Adoption & Fostering

Adopting a child in or out of Australia is far from simple

SYDNEY, AUSTRALIA - MARCH 25:  Simone Gardoni and her son Jack post for portraits on March 25, 2015 in Sydney, Australia.  (Photo by Christopher Pearce/Fairfax Media)

JUDITH IRELAND Australians have wildly different experiences on their journeys to adopting children.

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Lauren and her kids snuggle up in bed.

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Kari Wagner-Peck with hr husband Ward and their son.

Kari Wagner-Peck Everyone in foster care (and really in life) has something that makes them more vulnerable. We just know what our son's is.

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Please don't say I'm lucky because I was adopted

Shaaren Pine with her husband Scott and their daughter Arahv (Ara).

Shaaren Pine On the one hand I was having a regular life with friends and sports and sleepovers and school. But I was also always wondering: Did my mother love me? What was wrong with me?

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Nadeera, Mirilia and Sanjeeva will celebrate being a family for three years in December.

Nadeera Pathiraja When people comment on how lucky our daughter is we always say we are the lucky ones, as she has enriched our lives in more ways than we imagined.

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'My mother chose not to hold or see me after I was born'

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MICHAELA FOX Many adopted children feel like a crucial part of their story is missing. Two women adopted out at birth share their stories.

Government must set state adoption targets, Barnardos Australia says

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RACHEL BROWNE Australia's leading child abuse charity is calling on the federal government to introduce targets to encourage the adoption of children from foster care.

Helping a toddler embrace an adopted sibling

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Jackie Spinner A single parent by choice, I am preparing to adopt a second baby from Morocco. And I face a special challenge.

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Photographer captures the beauty of adoption

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Dennis Green The love of a family is usually tough to capture on camera. This is an exception.

Who will Australia's new adoption process really help?

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Patricia Fronkek At first glance, Australia’s changes to intercountry adoption sound fair. But there are too many unanswered questions about this reform agenda.

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Changes to intercountry adoption must put children’s needs first

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Patricia Fronek Tony Abbott has vowed to make intercountry adoption cheaper, faster, and easier. But will this really be a good thing for the children who are being adopted?

Mum and daughter reunited 77 years after adoption

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A 102-year-old woman has spoken about her joy and astonishment at being reunited with the daughter she gave up for adoption more than seven decades ago.

The Chinese parents who give their babies away online

An orphaned Chinese girl in a foster care centre in Beijing.

Lavinia Mo In China, expectant couples who are unwilling or unable to keep their children go to a special website to adopt their babies out, rather than aborting or abandoning them.

Our rocky road to parenthood, via India

Sunday Life. Sarah Salmon with her adopted children Sophea ,6, and Jasmine, 5..
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Sarah Salmon I've learnt that it makes no difference if your child is adopted or biological. It is the same kind of love.

More sick children to be adopted from overseas, government says

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JUDITH IRELAND Prime Minister Tony Abbott has said the government is taking steps to help more sick and disabled children be adopted from South Africa.

Adoption paved the way for love

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Julie Davis For me, the decision to adopt my baby out was fairly black and white. But reflecting on what has been, I think we've both been blessed.

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'Better than I'd imagined': 'Burger King Baby' finds her mother

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A woman who was abandoned in a fast food restaurant bathroom 27 years ago has found her birth mother, weeks after launching a worldwide search on social media.

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From 0 to woah: Couple welcomes triplets then twins in one year

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Melanie Mahoney A couple has had their dream of starting a family come true in a way they never would have imagined.

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The argument against relaxing international adoption laws

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Anonymous We have settled for the rhetoric that there are lots of orphaned children, and numerous parents who want to adopt them, so why not make the process easier? But that equation doesn’t necessarily add up.

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Law changed to make international adoption easier

Deborra-Lee Furness in the Queen Victoria Building, Sydney.

Letitia Rowlands International adoption became more straightforward today, thanks to changes to Australian law.

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Adopted twins find each other online

Separated at birth.

Two young women on opposite sides of the world have connected on social media and discovered they are twins.

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Growing up Asian in a white household

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Yeong Sassall Some people argue that cross-cultural adoption isn't 'natural'. But Yeong Sassall, who was adopted from South Korea into a white Australian family, begs to differ.

Indian children being trafficked for illegal adoption

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RORY CALLINAN Fresh evidence of Indian children being trafficked for adoption in Australia has emerged as the Abbott government flagged a boost in inter-country adoptions.

Abbott pledges to ease the way for Australians to adopt overseas children

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JONATHAN SWAN Tony Abbott says he wants to make it "much much easier" for Australian couples to adopt children from overseas.

Tony Abbott pledges adoption reform

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JONATHAN SWAN Tony Abbott wants to make it "much much easier" for Australian couples to adopt children from overseas, saying tens of thousands of babies could be brought to Australia from orphanages.

Why we need to adopt more

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Adoption laws are letting down children in out-of-home care, with only 100 children adopted in Australia last year.

'I'm angry I was adopted'

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I regret my adoption and wish I'd had the chance to grow up with my mother and my big brother. But I can't regret knowing my adoptive parents.

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Can Facebook find you a baby?

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Lauren Smelcher Sams More and more couples are turning to Facebook to find babies to adopt - but Australian couples aren't encouraged to do the same.

Deborra-Lee's plea for changes to adoption laws

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Deborra-Lee Furness has called for changes in global adoption laws so more abandoned children can find loving parents and homes.

Families mourn loss of adoption program

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CATHERINE ARMITAGE Families have been left heartbroken by the closure of Australia's Ethiopian adoption program in June, with one woman describing the loss as feeling like "a miscarriage after a five-year pregnancy".

'We have room in our hearts': Family adopts Chinese baby with cancer

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MELANIE MAHONEY Already parents to four children, Shelly and Hal White thought their family was finished. Little did they know that a little girl with cancer, in a Chinese orphanage, was destined to join their lives.

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Racism and adopted children

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Susan Murphy Susan Murphy adopted a child from Asia, and since then she has seen, first-hand, the horrible racism her son has endured.

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Evangelical overseas adoption

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AMY GRAY Meet the Christian blogger who wants you to contribute to her adoption fund. And she's not alone.

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Forced adoption apology: read the full speech

Prime Minister Julia Gillard during the National Apology for Forced Adoption, at Parliament House in Canberra.

Prime Minister Julia Gillard decried the ''shameful mistakes of the past'' as she delivered a national apology today to tens of thousands of families torn apart by forced adoptions between the 1950s and 1970s. Here is the apology speech in full.

The most beautiful adoption story you'll ever read

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AMBER ROBINSON In the mood for an uplifting story today? Read this tale of a baby found on a subway, then the amazing story of what happened next ...

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When your birth mum isn't thrilled to meet you

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Fiona Scott-Norman Fiona Scott-Norman was expecting a teary variation of "I had no choice" from her birth mother; instead she was told, "I was determined to get rid of you."

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Sweet 'newborn' shoot for adopted teen

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It looks like any other newborn shoot, but the subject isn’t a baby – he’s a 13 year old boy. And there's even more to it than that.

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Adopting your child's culture

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COSIMA MARRINER Adopting children from other countries comes with its own joys and challenges, and getting to know the culture of your child's native country is part of life for many adoptive families.

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Adopting from overseas should be last resort, adviser says

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COSIMA MARRINER Instead of making it easier for Australians to adopt overseas, more should be done to prevent international adoption, a federal government adviser says.

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'I kept asking for my baby and they kept telling me 'no'

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JOSEPHINE TOVEY Christine Cole was 16 when, heavily drugged and in agonising pain, her daughter was pulled from her body in a labour ward in Crown Street Women's Hospital.

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Katherine Heigl adopts baby number two

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Actress Katherine Heigl and her singer husband Josh Kelley have adopted a second child.

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Charlize Theron adopts baby

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Actress Charlize Theron has become a mother for the first time with the adoption of a baby boy.

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A new child for Angelina?

Angelina Jolie sent gossips into overdrive on Tuesday when photos of the actress carrying out her United Nations ambassador duties in Tunisia left them convinced she'd secretly adopted a fourth child.

Madonna facing legal action over Mercy

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Madonna is facing legal action from her adopted daughter Mercy James' Malawian relatives, who allege the singer broke a promise to allow them regular contact with the little girl.

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