Dad asks: 'Where are the baby changing facilities in men's bathrooms?"

Dads change nappies, too.
Dads change nappies, too. Photo: Shutterstock

Dads change nappies too, so why aren't there more change tables in men's toilets?

Clint Smith was so annoyed at the lack of facilities that he took to Twitter to air his grievances.

"Something that's really bothered me since we had a kid is how few men's restrooms have changing tables for babies. It 1) further perpetuates the notion that the burden of childcare should singularly be on the woman 2) assumes that men are never out by themselves with their kids," he wrote.

And he didn't stop there. He went on to say that while it was an "inconvenience to men" it reinforced the social expectation that women take care of everything.

"Becoming a dad has really demonstrated how profoundly our society is both socially & structurally set up to make it so that the burden of parenting falls primarily on moms & is set up to let dads off the hook. It's (a) million tiny things that continue to add up," he continued.

His tweets struck a nerve with women and men with it retweeted and liked tens of thousands of times, and receiving hundreds of comments.

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Commentators were big supporters of his statements about changeroom facilities and many were fed up with having to change their baby's nappy on bathroom floors.

My husband always made the point of finding the manager, while holding our child(ren), and asking what accommodations were being made for fathers who needed to do changes. And the mgrs were always surprised that any men cared," said one person.

"Related: even if there is a changing table in the men's room, the bathroom clip art for changing facilities is of a woman," said another.

While this person had an interesting point: "Or 3) the lack of changing rooms in the men's bathroom assumes that all men are sexual predators. The perceptions need to change. Putting changing rooms in men's bathrooms is one way to change all these perceptions. Desegregation of bathrooms is easier".

And others also expressed disappointment at being patronised while caring for their kids.

"YES. And calling it "babysitting" when Dad is in charge of childcare. It's called PARENTING and it's a 24/7/365 kind of job," replied one person.

"My wife had a week-long work trip right after our son turned one. I think people were genuinely concerned I was gonna end up killing one or both of us during this time. The bar is set way too low for fathers," said another person.

And this man responded: "You will see the double standard when you fly alone with your baby or small child. Everyone and their dog will be super supportive of you, help you, etc. If your baby cries everyone wants to help. Women get no support, are judged if the baby cries and fusses".

Clint went on to write that men get praised for doing basic parenting things.

He reckons it's time people lift the standards.