baby

I'm Australian from Asian decent and don't usually follow traditional customs but this one seemed awesome so I've decided to do it.

#8 *LucyE*

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:02 PM

Bwah ha ha ha!

I  couldn't wait to just get home and settle in. No travelling anywhere for us.

If they are that keen on seeing bub out of hospital, they can do the travelling and visit you at home. Let them know where the ironing board and kitchen are because you'd really appreciate the help. Tell them a meal to put in the freezer and the type of tea you prefer too.

Seriously?  They're having a lend of you. Don't let them bully you into doing anything you don't want to. Stand up for yourself and your child who does not need to be the parcel that's passed around.

Actually, with the measles and whooping cough outbreaks, I'd personally be keeping visitors to a minimum and asking all visitors to have their booster shots a month in advance if they want to visit.

#9 BabeBlossom

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:02 PM

I went to a very special place, my own bed.
No way I would be planning outings the day I got home. All I wanted was to get baby settled in their new surrounds, organise our stuff and drink in my new baby.
If you plan to breastfeed it can be difficult for the 2 of you for the first couple of weeks. I wasn't comfortable feeding in public until 4 weeks.
I'd be telling your family to come visit you at home the following day if they want to see baby.

#10 miinii

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:05 PM

We left hossy and drove past my Grandmothers (In a nursing home) With DD2 so she could meet her. My Gran was bed Ridden and unable to mve any part of her body sad.gif She died 8 weeks later. Other than that there is no way i would be going anywhere when leaving the bossy. Your MIL must be from a very strange place lol

#11 Chief Pancake Make

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:08 PM

Wow - I don't know who these "most new parents" are.  I dread everyone wanting to come and visit, let alone traipsing around to other people's houses, exposing them to every cold and bug that other people may have.  I have a suspicion its your MIL who wants to show off the baby.

I will be wanting a very quiet day - trying to get breast feeding and sleeping and the practicalities of a little new person in the house sorted still.  

In many cultures the baby does not leave the house for a month or more.

#12 JsWifey

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:08 PM

I have no idea what "most people" do, but when we came home from the hospital I had something to eat then all I wanted to do was snuggle with my baby and have a sleep. And our hospital was only 15 minutes away. After driving for 2 hours the last thing I would want to do is visit with others. Go easy, everyone can wait (don't you love MILs and their crazy ideas). You and your newborn will need rest. If family and friends are upset then so be it but it's really about you, your partner and your baby in those first few days. Enjoy that special time.

#13 RichardParker

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:09 PM

What planet are they on?  You go home with a new baby.  When you're ready, people visit you bearing gifts and food. That's the way it works.

#14 DenimAngel

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:09 PM

Lol.  We went home to settle in and rest with baby all eight times.  I think you should see how you feel and do what you are comfortable with.  If you feel like visiting, make it one stop only and let people go there to visit.  When you are done go home and ask for some space while you get to know your little family.

#15 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:10 PM

I thought it was weird too.

I'm beginning to wonder whether it is a competition between MIL and my Mum as to who's house he goes to first.

#16 clrw

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:10 PM

We went straight home and enjoyed the peace and quiet and stared at our baby. We had some visitors at the hospital and some 2-3 days after we got home.

Stand your ground. You will never get that time back.

Edited by clrw, 27 October 2012 - 04:12 PM.


#17 FourLittleLoves

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:13 PM

Both times we just went home and enjoyed our new born(s) with out the distraction of visitors or hospital staff popping in. We told everyone that we just wanted to be left alone on our first day home.
I couldn't think of anything worse than putting everyone in to the car and going visiting all day. I also don't know of any new parents who have done this.

#18 Baggy

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:17 PM

I stayed home and relaxed / established feeding.

If visitors wanted to come over then that was fine.

#19 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:17 PM

QUOTE (puffsgirl11 @ 27/10/2012, 03:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My MIL asked me today what we were planning to do on the first day we bring our new baby home.
I told her that we would just be coming home and probably doing a load of washing (I am giving birth 2 hours away and will most likely be away from home for 5days).

She told me that most new parents go around to people's places to show off the new baby and that it would be a shame to not show off the new baby to everyone.

Both MIL and my Mum keep asking who's house are we going to first  rolleyes.gif

What did you do?

I would imagine after a 2 hour drive we are going to be very tired and I also have 3 fur babies at home waiting for me.

Never heard of that.  Would be calling bollocks on that.  That's just what they want.  Not what people do in reality.

If they want to see bubs, tell them they can come around anytime after 2pm (or whatever time is convenient).  The next day.

#20 JBH

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:17 PM

I went to the chemist to buy the dummy I swore I'd never use, as part of the rich and longstanding tradition of breaking all the rules you set before you have children.

#21 (feral)epg

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:17 PM

QUOTE (Leafprincess @ 27/10/2012, 02:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I'm not going anywhere after I have baby.

I'm going straight home and into the traditional Chinese practice of confinement.
Basically you stay home for the first month and mother & baby bond.
Women in your family cook and clean for you.

After the first month you celebrate and "show" the baby

I'm Australian from Asian decent and don't usually follow traditional customs but this one seemed awesome so I've decided to do it.



This sounds awesome.

Now to find some women in my family who know how to cook and clean!

#22 EssentialBludger

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:19 PM

Gawd, I went home and plonked myself in a salt bath for 4 days straight. I could barely walk, socialising was the last thing on my mind. I also had trouble BF and ended up back in hospital with mastitis on IV antibiotics on day 8. Noone in DP's family even met DS until day 10.

Fat chance I was going to "show him off" straight from hospital.

#23 YodaTheWrinkledOne

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:19 PM

QUOTE (puffsgirl11 @ 27/10/2012, 04:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I thought it was weird too.

I'm beginning to wonder whether it is a competition between MIL and my Mum as to who's house he goes to first.

Go see someone else first then.  That'll shut them up.  

Or let them duke it out for the honour - tell them who ever comes over to your place and does the floors, bathroom and puts the washing away gets the first visit.  Win-win!  biggrin.gif

#24 Wacky Wobbler

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:22 PM

QUOTE (YodaTheWrinkledOne @ 27/10/2012, 05:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Go see someone else first then.  That'll shut them up.  

Or let them duke it out for the honour - tell them who ever comes over to your place and does the floors, bathroom and puts the washing away gets the first visit.  Win-win!  biggrin.gif


That could be a good idea  biggrin.gif

#25 Frau Farbissina

Posted 27 October 2012 - 04:24 PM

We went home and stayed there! People came to us. I don't think we ventured out with baby for a few days. I was still recovering and we were adjusting to our new family.

Eta - I don't know of anyone who went to visit people on first day home!

Edited by Frau Farbissina, 27 October 2012 - 04:26 PM.





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