[FauxPas]

Okay, so the situation is this.

While I am studying for exams, DH decided to take DS on a long walk to a local shopping village with some nice shops.

DS had just woken up from a nap and had on his post-lunch clothes. A top (grey white stripe) with about 7 small but bright orange (pumpkin mash) lunch stains on the front and sleeves (he fell asleep right after lunch).

I wanted to change DS but DH was insisting that they go asap. I pointed out that he shouldn't take out DS in clothes which were in a condition that DH would not wear out himself and that a change of clothes would only take a few minutes (and that I would do it).

DH strongly insisted that he would not mind going out in clothes in the same condition as DS's clothes. (Background: DH is very conscious of his appearance and likes to look after himself - nice clothes, neat hair, well groomed - spends more time on this than me).

To avoid an argument (and demonstrate to DH that his arguments did not hold water) I went to the kitchen and brought back a tiny piece of mango. I then smeared the mango (small 5 cent piece size stain) on the front of his white tennis polo shirt - while he was distracted - so no holding down and forcing involved

DH thinks I am crazy for doing this and it was outside the realm of reason. He was appalled to say the least.

I say that, in the circumstances, it was a reasonable way to establish that he would not himself wear stained clothes (and therefore should not make DS wear them).

So what do you think? Would you have done the same? Is it a little loopy or a perfectly reasonable way to diffuse an argument?

**note: we are both having a good laugh about it but still disagree on approach. DH is now on a walk with a cleanly clothed DS and the mango stain rinsed out of his polo top

ETC: small typo

This post has been edited by FauxPas: 07/11/2009, 03:35 PM

[FreeRangeBabies]

That not crazy, thats hilarious

[Barefoot]

Not crazy, just the only way you could prove your point.

You were abvioulsy right as he rinsed his shirt and changed your DS. LOL.

[~Sultana Bran~]

Thats not crazy thats funny as!! you were proving a point and tell you the truth if i thought of doing what you did then i would have done it too.

[Guest_baggy_*]

It's funny, but I think you're a little loopy for doing it.

This post has been edited by baggy: 07/11/2009, 03:57 PM

[shauna+Molly+ Me]

Yep a little loopy but I like your style!!!

[BBlessed]

I think it's appalling behaviour from a grown adult and I'd be right ticked off if my husband did it to me. I'd also be disgusted if one of my children did it to another - I'd expect more from een my 4 year old!

I think you should have just done your study and let your son's father parent in the way he sees fit. Do you have control issues in other aspects of parenting too?

[jadach]

Great way to prove your point I think!! The only reason that I wouldn't do the same thing, is because I would be the one left doing the washing!!
Gave me a giggle for the day though.

[sassymummy]

I don't really know why there had to be a fuss made about what your kid was dressed in.

I know that I like my daughter to look nice when going out with her - but if someone else wants to take her out looking like a grot, it's hardly going to have any impact on my life.

I think I'd be pretty angry if someone smeared cr*p on my clothes. The kid is a kid, for a start. People are understanding of the mess kids made. It was also made whilst eating - it wasn't deliberate. The mess you made of your partners shirt was deliberate.

I dunno, I don't think you're a horrible person or anything, but I think that if you did that to me, I'd be p*ssed. So what if I wanna take out our child while it's looking a bit grotty? Not the end of hte world, and not worth staining more clothes for...

[Raisinette]

I don't think your crazy, I just think it was a silly thing to do.