These boys are growing up fast
After 2 months with the easiness of having parents around, things were about to change again… time for them to go back to Brazil.
My father seems rather worried that I would be home alone with the boys but I never felt so strong and confident. I have a little less than a week on my own until my in-laws arrive from England to stay for 2 and a half months with us.
During this short time life was incredible. I mean, I missed my parents because I love them dearly but I never felt so close to the boys. I am starting to learn lots about them and I am ready to do this on my own with hubbo. Felipe and Patrick are a so well behaved. Such calm babies. We must be doing something right here.
Slowly I am learning to read them so well, this is starting to feel good.
Once the in laws arrived there was barely any help needed with caring for the boys. Still, lots to be done in the house so once again we were very lucky to have so much help (and the boys to have grandparents around). Pat and Pete cooked for us every night – and unfortunately they are great chefs which means I started to put on all the weight I had already lost by now… oh well, I will worry with that later.
I am so thankful for the in-laws here helping with cooking and cleaning, it gives me more time with Felipe and Patrick.
Especially as people were always telling me how hard it was going to be. It’s nice to be finding out for myself, learning on my own how having more than one baby actually works.
It’s so funny, people see multiples on the street and say the usual “double trouble”, “wow, you must be a busy lady” “instant family!” etc… but people who say that are probably the ones that have not a clue and base that on their experience having one child.
For me, this is all I know, I mean, just seems much easier having multiples… funny isn’t it? I also think this is because I was really mentally prepared for 3 boys … at times I felt guilty to think 2 was too much work… I wish it were more work! I wish there were 3 boys to care for.. 2 are too easy.
Patrick and Felipe play with each other all the time (we have done some videos) - and included some funny subtitles for our amusement :),
You can check them here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mu7xKbRWY7Y
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvyvYOfPeYI
They are just so cool to have around. Last Saturday I left them both with hubbo (and went for a 5 hour pampering). When I came back Jon asked me: “Are they always that easy? I had them on their bouncers in the veranda and I spent most of the time just chatting, getting some laughs and playing music.”
Yes, those are our boys! :)
All my friends are impressed and I am such a proud mum but mainly, I am now more comfortable with them. I know my babies. I know when its time to sleep or eat, when is time to play and when it’s time to be quiet. After being so freaked out on how to deal with those boys I am becoming a super mum. I learned to listen to them, to look for the signs…. To believe more in myself and less on what people think or do.
Of course there is the occasional day that I just want to run away because nothing can make them stop crying, but those are very rare and becoming almost inexistent.
And obviously it was a long road to get here…I am just happy we are getting somewhere. Specially for a first-timer mum that kept waking them up on pram walks to see if they were still breathing… phew.. I can finally relax a bit.
Now I am usually surrounded by happy boys playing with their toys, giggling around and growing happily, everyday surprising us with something cute. (today they just started to blow raspberries :)
They are very independent. Since I could never have them both on my lap all the time they got very used to be on their own, they don’t cry for cuddles, or when mummy goes away, they are happy with any person around (or no one as some times they also have to stay on their own while I carry the other downstairs or give the other a bath)
I didn’t do this on my own. I had a lot of support. On top of the list comes my husband, an adorable man who always trusts me with my judgment about what to do and when, even if I say it was based only on my gut feeling. A man who helps me researching a thousand websites and books when we don’t know the answer, who wakes up many times over night for re-settling the boys, who reads them stories and sings them songs with his guitar.
Secondly, the adorable mums in my Mother’s group. Amazing girls that I am lucky have in this new life. I am proud to be in this group and it has been amazing to have them to share my worries, vent my frustrations, exchange baby food recipes and hear about their experiences.
Zoe, Clare, Rebecka, Chelsea, Kate, Narelle, Rachael, Shelley, Tina, Natasha, Seda and Sarah, you and your cute babies are all very special to me and to the boys. Thank you for the support, the tears and the laughs (and the cakes :)
And finally I am thankful to myself. For not believing everyone telling me how hard it would be, for being calm everyday and putting my vibe on everything I do, for learning to be a mum slowly in my own time. Loads to learn still but at least I finally feel comfortable with this stage.
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