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If you could go back to before you had your twins or triplets, what advice would you give yourself?


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#1 tilly121

Posted 11 August 2012 - 12:29 AM

Just sharing this new video from my AMBA club.

http://youtu.be/2B_Vkb_W2P0

My advice was to not worry about making bad habits and just do whatever gets you through today.


#2 Feral Madam Mim

Posted 11 August 2012 - 07:11 PM

Nothing really, I think we did pretty well, maybe tell myself to choose a different damn hospital as I wasn't very happy with my care where I was, but I knew what I was in for already as I had my ds1 at the same hospital.

#3 fillesetjumeaux

Posted 12 August 2012 - 09:11 AM

To listen to those who already have multiples, and accept that demand feeding two babies would NOT work in the long term.  Routine, routine, routine.  Easier on everyone.

#4 Blueskydreaming

Posted 12 August 2012 - 09:25 AM

Yep...agree...listen to advice from parents of multiples. It is gold.

And the "never wake a sleeping baby" rule does not apply when you are feeding two or more babies.

Seek out other parents of twins or homs. The shared experience, understanding and support from people who really know what it is like helps to get you through those long months in the first year.

#5 domestically~challenged

Posted 12 August 2012 - 09:44 AM

Great work, I love it *tear*

Watching that I realised twins look "normal" to me but baby triplets and I go all gooey blush.gif

Everything that was mentioned but I remember also saying just as you figure them out they up and change on you laugh.gif

#6 samusugiru

Posted 10 January 2013 - 01:44 PM

Organise help for when you get home from hospital-someone to take them out for a walk so you can get some sleep.Buy the best pram you can afford-preferably one that you can snap carseats in or bassinets so you don't wake them-all that extra sleep will be worth the extra money.

#7 samusugiru

Posted 10 January 2013 - 01:46 PM

and don't drive yourself crazy trying to put them on a routine- you don't need the stress and they often fall into a regualr routine by themselves. You're not a failure if your babies refuse to nap by the book or drink a full bottle.

#8 jess1980

Posted 10 January 2013 - 04:47 PM

I would of put my twins on a bottle from birth I struggled with breast feeding and it nearly broke me! Plus I'd probably would of hired and aupair to help with my older children for the first three months I pretty much have no help when my hubby is on shift was very stressful at the beginning

#9 Sal78

Posted 11 January 2013 - 02:42 AM

nothing really..asked dh and he said the same.

#10 mez70

Posted 11 January 2013 - 09:33 PM

That the first 5 years would be BLOODY HARD,,  but that we would all survive, we would all thrive and that the joy of milestones gets to be experienced twice...

Quiet twins are twins up to mischief (lol)

To follow my instinct more, I now in hindsight know I started my DD at school 12 mths too early for HER. Her twin was more than ready to go however she had suffered from long term health issues since birth as well as a developmental and communication delay. She was also very small and easily tired. I sent her as DS was ready and they are twins of course they go together. In hindsight I KNOW if she was a singleton she would have done a second year of kinder (plus extra 12 mths of EI therapy) so if I had my time again I would have held her back. She ended up being held back in grade 1 once she had made friends etc at school which was hard.  So just because they are twins or homs, if one is not ready then it is not wrong or cruel to hold them back.



#11 Threesacrowd

Posted 12 January 2013 - 10:51 PM

Join AMBA. I was in denial. It sounds stupid but already having a singleton and not wanting to typecast myself as a twin mum only I didn't join - I had this dumb / arrogant attitude of not wanting that to be who I was but now I look back I know I needed it for so many reasons. Our local area doesn't have a very active branch but now that the girls are 5, I sometimes wish I had of done it and I would have met heaps of people going through the same things as me and its too late now!




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