Single, 51 and pregnant

Tracey Kahn is raising her daughter Scarlet and expecting another girl at age 51.
Tracey Kahn is raising her daughter Scarlet and expecting another girl at age 51. 

She's 51 and single, but Tracey Kahn isn't letting those hurdles stop her from having a baby.

The fiesty New Yorker is pregnant with her second child after conceiving thanks to IVF using a donor egg and sperm. And she dismisses critics who claim she is to old to have a baby, stating "honestly, I don't give a s....".

"I'm confident, attractive, successful in my career and own a $1 million apartment on the Upper East Side," the Manhattan publicist told the New York Post

Tracey after the birth of daughter Scarlet.
Tracey after the birth of daughter Scarlet. 

"One day, I'll likely meet Mr Right, get married, and my kids will have a loving father in their lives. It's 2014 - who cares about the 'traditional' order of things?"

Kahn said she always believed she would become a mother, but between her high-powered demanding career and hectic social life the time never seemed right during her 20s and 30s.

"It wasn't as if I lacked suitable boyfriends. When I was 33, I got engaged, but called it off three weeks before the wedding. The decision was mutual because, amid all the frantic planning, we realised we were incompatible," she said.

"After that, I had a string of long-term relationships with gorgeous, driven men whose Type A personalities matched mine. We'd discuss marriage and kids, but, for one reason or another, it didn't happen."

But then at age 45 Kahn accidentally fell pregnant to a man she had only been dating for a month. She was delighted about the pregnancy and planned to have the baby, but unfortunately miscarried at 7 weeks.

The sadness of losing the pregnancy made Kahn realise she yearned to become a mother.

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"By now, I was 46 and all I could think about was babies. (My) relationship ended, so I determined to go it alone, at least for the time being," she told the Post.

"I looked into adoption, but desperately wanted to experience pregnancy for myself. I craved the bonding that goes with carrying a child for nine months. 

"I had the money, the energy and the endless reserves of love to raise a child. Nothing was in my way."

What followed was five attempts at insemination using donor sperm. When that was unsuccessful, Kahn decided to undertake IVF using a donor egg and sperm. 

"The egg donor was a fashion major at Parsons - and, like me, Jewish, petite and from a big family," she said. "The sperm was donated by a tall, dark, sporty type with long limbs, beautiful eyes and almost a perfect SAT score. He was exactly the kind of guy I'd have dated in my 20s."

Kahn fell pregnant in the first round of IVF and gave birth to daughter Scarlett via caesarean on May 30, 2012.

When asked how she copes as an older mother, Kahn is honest about the fact her wealth helps ease the burden. 

"If anyone asks how I cope as an older mother, I'm honest about my strategy. I'm hands-on, but also an expert delegator," she told the Post. "Scarlett had a $350-a-day baby nurse for the first three months, and I now employ an amazing full-time nanny. Yes, it's expensive, but with a business with an annual $500K turnover, I can more than afford it."

Kahn underwent another round of IVF using the sperm and an egg from the same donors in order to give her daughter a sibling. Despite being a pregnant single mother in her 50s, Kahn has not given up on meeting Mr Right.

She also intends to make the most of her daughters' early years in order to make up for her age.

"The first 25 years with the kids will be great - I'm planning on lots of European vacations, and they'll go to the best private schools in Manhattan - but, yes, it will get harder after that," she said. 

"God willing, by the time I'm in my 80s and they're in their 30s, I'll have raised them properly with the help of a good man whom I'll meet and eventually marry."

Kahn insists she is not alone in her journey to become a mum after at her age, saying staff at Reproductive Medicine Associates of New York regularly treat women older than 50.  

Statistics support her claim, with figures from the US Centre for Disease Control and Prevention showing a nearly fourfold increase in the number of babies born to women aged older than 50 in the 10 years between 1997 and 2008. 

Closer to home, more Australian women than ever are having babies when they are aged in their 40s. In 2011, there were 12,800 babies born to women in over 40 - an increase from 7100 babies just ten years ealier. In the same year, 53 babies were born to women over 50.

And what will Kahn say if anybody asks if she is her daughters' grandmother when she drops them at the school gate?

"It could happen in a few years, though I'll probably have some work - probably a face-lift - by then," she told the Post. "'No, I'm their mother,' I'll reply proudly. 'And aren't they lucky?'"