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Posted 15 November 2012 - 08:40 AM
Its my EDD today .
I have an appointment with the midwives at 12pm.. Supposed to be getting a stretch and sweep done too.. so hopefully it works
Posted 15 November 2012 - 09:45 AM
Good luck Mellmatho hope you get some baby action very soon!
Posted 15 November 2012 - 11:16 AM
Well Leila and I are finally home with Daddy and couldn't be more relieved to be here. My experience was difficult, and being a bit teary still I won't go into detail but here it is in a nutshell (yes, this IS the short version believe it or not!!)...
My spinal wore off immediately after surgery so pain meds weren't ready, spent the next couple of days trying to get on top of excrutiating pain
Had to deal with some of the worst midwives with zero bedside manner (but will admit had some lovely ones as well). One of my favourites was a very young, very condescending one who suggested on day 3 after delivery that because I was crying that I should get councelling because it could be PND. She also refused to give me pain medication at one point even though it was due because SHE didn't think I should be on it, and referred to my cracked bleeding nipples as being 'a bit tender.'
Attempting breastfeeding while in pain already and seeing my newborn cough up blood from my own nipples, then spending 3 days expressing to give them time to heal while being made to feel like I was the most horrid mother on the planet because I wasn't actually breastfeeding
Developed a rash on my ankles and feet that totally mystified 5 different doctors and ended up having to be seen by a dermatolgist and having a biopsy taken
Dealing with inlaws family issues which are somehow my problem while stuck in hospital with my new baby
Then just when I was allowed to escape on Sunday, my already high BP spiked Saturday night, I had chest pains, couldn't breathe, and my vision went. While attached to an ECG got told by the doctor I could either have some abnormality with my heart, or maybe a clot in my lung. She then left the room, leaving me on my own with the thought I could very well die. Spent Sunday having more ECG's, CT scan, chest Xrays, blood tests (I have 10 punctures in one arm and 4 in the other from all the bloods that were done). I was monitored for 4 days, and placed in the care of the hospital's senior physician before finally being diagnosed with post partum pre eclampsia and put on BP medication.
The nest few weeks are going to be filled with appointments and reviews with my GP and various specialists at the hospital
BUT... I'm a thousand times better for being at home. I have my precious baby girl who I am so glad is finally here, I couldn't love her more. DH was my rock throughout all this, there with me every second he was allowed to be (and longer most days), helping the midwives and looking after Leila during the day so I could try and rest. The nice midwives all adored him, telling me what a wonderful husband I have. My mum has also been amazing, and DH's parents came and cleaned our house, did the washing and walked the dog the other day.
So with all that I've been through in the last week or so, I still think I'm the luckiest woman on earth and for the privelege of being mum to this little girl who has stolen my heart, I wouldn't take it back for a second.
Still trying to catch up on recent posts but congrats on all the new bubs, everyone else hang in there, you're almost there!!
Edited by lozzylots, 15 November 2012 - 11:25 AM.
Posted 15 November 2012 - 11:50 AM
Lozzy- what a roller coaster ride you have had. What an awful experience, hopefully now you are home you can start to enjoy being a mum and a family.
Hi suz- hope you are enjoying today's beautiful weather
Melmatho- yay to EDD. Hope the s&s helps things along!
Charlottesmum- congrats to you and your family. I'll have one of those quick labours thanks!!
EDZ- I'd be wanting my little one to stay put too. Hope your ds makes a speedy recovery.
Lizzie- how did the midwife appt go?
TJ- no didn't have the pedi, but booked one for next week, all being well.
Just got some very wonky waxing done. The beautician must have had beer googles on or thought I don't have a mirror at home to have a look. Anyway at least things look a lot tidier.
AFM - well officially 38wks today. Hopefully this baby follows the others though and shows up 5 days early.
Jobs to do today are pack bags and well that might be it.
Edited by MalibuZoo, 15 November 2012 - 11:53 AM.
Posted 16 November 2012 - 02:51 AM
charlottesmum - congratulations on the birth of Isabella. Sorry your DP was not able to make it, that was quick. Hope your doing well xx
mellmatho - fingers crossed for your stretch and sweep hopefully it puts things in motion.
lozzylots - im so sorry you had to go through all of that. At least your home now you can relax knowing your in the comfort of your own environment. I hope everything is better and going well now that you are at home
MalibuZoo - You sound all sorted if all you have to do is pack your bags. hopefully there is not much more time to go for you.
AFM - had an appointment on Wednesday with my midwife she ended up coming to see me at my house so no internal checks were done to see how things were going although she said everything is looking good and she is still hoping that he will decide to come in the next week as everything is looking favourable for him to do so. if by next appointment on Wednesday he has not come she will do a stretch and sweep if need be after checking internally how everything is going.
its getting closer and im getting excited. i keep dreaming i already have bub and about my labour which keeps waking me up in the middle of the night i really want to meet him. hopefully he does decide to come in the next week.
Posted 16 November 2012 - 11:14 AM
huge congrats to all the ladies who have had their bubs and to those still waiting, believe me when I say I know how that feels, I was grateful to only go 11dpd lozzylots I am real sorry to hear about your awful experience I had acpl awful midwives that took the shine off an otherwise positive experience. It is sad when you feel judged, especially when it is so new, how on earth are you supposed to know everything 18 hours after your baby is born? I hope everyone is doing well, motherhood is a whirlwind of emotions and sleep deprivation but I love it. I am feeling frustrated not being able to do much post caesar and although my mum has been helping, she tend to help more in the settling baby department rather than helping to get the washing done lol! Well my window of opportunity is up but know I'm thinking of you all
Posted 17 November 2012 - 06:38 AM
Hi ladies, no news from me. Its nice to hear all the newborn stories as my memories are a tad foggy from DD. EDD is Monday! I now feel like I'll go the full 10 days over... agghh!
Posted 17 November 2012 - 08:11 AM
A huge congratulations to everyone who have had their babies and to those still waiting, they will be in your arms before you know it!
I came home from hospital on Wednesday. It was really nice to have that quiet, quality time with Ashley before I came home. DH has taken an extra week off work to help out with DS2 and next week I'll start doing most things with him just there for support so I know that I can do it while he's at work. Ashley is a breeze though DS2 can become quite demanding although he doesn't seem fussed with his new little sister yet but I physically can not lift him at the moment. He is heavy but I think because I've got no stomach muscles yet?
Anyway, all is going well so far. She's feeding well and sleeping well. I'm finding breast feeding is much easier this time around as DS2 was really fussy. Maybe because she's a girl and more gentle Btw anyone with sore nipples I have 1 word for you = Lansinoh! Really helped those first days..
Here is my birth story for anyone interested...
Ok so after losing the plug on Saturday morning and being utterly disappointed nothing had started... Sunday morning I had woken to more of a bloody show and mild cramping. Had mild contractions all over the place and inconsistent for most of the day and then stop. I actually had a little cry because I thought I've waited so long for this to start.. I've gotten excited.. then boom.. Gone! My friend and I decided to go for a walk and have lunch and then we went for another walk and by 5pm mild contractions had picked up again. 6pm I have 1 contraction that starts to feel like a real one.. So I call the hospital and they tell me I can make my way in but no rush... I get off the phone and I have another one and I tell DH it's time to go! Arrive at hospital at about 6:30pm and go to the examination room. Baby is still posterior and that's why my contractions have been so spaced out and inconsistent. They give a quick ultrasound to check her heads engaged.. My midwife checks me and says I'm about 5cm dilated. We leave the room after 7:15pm to go to the birthing suite. I decide on the room with the big bed (same room I had DS2) I have maybe 2 contractions that start to feel more intense and trying to decide position to help me cope thinking its going to be as hard as it was with DS2. I decide to be on a mat on the floor with a bean bag to lean onto. Contraction comes still bearable.. Maybe 3 contractions of those, then 3 really bad ones where my new phrase is "I don't like this anymore.. Why can't I have an epidural? " to which she responds that considering my history there probably isn't enough time and she was right! Next one I feel the pressure and tell her I need to push.. She goes to take my undies off (still had them on cos we didn't know how long it would take and my waters were intact) anyways I yell just cut them off! just cut them off! So she does and says oh yes, you can start pushing. I've got no control... Maybe 3 pushes and I'm trying to slow down and she's out!! Was so quick. The midwives were like we weren't expecting that lol. With the position I was in, and Ashley doing it on her own she turned out of posterior I've also selfishly taken the big room with the big bed and given birth on the floor! Lol
My discharge papers say that labour was established at 6pm (when I called) 2nd stage at 8:10pm, born at 8:12pm! I pushed her out in 2 mins!!
It was actually a much calmer, somewhat easier experience then with my previous 2 but I'm glad to not do it again.. My family is complete
Posted 17 November 2012 - 02:57 PM
I really miss this group you were such a wonderful DIG just wanted to let you all know i got my BFP this morning............. I feel Michael is sending me a gift
Posted 17 November 2012 - 03:43 PM
Caroldiem I shed a tear when I read your post, sending you much love and light xox
TJ I have been struggling too, thought he was tongue tied which would have been a relief but turns out no, so back to positioning and praying. Thinking of you and wishing you a speedy recovery
Joseph and my partner finally met my father today and thankfully a newborn truly melts the hardest of hearts
Nap time for meXoxo
Posted 17 November 2012 - 04:22 PM
Caroldiem, also I will be sending you hugs tomorrow, on what will be a very difficult day.
Posted 17 November 2012 - 04:23 PM
Thankyou Suz01 tomorrow will be a special day spending it at my favourite place in NSW
Edited by caroldiem, 17 November 2012 - 04:24 PM.
Posted 17 November 2012 - 05:04 PM
Tanglez and T.J
Tanglez - have you tried nipple shields?? i found them very helpful when breastfeeding DD1
Posted 17 November 2012 - 05:16 PM
I also think breastfeeding through cracked nipples and mastitis is very very difficult. I found that it takes a bit of the shine off your baby and bonding. When it hurts to have anything on your chest, you cannot even have a much needed cuddle with bub or hug from hubby, when you need it most. Found giving both a rest for 24 he's under supervision of lactation consultant really helped me. I also used nipple shields but that was against the LC advice where I'd feed one, nipple shield next feed alternating. Theres so much hype on BF you cannot help but think those that go straight to formula and skip the heartache are much smarter in some ways!
Posted 17 November 2012 - 08:15 PM
For those who arent on fb, just wanted to announce the arrival of Emily Claire born 16.11.2012 after 6hr pain free birth. She weighed 7lb 8oz n 51cms long
Posted 18 November 2012 - 07:40 AM
tanglez - sorry to hear you had an awful midwife who made you feel judged. im worried of the same thing. its taken me 9 months to get this little one ready and then in space of him coming out and into my arms im wholly responsible for him... that scares me as i can image me doing many things that are wrong or not approved so ill most likely get judged as well.
justonemore - you gave me a little giggle when i realised oh my gosh 2 minutes to push out. would have been a surprise for you too. im so glad all went well congratulations on your newborn daughter and completing your family and don't worry of i had a choice i would of chosen the room with the bigger bed as well. you may have delivered half on the floor but you need somewhere to lie down afterwards.
TJ - sorry you have to be going through the pain that you are going through. I really do hope it passes quickly and hopefully using the expressing pump begins to help ease your breasts. it doesnt sound too nice and sounds painful i truly hope it all goes away very soon.
caroldeim - congratulations on your BFP. hugs for today.
suz01 - the amount of pressure i feel to have to breast feed is amazing and so overwhelming. i did a breastfeeding class a few weeks back at the hospital and the LC was very anti formula or feeding from a bottle even with express breast milk. i havent started freaking out about it but once this little one pops out i know i will be. ive actually ben considering expressing milk and then bottle feeding after a few weeks because of what everyone has been telling me in terms of how much quicker it is and how they kept their sanity because they had more time to clean, nap, go for walks etc. i feel like me even thinking about doing this is taboo because of how badly the LC spoke about it.
is it me or do all the benefits truly come from the breast milk? i thought as long as the baby got breast milk from boob or bottle meant they were being nourished properly according to whats recommended. i know the bonding is a big part of on the boob feeding but i cant help feel very bad for considering expressing and give milk to bubs when his born through a bottle. no one grill me please its just a thought at this stage.
mellmatho - YAY congratulations - more baby news. good work on the 6 hr pain free labour i hope it all went to plan.
as for myself - my niggling pains are still there every now and then but have gone mostly. baby has seemed to slow down in his movements but still moves enough for me not to worry. yesterday was a lovely day **insert sarcasm** spent in the bathroom. i hope my body is at least cleansing itself before labour because i cant spend everyday in the bathroom like yesterday i have everything everything ready and im just so ready to meet this baby. baby likes playing the waiting game ive told him ive given up and he wins so he can come out now. hes still swimming about although i really hope i get to meet him soon my midwife thought he'd come end of next week but she said either way hes still not far and hopefully early this week. if i go over i will be very devastated. every time he moves it makes me want to cry because im at the stage where i keep trying to imagine his face and his little hands and feet and i just cant because i dont know what he will look like and the suspense is killing me. im truly ready to meet my little one and i keep telling him doesn't matter how smoothly it goes or how completely frantic and crazy the labour goes ill love him either way so to do mummy a favour and come out so i can cuddle him.. i know i must sound so desperate at the moment but having a few new born bubs around me in the family and friends circle doesnt help an im starting to beat myself up about it which i know i shouldn't because he'll come when hes ready and im only 39 + 1 so its not like im overdue. oh well. if he doesnt come before wednesday ill see my midwife that afternoon and hopefully she has some good news in terms of how he is doing in getting ready to meet mummy and daddy.
Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:48 AM
Oh wow, I just felt this enormous relief reading some of your posts about breastfeeding. I hate to think of anyone else going through this pain and frustration, especially at such a precious time, but then knowing I'm not alone makes me feel that little bit better.
I absolutely agree, the push to breastfeed I think has been taken too far by many midwives. It sounds like you all have persevered longer than I could though, I lasted 3 days before switching to expressing and what a relief that first bottle was!!! Problem with me was that from the outside, Leila's latch looks perfect, so I persevered through extreme pain, cracking and bleeding for those 3 days because the 'expert' midwives all told me her latch was perfect so I thought I was just being soft. Only after crying so much after a feed did one of them get a LC to me who told me she wasn't opening her mouth enough - my nipples were squished. Being in the hospital for a week you can imagine how many midwives I went through, and 9 out of 10 had SOMETHING to say about me expressing, like I'm an idiot and need to be told 3 times a day or more.
Misslizzie, my thoughts exactly, I know there's the bonding thing with breastfeeding, but my girl is getting the same nutrients from EBM as she would if it came straight from the boob! And as I said to DH when I first gave her a bottle, the amazing gaze into my eyes she gave me during a bottlefeed was the same look she gave during breastfeeding. I am topping up with 1 or 2 formulas a day and you know what? I refuse to be made to feel bad for providing my child with nourishment. Bugger off
I have an appointment with a LC on Tuesday and I WILL walk out if I'm not comfortable with how it goes. I said to hubby when we were finally leaving the hospital that I was going to announce as we left that I'm planning on formula feeding and that I might even one day give my baby a dummy, and just see what happened. Probably all the exits would be blocked and alarms would go off to stop us going, because clearly I am an unfit mother Anyway, that's my rant for the day!
Mellmatho - Congrats, I happen to think little girls are incredibly special And pretty name.
Caroldiem - what an emotional moment that must have been for you. Congratulations and my thoughts too are with you.
Misslizzie - you poor thing, I know exactly how you feel. You will have your little one so soon!!
TJ - how are you feeling now? Hope it's settling down and you're not in so much pain. Really, really feel for you hon.
We had our first trip to the shops yesterday. Had to go to the doctor but there was a bit of a wait so we went and got lunch. I think it was better that it was unplanned because I was stressing enough without time to think too much about it! Lunch was literally sit down, order without even looking at a menu, inhaling lunch and virtually running out of there But I'm glad it's done, hopefully it's easier next time.
Posted 18 November 2012 - 10:06 AM
caroldiem...I am so happy for you! Definitely a gift from Michael. I am part of the November Facebook group and I still think of you and Michael to this day. I wish you the best of luck for the future xx
Posted 18 November 2012 - 08:08 PM
Hey everyone. I've been in a haze of feeding and not sleeping, so I haven't been on the net.
Justin Michael came into the world at 8.43pm on Sunday the 4th of Nov, weighing in at 3.568kgs. If I knew how to post a pic, I would, but I don't! He has blondy-brown hair and dark grey eyes, which will probably turn brown eventually.
I had a fast-tracked induction due to blood pressure, which began and was over 4hrs later. I had no epidural or pain killers, although I had asked for an epidural. There were so many emergency caesars happening in the ward, there was no one available to give me one. The guy actually showed up to do it when his head was crowning.
I hope everyone else is still doing ok, and I look forward to following all the news when I've had a bit more sleep!
Love to all, Suz. xxx
Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:00 PM
Caroldiem - another who had tears reading about Michael's gift to you - so happy & hope you have the most boring uneventful pregnancy ever. I also hope that you have got through today ok.
suzy-c - congratulations. Would much rather be in that haze of sleeplessness & feeding that on the net any day. Hope all is going well with Justin.
T.J. - I feel for you with mastitis. Hoping the antibiotics do their thing & you don't end up with cysts forming.
lozzylots - how scary for you. How are you feeling now overall - pre-eclampsia is a horrid illness to develop regardless or whether pre or post baby.
misslizzie - still hoping it isn't much longer for you to wait
melmatho - congratulations
to any new mums I've missed - congratulations & hope all is going well
AFM - Henry has been cruising for the past week or so then yesterday it all fell apart a bit again & yet again we are back to the start. Waiting on bloods to confirm but he is being treated for an infection yet again & his stomach got so bloated again that it is affecting the ability for his lungs to expand & in turn affecting his breathing. Just when I was kind of hoping we were finally actually getting somewhere. Today I couldn't bring myself to even visit him - spent most of the day sitting in a corner of my bedroom wrapped in my doona sobbing. Hopefully tomorrow will be a better day.
Posted 18 November 2012 - 09:30 PM
Ladies you are all amazing thank u for the love and support
Emnut- my heart breaks for you there are no words I will have Henry in my prayers tonight and every night going forward until we get the news that he is home safe in his mums arms your post made me cry but I have been doing that a lot today
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