'Is it okay to leave sick baby with dad for the weekend?'

Should I go?
Should I go? Photo: Shutterstock

Kids have a knack of getting the sniffles just before you're about to head out on some much needed 'me' time.

For this mum, she started questioning if she should even go.

"Meant to be going on a city break this weekend with friends and family," she wrote on Mumsnet.

"Flight booked. 18mo has come down with a bug, hot, clingy, just not well.

"He doesn't sleep as a rule, won't accept DH (darling husband) at night, still feeds and I was desperately looking forward to a weekend away to SLEEP, have a drink, spend some time with a sibling whose having a hard time."

She also explained that the timing was right for her husband to get back into taking some of the responsibility of nighttime feeding, to make things a little easier for her on her return.

"Anyways I can't really put a sick baby through the stress of that, can I?" she wrote.

The answer was a resounding "yes".

Most responded that her husband would be more than capable to care for their baby – he was the child's father, not a 'babysitter'.

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And she needed to take some time out to recharge.

"The baby will be fine, his dad will be there. Off you go on your much needed break," one person wrote.

"No… you go… you need this… your baby needs a happy mum… this will make you happy. Dad is more than capable," said another.

While this mum made a great point: "Go! Babies survive and thrive through much, much worse. He has his dad, who is just as much as his parent as you and it'll force him to start stepping up to night comforting/give baby the chance to learn that his dad can comfort him without you rushing in. Enjoy yourself!"

Of course there were those who said they wouldn't go, not that they'd "judge her" if she did, which is the ultimate passive aggressive response.

However, mostly the other mums supported her decision either way.

Solid suggestions were pointed out that her husband was highly capable of stepping-up, and would find that role easier without her hovering.

"He will be fine, I had 3 under 3 and wouldn't have crossed my mind not to leave them with DH in a similar situation. They can never be as good at the caring stuff unless they're given space and opportunity," said one mum.

"Having your own space makes you a better parent. You'll go back with more to give. Being burnt out contributes nothing to the family. By going you're also showing your DH that you trust him to cope," said another.

And this gem sums it up: "It will be good for their bonding and good for your soul".