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#1 A.K.A

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:16 PM

Or are you friends your family? Or both?

I've had some relationships break down recently and I want hope it's still possible wink.gif

#2 elegie

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:23 PM

Hmm, for me family is family and friends are friends.

I love my family to bits, as family. And some of my friends I love almost as much, but most of them are just friends. Perhaps one is in the nature of family - and my family consider her in that way too.

#3 Guest_Maybelle_*

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:38 PM

My immediate family are my friends, totally.  I love hanging out with them.  My Mum is one of my closest friends  wub.gif Aside from my husband, she is the first person I want to talk to when I get good or bad news, and we can natter for hours!  I would totally choose her and my Dad as friends if we weren't related, and my siblings are fabulous too.  

We don't live in the same state as our extended family.

EFS

Edited by Maybelle, 28 September 2012 - 01:38 PM.


#4 Therin

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:41 PM

My mum is one of my closest friends...

And my sister is pretty cool, though she can get under my skin a lot more than a standard friend can.

And there are friends that I would do just about anything for so...

#5 madmother

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:44 PM

My mother was my best friend.

I have many close friends, but only a couple I would consider family.

Now my DH is the closest person on this earth to me. But then all my immediate family are gone.  unsure.gif

#6 FeralLIfeHacker

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:44 PM

No sad.gif

#7 Roobear

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:49 PM

My mum and my sister I would consider my closest friends...we have many similar interests and enjoy doing things together. My dad and my brother I love dearly we don't have much in common and don't really get past small chat when we catch up.

#8 *RockTot*

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:55 PM

My dad & I are good friends, mum & I are just too different sad.gif  
Aunts, Uncles, cousins etc, no, wouldnt consider any of them friends.

#9 countrychic29

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:55 PM

My family are family and friends are friends ... apart from my best friend who is the sister i never had.

#10 WibbleWobble

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:57 PM

Definately not.

I can't relate to people who say their mother or sisters are their best friend. The relationship with my family is always fragile and you never know when some innocent comment will be misconstrued and lead to the break down of a relationship. My mother has not spoken to me for the last 3 months (over some really petty bullsh*t) so I guess if my family were friends, they would be the " with friends like these you don't need enemies" sort of friends.

My friends on the other hand are brilliant.  wub.gif



#11 farfaraway

Posted 28 September 2012 - 01:58 PM

Absolutely for me - my mum is my closest friend and my brothers and I are extremely close. Not so for my DH - his family are completely different and are very much just family to him (and me, can't choose them!)

#12 Therese

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:04 PM

I have both. My sisters are my friends, my cousins are my friends. My parents are my parents wink.gif I adore them and speak to them all the time but they are still my parents.

I have some absolutely wonderful friends who I count as family too. Some have been around for 25 years or more and so know so much about my history. I am very lucky  wub.gif

#13 hungryhippo

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:05 PM

I am very different to my whole family and don't have close relationships with any of them. I am the only one that has been to Uni and gotten a job that isn't a trade or service and none of them can relate to that, so put me down. They don't ask about my life, because it is different to theirs so they don't really care.

My mother in particular always picks the negatives about everything and has a huge sense of self entitlement. She thinks everything should go her way and if it doesn't then she constantly b!tches. I can't stand it. E.g. if DP is busy and can't come with me to see my family then she just goes on and on about him not being there.

My friends are beautiful and I love them dearly. I am closer to DP's family than my own and I prefer to spend time with them than my own family.

Edited by hungryhippo, 28 September 2012 - 02:05 PM.


#14 EsmeLennox

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:07 PM

Some are, some aren't.

#15 R2B2

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:08 PM

I tolerate my family when I have to. my friends are my friends. some of my friends are even more like my family. my family are a pack of a*holes.

#16 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:09 PM

My friends are my family and have been from a very young age.

After my mum died when I was 12, my family completely broke down (was fractured before that) Father became a gambleing addicted, abusive alco and I last spoke to him at 15, he died about 5 years ago when I was 19.

My friends and their parents treated me as one of their own. I even have 2 mums and a dad - all friends parents who I call mum/dad and they said to. I have many sisters as well. biggrin.gif
They are there for me when I need it, pull me into line when I need it lol and treat me with love and respect.
They are my family.



#17 Babushka Doll

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:10 PM

For sure - My Mum is my best friend, we talk everyday, sometimes twice and when I have a day off work I hang out with her and the kids.

I am very close to my two brothers too, we speak almost daily and do social things together.



#18 kpingitquiet

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:31 PM

Some of my family members are my friends (my 1st cousins, especially) and I would love to live close to the whole amazing bunch of them and hang out regularly. Alas, we live on three continents and rely mostly on skype and FB to stay close. Additionally, some of my friends are my chosen family, like the one person who flew to Australia for our wedding. She's my family in many many ways. An ex-gf of mine is also now very much family. Her mom and sister and daughter are all very special to me and we talk constantly. I was the first non-related person they called when the daughter was born  wub.gif

#19 WYSIWYG

Posted 28 September 2012 - 02:41 PM

My family (parents and siblings) are definitely not my friends. I have nothing to do with them, and never will.
I have friends who I consider to be my family.

Edited by RunawayPrincess, 23 October 2012 - 05:21 PM.


#20 OneProudMum

Posted 28 September 2012 - 03:00 PM

My family is very close. My husband and mum are very close to me. My brother and sister and I are very close and I love my niece and nephews like my own (well, almost).

I have 3 close gf's. 1 of them lost her mum at a very early age. I consider her my sister. Another I have been friends with for 16 years. She is also like a sister and then her sister and I are very close.

I also have a family friend that I consider to be my brother. He has been in our life for longer than I can remember.

Our family is one of those families that always gets people saying "I wish they were my family" or "I wish my parents were more like yours".

When a crisis happens, it happens to all of us.We share the highs and the deepest of lows.

I constantly remind myself how, although I have so little, I have so much support and love in my family that most people just do not get.

#21 lovemybabies86

Posted 28 September 2012 - 03:03 PM

QUOTE (squeekums @ 28/09/2012, 02:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My friends and their parents treated me as one of their own. I even have 2 mums and a dad - all friends parents who I call mum/dad and they said to. I have many sisters as well. biggrin.gif
They are there for me when I need it, pull me into line when I need it lol and treat me with love and respect.
They are my family.


and we wouldnt have it any other way we are very proud to have u as our family original.gif

#22 Squeekums Da Feral

Posted 28 September 2012 - 04:14 PM

QUOTE (lovemybabies86 @ 28/09/2012, 02:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
and we wouldnt have it any other way we are very proud to have u as our family original.gif



naww, your stuck with me now mwhahahaha! biggrin.gif

#23 Kalota

Posted 28 September 2012 - 05:35 PM

It depends.

Some family members are not my friends. In fact, there was a huge falling out in my family earlier this year which makes me sad but resulted in many family members not talking anymore.

But some family members are definitely my friends!

And some of my friends I treat as if they're family! Others are just "friends" per se original.gif

So, it really depends on the person! There are a whole lot of people in my life (whether they are related to me or not) and we all have different, complex and individual relationships!

#24 Starrydawn

Posted 28 September 2012 - 05:44 PM

Yes they are.  We are all very close.

#25 SophieBear

Posted 28 September 2012 - 05:44 PM

My sister is one of my best friends and my mum is a very close friend. Unfortunately, my relationship with both of them can be a little one sided.
My SIL to be is also a best friend.
I have many friends but none know me like my family do. I still love them like family though.




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