The women who love giving birth

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Sex and The City star Sarah Jessica Parker has been quoted saying that she loved giving birth.

The mother of three gave birth once, to son James, who's now 14. (Her seven year-old twin girls, Marion and Tabitha, were born through a surrogate.)

When asked by The Edit magazine recently what she would relive in her life, she said: "If I could revisit one moment in my life, it would be the birth of my children, definitely.

"James is like, 'Why do you always want to talk about that?! And I'm like, 'Because it's the greatest!'

"There is this suspended animation around (birth): everything goes away; the entire world is sucked up; time suspends.

"It's just you and, in my case, my husband, and this child, and it's absolute euphoria."

Sydney-based mum, Caroline, also adored giving birth to her three children: five year old Samaira, two and a half year old Alysha and four month old Indira.

In fact, she loved being pregnant and giving birth so much, she says she "would do it again in a heartbeat".

The reason she treasured the experience was because of how "empowered" it made her feel, and the incredible sense of achievement it gave her.

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As she explains, it made her feel like a "strong Amazonian woman".

During her third birth, Caroline even remembers feeling like it was going too quickly, and "wishing it would last for longer!"

Mother of three, Susan, also gushes about her deliveries.

"If I could go back and just give birth, I would do it over and over again."

She says the atmosphere in her birthing suite was "amazing", with just her husband and her mother in the room.

There was lots of "laughter, good conversations and light" in that room, and she felt surrounded by love.

Though her births were painful ("they call it labour for a reason"), she says she forgot the pain the moment her babies were born.

Straight after the births, she says the feelings were indescribable.

"The depth of the love from the moment you hear that first cry and that baby is laid on your chest is unspeakable ... It's such a beautiful thing."

Queensland-based mum, Sally, can relate. She says it's not just mums who give birth naturally who love the experience.

She describes the birth of her second baby, Oliver, via a planned caesarean, as being a "calm" and "loving" experience which she cherishes as among her favourite moments.

While it's heartwarming to hear stories of women who loved giving birth, Dr Nicole Highet, psychologist and Executive Director of the Centre of Perinatal Excellence (COPE), says you shouldn't feel bad if you didn't feel the same.

Though some women cherish the experience, she says others don't.

"It's important to try and be aware of your expectations around birth," she says.

That's because, if you have really high expectations, you may be more disappointed if things don't go according to plan.

"Sometimes birth plans work, and sometimes they don't," says Dr Highet.

"Keeping an open mind is key to help you retain a sense of control and preventing unhelpful feelings."

If your birth doesn't go to plan, or if it turns out to be more painful or traumatic than you'd expected, don't beat yourself up.

No matter how your birth experience goes, she says: "Always remember it is not your fault".

But if you're pregnant and dreading the idea of having to give birth, don't be disheartened. You may soon be joining the ranks of those who count the experience as among their most treasured memories.

Did you love giving birth?

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