Eva Amurri wants female vibes only for the delivery of her third child, saying her estranged ex husband Kyle Martino will not be present for their son-to-be's home birth.
The 34-year-old actress and daughter of Susan Sarndon, who is now 38 weeks pregnant, details the specifics of the impending birth on her blog Happily Eva After, admitting that it wouldn't "feel right" for her ex to be there at such an intimate and vulnerable time.
"Birthing this time without a partner has made me get in my own head a lot about whether I'm strong enough to do this. Birth is so emotional, and so I knew early on that having Kyle there wasn't going to feel right to me," she writes.
"Our intimacy level has totally changed now that we aren't a couple, obviously, and in order to really let go and allow labour to progress (especially with a home birth) it's so important to feel completely at ease in your body and support."
Amurri and Martino - a former soccer player and sports analyst for NBC - announced the pregnancy in September last year, and split two months later.
She writes that with the exception of her three-year-old-son Major James, the birth will be a female-only event.
"I've realised that having a strong female energy present at my birth this time is going to bring that for me. I've elected to have my female midwives, my awesome doula (also a woman), and some incredible girlfriends – who are all mamas as well,"
Daughter Marlowe Mae, 5, will also attend with her younger brother, an experience Amurri hopes will help shape them.
"I'm excited for them to witness the miracle of birth for the first time, and to hopefully take that experience with them forever as they grow into adults as well," she writes.
She says Kyle is on board with her decision, saying, "Kyle will, of course, meet his son directly after he's born (and we both feel good about this decision)."
The blog post is accompanied by pictures of a perfectly-designed nursery and son Sailor cuddling up to his mum and his baby brother's bump.
She admits that this pregnancy has passed her by in many ways as she dealt with the breakdown of her marriage and a divorce in amongst making sure her two young children felt "emotionally cared for and loved."
"I wish I could go back to the blissful ignorance of my first delivery," she writes. "I haven't spent a lot of time caring for my own needs or connecting to my growing baby. And I don't get to have that time back."
She continues, "In many ways, I hope this birth process with my third child can be one of releasing what 'wasn't' with this pregnancy, and connecting to the visceral parts of what this pregnancy is: the way to meet the divine and perfect human that my body created during the most chaotic time of my life."
Amurri and Martino, 38, have displayed support for each other during the separation and divorce process, with Martino recently posting a sweet Valentine's Day message to his ex.
"I thought today was gonna be really hard, and in some ways it is. But today I feel our unbreakable love for one another, he wrote. "I will always carry your heart, carry it in my heart. Love you Mama."
Amurri replied, "Awww this is the sweetest! So much love for you baby daddy! Can't wait to have another little one to both love on!"
Happy Valentines Day Mama!! 💗 I thought today was gonna be really hard, and in some ways it is. But today I feel our unbreakable love for one another. I’m proud of us for protecting that and modeling what love is for our children. Today helps remind us that there is a place in our heart meant for another, and it’s the place in our heart still meant for each other that makes that feel right. I will always carry your heart, carry it in my heart. Love you Mama.