'I never imagined having a baby would make me hate my job so much'

The woman admits she hates being at work now she has a baby.
The woman admits she hates being at work now she has a baby. Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

'Mum guilt' is not an uncommon feeling, and although it can come from a variety of scenarios, going back to work after having a baby is often a catalyst.

One new mum of a seven-month-old boy is feeling so overwhelmed going back to work after maternity leave, she reached out to fellow mothers online for some support.

"I never imagined having a baby would make me hate my job so much," she said in her Reddit post, admitting that pre-having a baby she'd never really pictured herself as a parent and had "no burning desire to have kids."

"I always figured that I would be perfectly content to continue working if I ever did have children," she continued. "I've always had a strong work ethic and job loyalty."

The woman said she's had two jobs over the past eight years, and whilst she admits it wasn't her passion, she was happy enough to head into work each day.

"I wouldn't say I was ever really happy or satisfied with work, I was just able to keep my head down in order keep myself afloat, but now... now I have a seven-month-old," the emotional mother said. "I see him for one hour a day, at most, and I can't express the pain and regret I have from this, I have never hated my life so deeply."

Happy young father, mother and cute baby boy lying on bed

Happy young father, mother and cute baby boy lying on bed Photo: Getty Images/iStockphoto

"I don't know how people do this and I find myself breaking down every day," she confessed. " I just want to be with my family and son".

Although the internet can be a pretty dire place sometime, hundreds of users responded to the post offering the new mum advice and kind words.

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"I'm going to go back to work when they're in school. Absolutely nothing wrong with being a working mum if it WORKS for your family," one woman commented. "We budget accordingly, and it's been the best decision for me and my kids personally," she said.

Some suggested if she does have to work, she should see if she can reduce her hours.

"I would find a part time job or drop down to part time if you can," one user suggested. "I was not cut out for the juggle and it showed in my work and my home life. We have far less money and live very differently to what we used to, but all of us are happier for it."

The mother responded to the flood of comments, thanking people for sharing.

"Reading your comments really helps brighten my day when my sunshine has gone to bed and I'm alone with my thoughts."