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#676 Glamour

Posted 23 December 2012 - 06:17 PM

Hi ladies, just a short one this afternoon to touch base and give an update. Unfortunately, the doctor confirmed on Friday that we've lost this baby, again. Bleeding started yesterday i've been bed ridden with cramping. It's been terrible both physically and emotionally of course. I'm so sick and tired of this cycle... i don't know how i feel ever feel happiness for a BFP again?

I will stick my head in again through the week and do some catching up xo

#677 2puzzled

Posted 23 December 2012 - 08:36 PM

Glamour, I am so so sorry to hear of your loss again. It's just not fair. I am sorry this isn't the christmas and new year you were hoping for - rest up and be kind to yourself and ask for all the help you need - and try to take hope that 2013 will be a new start and will bring success. xx big hugs to you.

#678 Wishing2011

Posted 23 December 2012 - 09:28 PM

Glamour I'm so sorry hun. It isn't fair sad.gif You will feel happiness again. I hate how miscarriages make us so much more cautious about being pregnant. We are excited but are still worried because of how things went last time. It takes away that innocence of it all doesnt it.. Look after yourself xx

Sunshiney I thought it was just me having the stomach cramps.. I went out to a family christmas catch up yesterday and spent a good amount of time in and out of the bathroom. How did you tell your family? How early were you when you told them? We are contemplating telling immediate family on Christmas day but aren't sure because it is still so early...


Kibou good luck. I know how hard that can be. Have a wonderful Christmas original.gif

aww Clarisse thank you that is so lovely. I hope you get your BFP really soon so that you can join me original.gif

I hope you all have a great Christmas and for those of you going through a tough time I am thinking of you. hhugs.gif

#679 N@K

Posted 24 December 2012 - 07:02 AM

Congratulations to Wishing and Purelle that is just awesome news!

I've been reading, just too busy to post! Such a busy time of year! I wanted to wish everyone a great Christmas and New Year, and hope for all of us that 2013 is full of happy times! We all definitely deserve it.

Glamour, I am so very sorry *many hugs*, and take care of yourself and your DH.

AFM - waiting to O this week. A bit down atm, which is annoying as have the beginnings of family Christmas things today when all I want is couch time :-). I quite wish that this time of year didn't have to coincide with when I conceived for this first time.

*hugs* to us all

#680 Wishfully

Posted 24 December 2012 - 09:13 AM

Glamour- I am so shattered for you. There are no words for it lovely....look after yourself and your OH.

Love and hugs ladies xoxo

#681 Elippo

Posted 24 December 2012 - 03:58 PM

Glamour - love and hugs for you - that is just sucky.
*waves to everyone else*

Glamour - love and hugs for you - that is just sucky.
*waves to everyone else*

#682 kibou

Posted 24 December 2012 - 05:23 PM

Glamour, I'm so sorry. Be kind to yourself.

#683 *Dreaming*

Posted 24 December 2012 - 05:37 PM

Glamour I'm so so sorry xxx

#684 ~Bells~

Posted 25 December 2012 - 09:26 AM

Glamour, so sorry to hear your news, I hope you are looking after yourself. xo

I was fortunate enough to receive the best Xmas present this morning, a distinct BFP! AF was due yesterday but didn't arrive, but given how stressed I'd been the last month or so, I really didn't think we were in with a chance, but I got a very faint line on an IC test this morning, so pulled out the First Response and got a line at the same time as the control! So we are very excited, but very, very cautious. Obviously wont be telling family today, so will be keeping busy so no one notices I'm not drinking or gobbling prawns.

I've had very small niggly cramps for a few days so I'm nervous that it will all be over, but still very hopeful.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas day with your families and that those of you going through a tough time are looking after yourselves. xo

Edited by ~Bells~, 25 December 2012 - 09:36 AM.


#685 2puzzled

Posted 25 December 2012 - 11:22 AM

Merry Xmas bells! Freaking awesome! 12.19 and quite p!ssd lol! Merry Xmas to me!
Have a lovely day all. For those of you down, try to make this day allllll about you and your DP and enjoy each other. 2013 will bring wonderful gifts to us all.
MWAH! *hic* xx

#686 kibou

Posted 25 December 2012 - 09:07 PM

Bells... That's awsome!!!! Congratulations. Can't think of a better present.    

2P right there with you! Enjoying a few champagnes! Why not eh?

Merry Christmas!

Edited by kibou, 25 December 2012 - 09:18 PM.


#687 N@K

Posted 26 December 2012 - 07:40 AM

Such awesome happy news Bells! Good luck and FX all goes smoothly

#688 Sunshiney

Posted 26 December 2012 - 03:26 PM

Glamour - I am so sorry for your loss  bbighug.gif  hheart.gif

Bells - congratulations - wonderful news! So pleased to see another from our old TTC#1 group who's been TTC for ages finally get some good news!! FX for a very sticky bub and a smooth 9 months  eexcite.gif   hheart.gif

Wishing - did you tell your family for Christmas? We had an US at 5w4d because I had spotting problems and so saw the HB before telling the family a little after 7wks. I've kept things very quiet except for immediate family because I've not wanted to have to go through un-telling people if things go wrong (I spotted for 2.5 weeks so was worried I would lose bub) and have found the last week hard because I'm getting close to the time when things went wrong last time. Should do whatever feels right for you though.

FX for anyone else testing in the final few days of 2012, and best wishes to everyone for the new year - may 2013 see rainbows for everyone here!  smile1.gif


#689 Wishing2011

Posted 26 December 2012 - 04:12 PM

Bells congratulations what a Christmas present grin.gif

Sunshiney has the spotting stopped? That's great you guys could see your bub at 5 weeks 3 days original.gif yes we did tell just parents and sister in law yesterday. Everyone was excited. Its been hard food wise. But I can't complain original.gif I get you about coming up to where things went bad last time. I started bleeding at 6.5 weeks last time and that time is slowly creeping up. I can't wait to pass that point so I hopefully won't worry so much..

#690 ~Bells~

Posted 26 December 2012 - 09:20 PM

Thanks for the well wishes girls. And 2p - I loved your update - you seemed very merry  wink.gif.

Sunshiney - I know, it is very uplifting every time I see someone get their bfp. Despite how "normal" is apparently is, spotting can only be nerve wracking (well do I remember) - but your scan results are certainly very encouraging and exciting! Yay for that little heartbeat. We saw the hb during my last PG (a few days before MC) and even though we lost the bub, the fact that I saw that heartbeat flashing is a beautiful memory. I know I won't feel comfortable until we pass the 8 week mark (MC at 7.5 weeks last time). But I think its totally normal to feel that way, the important thing is to stay positive.

Hope you all had amazing Christmases.

I'm still in a bit of shock, seems so unbelievable that after such a sucky, stressful few months we would get good news. In fact the plan had been to forget about TTC until the new year, and concentrate on de-stressing totally (not just regarding TTC) so I didn't monitor O at all, so can only assume O date etc.

I can't get to my dr for another week for confirmation and another referral to my obstetrician (and will get the biopsy results from my breast lump) due to his Xmas/New year closure period. Though given my BFP I am more certain that my lump was most likely a hormonal abnormality brought on by a pregnancy I didn't know about yet. So FX.

Had the most relaxing day today, lots of sleep (which is why I'm still up now), a walk with DH and the dogs, and a few dvds. My plan is to make tomorrow very similar, though I think DH will be very eager to go see the Hobbit, so I expect I will be cinema bound at some point!

As with many of our recent grads, I'm hoping to stick around here for a bit until I feel more confident in the PG, hope that's okay. xo



#691 *Dreaming*

Posted 27 December 2012 - 08:55 AM

Congratulations Bells  original.gif Wonderful news!!!
*Dreaming* xxx

#692 Clare L

Posted 27 December 2012 - 01:21 PM

Purelle, Wishing & Bells - yay, yay, yay! I'm so pleased for you.

Glamour - I'm so sorry sweetie, sending you lots of love and hugs bbighug.gif

And for everyone - wishing you all a very happy, healthy & fertile new year

xxx

#693 kmaharaj

Posted 27 December 2012 - 05:13 PM

hello beautiful ladies I just got back to Sydney this morning. I don't even remember if I posted here or not but shockingly DH's mum passed away on 12/12/12 (1 am Fiji time and around 11 pm Sydney time on 11/12/12). We had to go to Fiji on 13th for the funeral on the 15th. Didn't sleep all night. So many arrangements to make. Shocker of a time for our family. We lost his dad last year, our son, then his mum this year. Neverending. Too much sadness. She was only 62 and really looking forward to seeing us all for xmas but alas. We didn't celebrate xmas obviously. I had bought so many presents for her. Then spent all day on 12th and 13th buying her funeral outfits cry1.gif

cry1.gif  cry1.gif . She looked beautiful, as if she were just sleeping. Her face did not change at all.

Wishing my darling I can't tell you how pleased I am for you.

Glamour just from reading the last few posts, I gather things have gone pear shaped for you. I am sorry to hear hun. I will read back and then write more.

Bells wohoo love - congrats.

Purelle congrats love. Great news.

Praying for you 3 to have stickies.

So nice to see posts from our grads here. Sunshiney happy to hear of the heartbeat. Keep on going strong love. All will be well.

AFM

AF arrived right on the morning of MIL's funeral, then there was Tropical Cyclone Evan to contend with, no electricity, atrocious humidity, devastation of poor people's homes, i got to meet all the orphan girls who live in the orphanage, cried my heart out and got so angry that the Fijian govt has frozen all inter country adoption. I would have adopted all 30 of them if i could. Some girls were abandoned, some girls' parents didn't want them anymore cos they had met new partners, such sad stories i tell you. Ended up feeling very depressed and sad. Cried a lot on Xmas day, missed my son and my MIL both. I guess they are all together now waiting for me. Will write more as I read back. Yikes.

love you all

K

Edited by kmaharaj, 27 December 2012 - 05:34 PM.


#694 emmy-g

Posted 27 December 2012 - 05:37 PM

K- no words... just want to send you the biggest hug possible bbighug.gif

#695 kmaharaj

Posted 27 December 2012 - 05:46 PM

thanks Em. I want to thank you for offering to look after her when she was sick in June. that was very sweet of you. Her dialysis was working well and we had spoken to her on sunday and the next thing we know she was gone, just like that!! Feel so sorry for DH. I wish i could hug him forever.

#696 kmaharaj

Posted 27 December 2012 - 05:46 PM

thanks Em. I want to thank you for offering to look after her when she was sick in June. that was very sweet of you. Her dialysis was working well and we had spoken to her on sunday and the next thing we know she was gone, just like that!! Feel so sorry for DH. I wish i could hug him forever.

#697 Wishing2011

Posted 27 December 2012 - 06:09 PM

Oh my goodness K that is so sad cry1.gif I am so so sorry. You and DH have had such a tough year it just isn't fair. And you missed seeing her by a day.. Were there any warning signs or did it just happen very quickly? Let's hope 2013 brings a fresh start to you and your family. You guys have been through so much. And it is so sad about the orphans too.. sad.gif Thank you for the well wishes hun.. I'm constantly worrying about the little one but I think its normal especially considering what we've been through.


#698 kmaharaj

Posted 27 December 2012 - 06:50 PM

hi wishing we missed seeing her by 10 days. we were due to go to fiji on 21st and but she passed away on the 12th. Had a good cry when I got home today. Just feel so desolate. Will things ever turn around.

Please be as relaxed as possible (i know easier said). I have a good feeling for you. Things will go well with your little one. Lots of love to you. xo

#699 clarisse83

Posted 27 December 2012 - 08:11 PM

Oh K, I'm so sorry to hear about your MIL, it's been such a tough year for you <3

Glamour I'm also sorry to hear your sad news sad.gif Much love xx

Bells freaking yay!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you, especially after such a sh*tful few months that you've had. Have my FX this is a sticky one for you.

Sunshiney you poor thing! I hope the MS leaves you soon so that you can enjoy your pregnancy (as much as you can).

AFM, nothing to report really. It's CD11 so I'm just waiting to O and hoping that it happens around CD14/15 like it did last month. No scans this month so I'm just going by OPKs. Having acupuncture tomorrow then off to the coast with my family for a few days as my brother and sister are both home for Christmas/New Years. Dreading going back to work in the new year!! Maybe I'll win the lotto tonight or on the 29th hahaha

#700 2puzzled

Posted 27 December 2012 - 08:52 PM

K - I am so sorry to read your news. Very sad and so much to deal with. I can't help but think all sorrows will be left behind you with the end of 2012 - 2013 will be your year. I hope for that very much. And for myself too.

xx

AFM nothing to report. Not TTC until the new year and the diving has been very disappointing! terrible visibility! hoping it improves over the next few days but if that's all I have to complain of at the moment then that is OK original.gif



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